Diamond or Different?

catemeg

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[QUOTE]For the better part of a year, BF has known that I want a cushion cut moissanite as my centre stone in my engagement ring.  I do realize that my shape preference may change when I go and try on rings, but I'm pretty adament about getting a moissanite instad of an over-priced diamond.
Posted by Bec20[/QUOTE]

That's fine - trying them on isn't going to change your ideals, just perhaps things will look different on your finger.  I can't imagine a diamond would look cheaper or less like a diamond!
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But yeah, try them on!  I know for me, putting rings on my finger totally changed my idea of what I wanted in a setting.  Plus things I never thought about (like how deep or high off my finger the diamond is set) became very obvious.

leia1979

Summer, I think you and I have some similar tastes in jewelry. I have found some places that have nice engraved styles in white gold. If you get 14k white gold, it should be harder, but palladium also sounds like a good choice from my reading.

You might also consider a custom design. Brilliant Earth has does custom design and has some nice examples on their site. I have to run, but I'll post the link later if you need it.

ETA: Here's the link: http://www.brilliantearth.com/custom-engagement-rings/
Page through their gallery. You'll see some interesting designs.

Bec20

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Diamond or Different? : That's fine - trying them on isn't going to change your ideals, just perhaps things will look different on your finger.  I can't imagine a diamond would look cheaper or less like a diamond! But yeah, try them on!  I know for me, putting rings on my finger totally changed my idea of what I wanted in a setting.  Plus things I never thought about (like how deep or high off my finger the diamond is set) became very obvious.
Posted by catemeg[/QUOTE]

I'm fully expecting to like something I don't think is my style once I try things on... for all I know, I'll end up with a round stone after wanting a more square/rectangular one!  I'm looking forward to trying rings on, but I think that BF wants to wait until closer to when he figures he'll be proposing according to our rough "timeline" of sorts.

I hadn't even thought about the height of the stone on the ring.  Though I suppose it does make sense to have different heights for different lifestyles and preferences.  Choosing a ring is starting to sound more complicated than I was expecting it to be.  Maybe I should start shopping now to figure out what I like.  (Kidding, of course.)

HobokensFury

I have a diamond and it's what I wanted.  I love other gemstones but I personally couldn't see my engagement ring with anything other than a diamond.

It's actually very difficult to buy a "Blood Diamond" with all the new rules and regulations.  So it wasn't even a concern of mine.

Narwhal

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[QUOTE]I have a diamond and it's what I wanted.  I love other gemstones but I personally couldn't see my engagement ring with anything other than a diamond. <strong>It's actually very difficult to buy a "Blood Diamond" with all the new rules and regulations.  So it wasn't even a concern of mine.</strong>
Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]

That's incorrect, but whatevs.  Where do you think your non-Canadian diamond came from?

Goldlie11

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[QUOTE]<strong>When one of the ladies at the jewelry store (I will NOT call her a jeweler) found out I was considering the sapphire ring I had on my hand for a wedding ring, she was like "uhhh what if it doesn't match what you're wearing?"  I consider jewelry stones like blue jeans.  </strong>No, blue doesnt match with everything, but your marriage jewelry is a staple and will "go" with whatever you wear. I did go look at some rings with a friend of mine the day after BF and I went shopping ourselves.  We happened to be at the mall and went in and tried some on, but I felt kind of.. dirty doing that without him.  The first time I tried some on, I was shaking a lot too, but then after a few I got more confident with it. The important thing to remember if you're choosing a nondiamond is that you have to own it.  Some people will make rude comments, even at jewelry stores where they're trying to make a sale.  One lady made me feel like a cheap date because I told her I didn't like diamonds. BF had a good comment to the " I bet you just haven't found the right diamond... " line.  He said "No, she's trying to find out what she likes.  She will get what she wants, not something someone has to convince her to like."
Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]
I find this so rude.  I seriously can't stand sales people like that.  I love my ring, but I drool over sapphire engagement rings.  I haven't seen one that I don't like.

Narwhal

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Diamond or Different? : I find this so rude.  I seriously can't stand sales people like that.  I love my ring, but I drool over sapphire engagement rings.  I haven't seen one that I don't like.
Posted by Goldlie11[/QUOTE]

It was really rude, but that was the least of the comments that woman gave me.  Ughhhh

summerrose1987

After my experience with shitty "jewelers" today, I've decided to look into customizing my own ring!  I found the perfect two rings to morph together and make a Me Ring  I sent a description of what I want to Knox Jewelers and am now waiting to get the free quote.

Cosmocity

I wanted a princess cut diamond ring with ruby or sapphire accents. My (then) boyfriend said "no way!", well he ordered my diamond e-ring online, it however did not make it down to our trip where he was going to propose. So he ran out to an antique shop in Duck, NC...guess what I ended up with afterall? Yep, diamonds and sapphires!

bethsmiles

I think its interesting some of your BFs had such strong opinions on the engagement ring. I'm sure if I had never said anything my BF would get me a diamond but he's never questioned me wanting a sapphire. I wonder why some guys think it has to be diamond. I guess probably all the diamond commercials they've seen on T.V. since they were little lol.

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]I think its interesting some of your BFs had such strong opinions on the engagement ring. I'm sure if I had never said anything my BF would get me a diamond but he's never questioned me wanting a sapphire. I wonder why some guys think it has to be diamond. I guess probably all the diamond commercials they've seen on T.V. since they were little lol.
Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]

I think you're right, Beth. A lot of guys I know have given into the stereotypical engagements- my BF told me not too long ago that he thinks an engagement ring should cost 3 months salary because "that's the rule!" (which he learned from his NEY friend haha). I corrected him that it really doesn't matter, but I had to resist not nodding along in agreement ;) 3 months would make a niiiiiice ring! But those "rules" that it must be x dollars and a diamond are stupid.

Summerrose- I think a custom ring is a great idea! My cousin did that for his wife, and she loved it! They both did actually :) I think it's a really sweet idea.

Also, heirloom rings are fantastic. I just think they look so pretty, and I love the sentiments behind them. It's neat to think of all the history in a ring.

summerrose1987

Based on what I'm designing, I'm kind of scared it'll be expensive.  None of the stones are big (I like smaller "rocks"), but the metal work and the stone work... well, it just could be pricy... o.O  I hope not, because as I design, I'm falling more in love with the ring!

BF's have silly ideas of what e-rings should/should not be/cost.  The other night though, I did hear a guy say "Isn't the ring supposed to make her happy?  I mean, that's the point, right?"  And I laughed because he was questioning the correct answer!  So many guys just think, 3 months salary + diamond = happy fiance.  WRONG!  Make sure you know what she'll like, guys, duh!!!

Sorona

Have you seen Brilliantearth.com? They specilise in conflict-free Canadian diamonds and saphires, and donate some of their profit to an African charity. The only problem is that you have to buy online, but check out the reviews, people seem to love 'em!

I personally wouldn't like any other stone but diamond. I like the traditional aspects, as well as the durability. And wow, do they sparkle!