Things your BF/FBD/FI/DH does that drives you nuts?

tafft1

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[QUOTE]LOL @ big boy clothes. FI has only ever worn free video game shirts we got from working at GameStop, or shirts with comic book characters on them, and ratty old CARPENTER JEANS. Seriously, he dresses like he's 12. I finally took him to Old Navy before our engagement pictures and got him two plain t-shirts in bright colors (1 blue, 1 orange) and a pair of nice jeans that look really good on him. We tried like 3 different styles of jeans to find the best ones. He was really, surprisingly receptive to the process. He admitted that he probably needed to "grow up" his wardrobe a little.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

My FI and  him could be brothers , haha. FI owns 2 pairs of jeans - one super faded pair of black ones and blue jeans that look great on him. I keep threatening to throw his faded ones out and when I point new jeans out..he gets all scared but he looks good in alot of different styles. I especially adore him in any button down shirt or a polo *swoon*

He works IT for the Sherrifs Office so he has to be professional 5 days out of the week so when it's his off time he does the video game shirt and jeans..Though at least he has been also receptive and supportiove of me helping him update things , it's a slow ongoign process lol.

One thing that drives me INSANE , is the garbage can is in our kitchen , go figure and its always emptied and has room , so what do I find ? Open frozen dinner boxes or cans or something garbage related sitting on the counter less than a few feet from the garbage , just wtf ? Everytime it happens now I point it out and he defends it by saying " But I got most of it in the trash" , so if you took the time to put part of it in there..why not the rest..ahhh! He's lucky I love him so much..

kelmal

What a great topic...and a nice distraction for tonight!

(1) He is never on time for ANYTHING! After 5 years together I am starting to adjust and have begun telling him that things start earlier than they do...but he's catching on to that!

(2) He refuses to use the top sheet on the bed and gets grumpy when I put on clean sheets and include the top sheet once in a while because I like it.

(3) He is like the little girl in "Signs" and leaves half drunk glasses/bottles of water EVERYWHERE.

soontobemrsgee

I cured the sock thing...one weekend while my fi was at work I did his laundry for him ( he thought it was a favor...lol) and I threw out all of the socks with holes in them. If they aren't there then he has to buy new ones!

pandabearrr

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[QUOTE]FI leaves his dirty clothes in a pile next to his side of the bed.  It piles up for a few days until I either A) trip over it and complain to him B) guilt him into putting in the basket or C) pick it up myself.  Normally I would just grab it and throw it in the basket BUT he's started pushing it under the bed now so I don't even see it til it's HUGE! 
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]

I think every man was put here to NEVER put their clothes in a laundry basket and every woman was around to have it drive her nuts until she picks it up!

jmneuman

I love my BF dearly buuut...

1) He is always trying to get ME to buy new clothes. I don't wear the same thing every day, and I don't wear anything with holes in it, why do I have to replace them?

2) He will only clean out his car if I have a hissy fit about it. I'm sorry, but if your backseat is covered with music books, water bottles, and bags from fast food restaurants - it needs to be cleaned!

3) He is always late. Usually only about 5 minutes, but always late.

cutie02girl

He repeats me everytime I ask a question... "why did you leave the clean clothes in a pile on the bed and not fold them?"... him:"why did I leave the clean clothes in a pile on the bed and not fold them?...well b/c..." Ahhh you heard me, just answer!!

He just throws everything together when he does laundry... doesn't separate jeans from anything else either! I hate when jeans are washed with anything other than the rest of the jeans!! And he hates when I put a small load in b/c "what a waste of water".... omg!!

He talks talks talks talks talks. I love him to pieces but everything gets repeated. If we see a friend who may not have heard his new rehlm of stories, he MUST tell them again... he's the center of attention everywhere we go, which is fine, he's seriously loved by everyone but AHHH let someone else talk, without another story coming up!!!!

And he's a pack rat too... can't get rid of any of his old clothes. Last month I left work early and went home and disposed of 3 baskets of old clothes... Goodwill needed them!! Afterwards he said, 'I can't believe you got rid of my basketball shorts, I've had them since high school!' Yeah, exactly, and you haven't worn them since when? Point proven.

But he says thank you for everything I do around the house, he tells me I'm amazing even for the smallest things, and I secretly LOVE doing little things for him b/c I know how much he'll appreciate them. I like to feel 'needed'. He's great when it comes to doing things I despise (ie:cleaning the garage) and he says "you're so cute" when I whine b/c I realllllly don't want to do something. So I suppose I can live with the rest of his querks. I love him.

AnneAndJJ

BF currently owns 4 pairs of boxers. FOUR (he had 5 last week, but the elastic fell off one pair so he had to trash them)! And every single one of them is on the verge of disintegrating. He will not buy new ones. I'm going to have to now that he has less than a week's worth, because otherwise he'll start wearing them more than one day, and he's a carpenter, so that's exceptionally gross.

He doesn't pick up his clothes, they just pile up. And he doesn't put away laundry, he just picks out of the basket. I end up cleaning up after him, cause I can't stand it. He will do wash sometimes though.

I don't like the way he washes dishes, but I'm learning to live with it. He doesn't rinse them, so everything is always a bit soapy. BUT, at least he does the dishes, and without complaint, most days. We're fair in house work.

becca846

I'm glad I'm not alone with the plague of disgusting socks...luckily he doesn't sleep in them do I don't have to fish them out from the bed sheets haha, but what I don't understand is why when you have FOUR LOADS of pure sock laundry you can't throw out a holey pair...I mean is he afraid to only have 3 loads?

another thing that drives me up the wall is his indeciveness, or his overall lack of excitement about anything. We're taking a two week road trip vacation out west this summer and anytime I bring it up it's one word answers and he looks like all happiness has been sucked out of him (but maybe that could be becuase i'm an anal planner and he's fly by the seat of your pants)

oh the T-shirts, he has more "talking t-shirts" (becuase every single one of them has to have some stupid saying on them) than I have clothes haha, and he hangs them up, his t-shirts take up 7/8 of the closet, i'm only allowed to hang up my dresses haha.

snarky_girl

You guys crack me up!! I'm a sock hole ripper too. Though I also have no problem doing it to his underwear when there are holes in them and he refuses to throw them out! 

My FI's sock problem is that he loves his black socks that go up to almost his knees. He thinks they go with everything - even river sandals. Uh-no. I broke my dad of that years ago. Now I have to redo the process on my FI! When we go to the gym, he just folds them down. (Remember how you used to do that in elementary school before there were ankle socks??) I bought him ankle socks (in black even) and asked him to give them a shot. He said they make his legs feel naked. I've just come to realize that he's going to rock his geek socks and now I just have to chuckle whenever I see it. 

Since the only other thing he does that drives me slightly nutty is use my towel on "accident" sometimes, I'll live with it. He treats me like I'm a queen and only wants to make me happy. I've got one of the most amazing guys and I definitely know it.

sophs_ro

Haha, i love this thread!!

My FI does the pots (he's very good at doing the pots!! can't complain there!) but then he doesn't empty the dirty water. I mean why? The pots are done, they're drying on the rack, pull the plug? No, walk away.

Oh and constantly leaves the fridge door open. lol.

Sunshine5978

Such a funny thread!  Love it!  I started reading this when I was on the phone with mine and started cracking up (didn't tell him about what thought)!

I love him more than anything and can't wait to marry him, but:

1) He never carries a wallet.  He transfers money from cargo shorts pocket to cargo shorts pocket.  You would think after losing a $100 bill for the second time, he might break down and get a wallet - NOPE!  So, imagine my surprise when he lost $100 for the THIRD time! :-)  As he was frantically looking for the money, I just kept my mouth shut and smiled sweetly at him!

2) He has a similar issue like the famous sock problem on here, but its with his underwear.  Really, why wear any if they have that many holes in them??  I tried buying him new ones, but "they don't fit right" or "the other ones are just getting broken in".   :-)  Why do men always have to break things in for 10 years?  It takes a couple days to break in our new shoes!

3) He is not a plumber, but has  . . .wait for it . . .constant plumber's crack showing!  Really . . .and he even wears a belt daily!  Pull the belt tighter honey!  I don't mind your cute behind, but I don't think everyone wants to see it :-)

The toilet paper thing I've given up on - I'll just change it :-)  Much easier that way.

Also, when it comes to the laundry piling up on his side of the bed, I just leave it there.  It works out because at some point he will want to wear something that has been thrown in his "hamper," but shockingly, it's dirty!  So, when he asks me if it's clean, I ask him if it was in the real hamper :-)  100% of the time, his answer is "no."  Well, then I guess you better wash it honey :-)

Gotta love 'em!

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betsylynn

1. If I ask him a question, and he either a) does not know the answer or b) knows I won't like the answer, he just won't answer. Or it will take him about ten minutes. I have seriously asked "Hey, do you want a hot dog?" gotten no reply, went and sat down, and then he randomly said "Yes, I want one" FIVE MINUTES LATER. Argh. His dad did this too, so I guess it's hereditary.

2. He does the hole-filled sock/underwear thing too. Sometimes I go over to his apartment and do laundry just so I can toss out all the brown socks and holey boxers. I get points for being an amazing GF, and I don't have to see those gross socks anymore!

3. He is obsessive about dishes going in the dishwasher. Not washing them or running the dishwasher, mind you. Just putting them in there, One day, after eating dinner on the couch, I set the plate down on the floor with the intent of putting it up during a commercial. Josh freaked. Nevermind that I just mopped HIS floors he got muddy, cooked HIM supper, and was doing loads of HIS laundry. Needless to say, he's gotten better about the dishwasher thing- slightly.

I'm almost curing him from the toilet seat thing. We've walked inside a couple of times, for him to run immediately to the bathroom just to "make sure" everything is down. So he tries, bless his heart, but I'm still throwing anything with holes in the trash!

katelym_questad

My FH takes about 2 minutes to get ready for anything and i  am the kind of girl who has to try on everything to find something to wear. When i am getting ready he likes to stand by the door and ask me every 4 seconds if i am ready to go yet!!! DRIVES ME NUTS!!!! but he is a great guy no the less and he is all mine!!

JennaV26

He criticizes me for not keeping my apartment spotless but then he leaves water bottles everywhere. And, stereotypically, he always leaves the toilet seat up.

vencela

He wears his shoes all over the apt, and leaves them in the middle of a room when he takes them off.  I'm not even close to being a clean-freak, but we live in NYC, and our shoes step in some unmentionable things  It really drives me crazy when he walks on our nice rugs with them. The wood floors are so much easier to clean than the rugs are! 

In general, he's amazing. He does dishes, cooks, scrubs, changes litter, does laundry, and is all around awesome!

snarky_girl

LOL .. I totally forgot the shoe thing. Mine leaves his (size 13s and black of course) in the middle of rooms or in places I wouldn't expect to walk into them. Like in the natural pathway to our bathroom. The shoes are like stealth boats in the middle of the night! It's like the whole purpose of them is to cause me to trip on the way to the bathroom in the middle of the night!! I don't know how many times I've stumbled, smacked into the closet door and only have him say "What? What's going on?"
I of course mutter something about leaving his dang boats on his side of the room ... 

nicolepmarinelli

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[QUOTE He also only wears tshirts and cargo shorts. He got some extra money in his paycheck the other day and said that he was going to buy new clothes.  I asked him what he was getting and he was like "I'll just order some more tshirts online." I then asked him if he's considered some big boy clothes.  He got mad.
Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]

This is my FI exactly, t-shirts and these ugly green cargo shorts. I hate those shorts so much. They are so old and ratty and they smell bad even when they are freshly washed, but he refuses to wear any other shorts because everything else is "uncomfortable." My mom bought him a new pair of jean shorts once, but he only wears them when I force him to. I tried hiding his green cargo shorts, but he just got really mad at me for it. Haha, wasn't trying to be mean, but...

AerikaAwright

Ok here goes

1. My FH is the world loudest eater/drinker. Seriously even with his mouth closed I can hear him eating and when he drinks he gulps audibly.

2. He uses our countertop as a desk/mail center/whatever else. I clean off our counter top(which is supposed to be a breakfast bar) and he piles it up. Currently is has an assortment of random objects including chocolate truffles, an empty seltzer bottle a wine glass and a bag of coffe...I can clean this off today and when I come home it will be full again.

3. He has a little stand right inside the store way specifically for "a place to put stuff" when he gets home. When we move into or new house we will NOT have one of the tables on the foyer.

there's more but I guess those are the major ones

Revangel

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[QUOTE] 3. The one that drives me the most insane, when he is over tired and stressed out he has will flip out for no reason. He tends to forget to do things earlier and waits until the last minute so I have to constantly remind him to get things done, and if he's cranky he has a mini meltdown. It kind of reminds me of the candy bar commercial where they say you aren't you when your hungry and they tell the guy to quite being like a diva? Yeah now I tell him "Quit being like a diva" when he's having a meltdown. Other than that, he does all the jobs I hate to do and has even cleaned a few horse stalls, so I will keep him around. He even spent some quality time with my mom building her a dog fence at her new house.
Posted by chipypony[/QUOTE]

This is totally my FI. Related to that he gets cranky with me when it's not my fault, and brings me into an argument. It's not fair and kinda childish.
Apart from that I love him dearly, and we get along really well and even better when we are living together. He just need to learn to relax. There really is nothing else I find annoying about him (yet haha).

....oh except him having long nails....that's just weird in a guy. He just never remembers to cut them.

just_elope!

This is awesome.

My guy barges through people's photos. We live in DC, so there's always some dad trying to line everyone up and take a photo of the fam in front of the Capitol (which is on the way to our brunch spot). Unfortunately, my guy never notices or goes around, so he's made inadvertent cameos in many a stranger's vacation photo. He's like the Where's Waldo of Washington.

It's funny, but it's also really aggravating - is it so hard to be aware of your surroundings and stay out of the way?

jeanacorina

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[QUOTE]He's like the Where's Waldo of Washington.
Posted by just_elope![/QUOTE]

That cracked me up! LOL

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brit_bell90

He speaks really really loudly everytime he's explaining something, or knows a lot about a certain subject.

Ugh, and everytime he talks to someone about farming he starts talking like a hick. I want to hit him and tell him that the word "doesn't" exists, and that the word "don't" does not belong in ever effing sentence. Example; "That don't make sense." should be translated to "That doesn't make sense."

I also can't stand him when he eats food loudly.

babyhunbun7

the most annoying this to me is that he clips his nails everyday...wtf.  i mean how much can they grow in 24 hours.  and its like a million little clips, i hate that sound.  oh and he wont wear anything that is not a dark earth tone, but he is partially color blind so its more fear for him.

karmellah

David picks his nails. That tic tic tic noise drives me up the wall. he does it 24/7. i'll give him "the look" he'll stop for 30 seconds. he thinks its funny.

His sleeping habits. When he has to go to work at 2am, he goes to sleep at 11. etc etc. He'll lay down for a nap and it takes me 4 hrs to get him up.

He puts ketchup on mashed potatoes.