Things your BF/FBD/FI/DH does that drives you nuts?

katanne9

Hah!! My FI is the opposite of a little boy. I joke that he's an old man. He LOVES Brooks Brothers.

He LOVES wears suspenders, bow ties, cuff links and sweaters vests. He's a cute little weirdo.

jeanacorina

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[QUOTE]no one knows where it came from but whoever had it before him graciously cut the sleeves off already for perfect nipple exposure.
Posted by ekathleen684[/QUOTE]

ROFLCOPTERS!

You're "sure" or you "hope"?

Narwhal

i think that is adorable, kat.  I wish that BF would put outfits together.

ekathleen684

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Things your BF/FBD/FI/DH does that drives you nuts? : ROFLCOPTERS! You're "sure" or you "hope"?
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

I'm sure, his cuts wouldn't be that straight.

zaneopal

BF still dresses like the angry metalhead teenager he once was. Half his t-shirts are from one concert or another. Or they're college shirts.

He has nice clothes, but he's going into an industry where jeans and a polo are generally considered acceptable work attire. The trick is getting him into a polo shirt.

catemeg

Thank goodness for my Mother... every major holiday, she sends me out to buy clothes for my boyfriend and put it on the credit card.  Then she wraps it up and gives it to him.  He loves it because he doesn't have to buy anything and they're much nicer than the worn out crap he usually wears.  If it weren't for my Mom, he'd wear nothing but Marine t-shirts with holes in the armpit (how the heck does he get a hole in the armpit of EVERY SINGLE T-SHIRT?!), jeans with rips in the crotch and knee (trying to get him to buy a new pair... *headdesk*), and brown socks that used to be white with those *diamond hard crusties* stuffed into flipflops.

Also, he leaves the seat up.  Every single time.  And I've fallen in when I go to the bathroom in the middle of the night.  Four times now.

Oh, and he NEVER changes the toilet paper role!  He'll just put it on the back of the toilet.  He says he prefers it that way.

jeanacorina

BEST. THREAD. EVER.

FI also doesn't put the toilet paper ON the roll. He leaves it on the back of the toilet, or on the counter (which I can't reach from a sitting position, btw).

The reason for this is "my fault." I prefer the end of the roll to be in the front, not coming from the back. Does that make sense? You know what I mean? It comes from my mom, she's picky like that, too. She even used to fold the corners in so that you had a little triangle. and it looked so nice.

So, I blame Mom, and Josh blames me. Instead of risking putting the roll "backwards" and having me fuss about it, he doesn't put it on at all, so I can do it the "right" way.

I don't really blame him for that. My OCD caused the problem.

zaneopal

The toilet paper thing is more of a problem with my roommates and my sister than BF.

The worst part is that I often don't notice that we're out of TP until it is too late...grr...

musikbx

Sigh, the eternal toilet paper struggle. Boyfriend is clever, he's figured out that if he leaves *just* enough paper for one more use, than it will run out for me and I'll have to change it ;-)

He never does the dishes, but I almost prefer to do them myself.  If he does do them, he likes to stack them in the drying rack in an "artistic" fashion (his words) There is usually no way to disassemble the stack without something falling off and breaking. I'm starting to wonder if this was another clever ploy of his, designed to get me to do the dishes...

desertsun

I've given up on the TP war. Unless we have company, in which case I make sure there is a roll in its proper place in the guest bath. Luckily our counter is within reaching distance for me.

My FI also wears free gaming tshirts and has bought maybe ONE new pair of jeans in the FOUR years we've been together. 

He also thinks the dryer and the floor are intended for clothes storage. 

Oh, and take a peek at my ticker! TWO MONTHS! Eek!

katanne9

DESERT! I know!! I was just looking at that!

How is everything coming together??

ekathleen684

OHH The toilet paper! BF just leaves the empty roll. Sometimes when the "new roll" is out he will just grab another roll so there will not only be an emtpy on the roll but another empty on the floor next to the new roll with paper. There have been at least 4 empty rolls on the floor before.

He always puts the seat down...and the lid. I can't really complain about that, at least I'll never fall in

hetshup

I want to have TP “rolled over” and he likes it “rolled under” b\c the cat likes to unroll the whole thing. The cat that is on vacation out at the ranch at his parents b\c my roommate is allergic. He also uses SO much TP, I don’t understand it. I go through a roll in two weeks, he goes through a roll in four days. I seriously don’t get it. Also, he deep down is a clothes horse, but he wants to be slimmer to wear nice clothes. So come to the gym with me! Instead he wears his old waterpolo shirts with dirty sayings on the (We don’t blow til the fourth quarter; we always come with our little hats on). Yes folks, this is the man that is flying your around.

chipypony

1. I will come up with some brilliant idea or easier way of doing things and he will say, no thats not good. Half hour later, he comes up with this "great" idea...yeah that was my idea.

2. He complains when things are messy but he can't seem to keep things clean himself

3. The one that drives me the most insane, when he is over tired and stressed out he has will flip out for no reason. He tends to forget to do things earlier and waits until the last minute so I have to constantly remind him to get things done, and if he's cranky he has a mini meltdown. It kind of reminds me of the candy bar commercial where they say you aren't you when your hungry and they tell the guy to quite being like a diva? Yeah now I tell him "Quit being like a diva" when he's having a meltdown.

Other than that, he does all the jobs I hate to do and has even cleaned a few horse stalls, so I will keep him around. He even spent some quality time with my mom building her a dog fence at her new house.

PhilliesPhan23

I have to follow him around with a hand-held vacuum. He leaves a trail of crumbs EVERYWHERE no matter what or wear he eats. We have granite counter tops that are earth toned (lots of browns) so crumbs from bread, cereal, cookies, pretzels, you name it - camouflage themselves onto the counter tops, which is his excuse for not wiping them down. After a few days I have to get eye level with the counter tops and observe the little village of crumbs now thriving in my kitchen! I then clean the crumbs off until the next time the town resurrects itself.

I feel like Monica on Friends, screaming at Chandler about "crummies" as I chase him with my Shark Vac! Otherwise, he is fantastic and does his fair share of the housework.

desertsun

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[QUOTE]DESERT! I know!! I was just looking at that! How is everything coming together??
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]

Oh my goodness, I still have SO MUCH to do! But invitations are out! I can't wait for that first RSVP!!!

And, I finally have a florist, and I LOVE her. She's adorable. :) Still working on details, but we're going to have some awesome green cymbidium orchids, green hydrangeas, and ivory roses, which I think will look great against all the navy I have going already. (Navy blazers for the guys, navy dresses for the girls, and ivory tables with navy runners and napkins).

Her mom has a cake shop right next door, and was there during my appointment with the florist, so she came over and briefly talked cakes with me, and I'm pretty sure we'll go with her. Only one delivery fee if I book them both! 

We also finally booked our flights to Hawaii for our honeymoon!!!!

It all finally is hitting me and I'm getting so nervous and excited!

desertsun

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[QUOTE]I have to follow him around with a hand-held vacuum. He leaves a trail of crumbs EVERYWHERE no matter what or wear he eats. We have granite counter tops that are earth toned (lots of browns) so crumbs from bread, cereal, cookies, pretzels, you name it - camouflage themselves onto the counter tops, which is his excuse for not wiping them down. <strong>After a few days I have to get eye level with the counter tops and observe the little village of crumbs now thriving in my kitchen!</strong> I then clean the crumbs off until the next time the town resurrects itself. I<strong> feel like Monica on Friends, screaming at Chandler about "crummies" as I chase him with my Shark Vac</strong>! Otherwise, he is fantastic and does his fair share of the housework.
Posted by PhilliesPhan23[/QUOTE]

Ahahahahaha! Awesome. :)

Christi213

* He'll watch something he knows I want to watch too, without me. We'll see a trailer for a movie on tv that's coming out on dvd or something, and I'll rave about it for days "oh we have to see that movie, maybe we can do that this weekend" and then I'll come home from work one sunday afternoon and he's in the middle of watching said movie. He does this all the time! If I'm in the shower and he knows I want to watch a show with him, he'll start it instead of waiting for me to get out of the shower. I don't think he does it purposely to be inconsiderate, but I still can't stand it!

* When I have things to do, or places to be, I like to plan accordingly so I'm not rushed. He's the kind of person that can't really function until he's done his workout. All I ever ask for is a round-about timeline of when he thinks he'll be done working out, showered and ready to go. He won't answer, So then I'll explain to him that I'm not asking to rush him, I only want an estimated time of when we'll be leaving the house so I can make my plans accordingly. Regardless, he dilly dallys and waits until last possible minute for us to leave, then MY plans are cut short or rushed. Yesterday, at 11 am, I asked what time he'd want to go to the mall. He said "after I work out and shower"...."well when will that be?"  *shrug*  "ok, well I'd like like to be there at a decent time because I want to do my shopping before heading over to mom's by 6...so I don't want to just be getting there at 4:30"   No response. He procrastinated, then fiinally worked out and showered....what time did we get to the mall? 4:15. GRRR!!! But if it's something HE wants to do, forget it, we're there 2 hours early!

PhilliesPhan23

TP Tip: I have a little basket that sits on top of the toilet tank with a spare roll and some Febreeze air spray. The spare roll has saved me many times when BF neglected to replace the active role he finished. The Febreeze - well, that's self explanatory.

dwest2201

Shopping in general is his biggest downfall. 

When we started dating he had these casual brown shoes that he wore to work some days and out with jeans and a dress shirt often... after dating for a while he crossed his leg (manly-way with foot on other knee) and I saw the sole of the shoe had a crack in it.  The sole was cracked completely across and you could fold the shoe in half!  He said I've been meaning to get new ones because of that plus these hurt my feet because they are worn out but I hate shopping!  It took about another month for him to come up with a time to go to DSW where we found a awesome new pair that he loves! 

He also only had 2 pairs of jeans when we started dating... we went a few months back and he got 2 new pairs.  He has so few of some things yet has hundreds(literally) of t-shirts.  Mostly from high-school and college... some of his high-school t-shirts are mediums and larges and do not even fit.  He wears an xl for crying out!  So we discussed his insanely large collection of t-shirts taking up nearly all of his dresser space and us both down sizing our wardrobes since I'm moving in with him.  He got rid of maybe 10-12 shirts and put a huge box of "yard work/painting shirts" in the garage because he can't see getting rid of them.  I cracked a joke about how much yard work and painting did he plan on doing with all those shirts and got the evil eye... haha! 


Beyond clothes he only shops the grocery store when absolutely necessary because he hates shopping.  He will be down to very little food, last role of toilet paper and pulling the travel toothpaste out of his overnight bag before he goes.  He usually asks me to pick up a couple (10) things and pays me back instead of going even! 

noelle24

He's way more OCD than me.  Underwear, socks, and shirts have to be folded a very specific way, or he'll re-do them.  I tried to help him do laundry once, and he kept telling me that I was doing it wrong and then he'd re-do it.  So I promptly quit and just let him do it by himself.  I loathe laundry anyway, so that will be his job when we move in together.

**Mutley**

His clothes used to be a problem.  He didn't even have a dresser until I forced him to buy one.  Since I do the laundry now, his clothes are all organized.  Plus I throw out items that have seen their day. 

He doesn't close the shower curtain in the morning.  I don't like for the liner to be all bunched up because then it cannot dry out as quickly. 

He revs the dogs up when he gets home.  He wonders why they jump on him and not on me.  Well, I have them trained to go lay down on their beds before I give them lots of attention.  He starts saying "HIIII PUPPIES!!" as he walks in the door and then they proceed to jump on him and fight for his attention.  We are working on this.  He knows he needs to get it in check before Mr. Man arrives. 

I am trying to come up with some better (worse) things but I am all mushy lately.  I'll let you know when my hormones swing the other way.

katanne9

I think it's hilarious that all of you pay so much attention to the toliet paper.

I don't think I've ever noticed how it hangs.

Christi213

Mutley,   You just described my boyfriend!  On any given day, the house can be quiet, peaceful, chores are done, I'm relaxing and the dogs are napping....ahh tranquility is so nice! And then he walks in the door ....RIVER!!! ALICE!!! and all heck breaks loose. It's quite ridiculous.

His clothes, are in a storage bin in our room...even after I offered half of my dresser to him. I also have an extra dresser in our basement that he's more than welcome to use, but he doesn't want to "rearrange the room too much".

And don't even get me started on the shower curtain!

jeanacorina

Aww, but it's so CUTE the way they get pets wound up. They (guys) need that immediate love and attention every day!

FI does that sort of things to the cats. So do I. We walk in the door telling them to "scoot" because both kitties are always RIGHT THERE waiting for us to get home. If they go too far, though... we'll say "KIttens! Where's the kittens? Where's my kittens????" and they come running and meowing and rolling all over to get belly rubs.

D'awwww.

Of course, cats are not large dogs. Sooooo... if they jump on the arm of the couch and put their paws on my shoulder I don't get knocked on my ass.

**Mutley**

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[QUOTE]Aww, but it's so CUTE the way they get pets wound up. They (guys) need that immediate love and attention every day! FI does that sort of things to the cats. So do I. We walk in the door telling them to "scoot" because both kitties are always RIGHT THERE waiting for us to get home. If they go too far, though... we'll say "KIttens! Where's the kittens? Where's my kittens????" and they come running and meowing and rolling all over to get belly rubs. D'awwww. <3 Of course, cats are not large dogs. Sooooo... if they jump on the arm of the couch and put their paws on my shoulder I don't get knocked on my ass.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

Yes, it is the getting knocked on your ass thing that makes it not so great.  I love that they are so appreciative when we get home.  I love their kisses and cuddles.  I am more so concerned about them learning how to contain their excitement with the little guy on the way.  Klaus could very well be 80+lbs.  He is not even 6 months old right now and already weighs more than Zoe (despite her being much taller.)  He needs to learn that jumping up on someone is not okay.  Zoe knows it is not okay but also knows that she can get away with it when it comes to DH.  <a href="#" title="Click to view a larger photo" onclick="return gSiteLife.LoadForumPage('ForumImage', 'plckPhotoId', '2f6cfee6-ad84-44e1-8aa8-ee4808af22df', 'plckRedirectUrl', gSiteLife.EscapeValue(window.location.href));"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/15/10/2f6cfee6-ad84-44e1-8aa8-ee4808af22df.medium.gif" alt="" /></a>
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ashleybombshell

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[QUOTE]He is a Chatty Cathy and it takes FOREVER to leave a room because he could have a conversation with a wall.
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>I feel your pain on that. My FI talks forever, and half the time it's just needless rambling. You cannot get off the phone with this man. He has to go over everything he did that day and everything he's going to do once he gets off the phone. Even in the shower - oh my god. He'll get in the shower, which only takes him five minutes anyway, and he'll make me stand in there so he can talk to me, even though I can hear him just fine from the next room. No. I have to be IN the bathroom.</div><div>
</div><div>He leaves his socks everywhere. You always know which room he was in last because of the socks.</div><div>
</div><div>He puts his dirty clothes in FRONT of the hamper.</div><div>
</div><div>He's one of the worst pack-rats I know. Won't throw out anything because it's "important" or "he might need it" or it's just "too cool to get rid of". He has wide leg blue pants with glow-in-the-dark piping (yes, I'm totally serious) that <strong>don't fit,</strong> dozens of junky pocket knives, old notes from college classes, and tons of other useless crap that I couldn't pry out of his cold, dead hands. Ridiculous. Half of our clutter is his old junk that we just can't throw away.</div>

amandasz618

He says "huh" after every question I ask him, before he answers. Literally every question. Makes me want to jump off our balcony.

Repeats things..for instance if I say, "It's hot outside." He replys, "It's hot outside?" Like yes crazy...that is what I said lol.

trinalo

FI is so messy! He leaves crumbs on the counters and tables, and never remembers to throw stuff away- when he opens his mail he'll leave it and the ripped up envelope sitting in the counter. He hates doing dishes. And when he gets home at the end of the day he immediately takes off his socks and throws them on the living room floor. And leaves them there. Sometimes they end up wedged in the couch cushions.

And he never changes the TP roll.

But I'm sure if you asked him this question he's day that I spend too much time cleaning. Haha.

teeniballerini

My bf has to pull on the handle of all 4 car doors to make sure it's locked because he doesn't trust the remote.  Before I knew about this, I would get out of the car and start walking leaving an awkward amount space between the two of us.  To fix this I started checking the doors on my side of the car when I get out.

I'm not sure if it's the action itself or if it the fact that I'm participating in it that I find more annoying.