Thought about a BP?

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My BP is still a little up in the air, depending on who we have marry us and if I decide to incorporate all (or some) of my cousins.  But I do know that my MOH will be my best friend since second grade.  And we'll definitely incorporate our siblings.

PaigeMcC

I knew my BFF of 20 years was going to be my MOH.  It was something I just knew.  I couldn't imagine anyone else taking her place.  She's the person that belongs there. 

And I disagree with you, Cate - about it not being an honour to be asked to be in the wedding party  I have been extremely honoured to be included in my friend's wedding parties.  Weddings are an amazing and life changing moment in two people's lives and they want ME to be part of it!  I don't care how many dresses I need to buy or what amoung of bitch work I have to do...I am honoured that they felt close enough to me that they wanted me to have a special place in their day.  So, I suppose if you don't feel it's an honour then that's fine but I'd like to think that if I feel that way about being in my friend's weddings then they'd feel the same about being in mine.

calindi

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[QUOTE]I knew my BFF of 20 years was going to be my MOH.  It was something I just knew.  I couldn't imagine anyone else taking her place.  She's the person that belongs there.  And I disagree with you, Cate - about it not being an honour to be asked to be in the wedding party  I have been extremely honoured to be included in my friend's wedding parties.  Weddings are an amazing and life changing moment in two people's lives and they want ME to be part of it!  I don't care how many dresses I need to buy or what amoung of bitch work I have to do...I am honoured that they felt close enough to me that they wanted me to have a special place in their day.  So, I suppose if you don't feel it's an honour then that's fine but I'd like to think that if I feel that way about being in my friend's weddings then they'd feel the same about being in mine.
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I do totally get that, and I'm sure they are honored to be part of your wedding.  I'd simply rather include them in my day as a guest, without making them buy dresses and doing bitchwork. I just guess I don't see why it's necessary to 'honor' your friends at your wedding, and that they'd probably be more comfortable wearing a dress of their own choosing and comfortably seated.  We're getting to invite so few friends since we have such big families that I hope my friends feel 'honored' just to be invited to join us.

And I'm going to send out a special invitation to my closest friends inviting them to join me for a pre-wedding brunch and to help me get ready.  They'll be there to calm me down and those exciting pre-wedding moments, but I don't have to be choosey and hurt someone's feelings (which in my situation is inevitable) - I can have 20 people invited to brunch if I want!  Now that would be a crazy-big wedding party if they were all bridesmaids/bridesmen!