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Can I join you ladies again?

Hello, ladies.  I used to post here as minskat30 I think but can't find my password.  I stopped posting a while back because I couldn't take wedding stuff combined with my dad being sick.  He passed away last week and I think I could use the emotional support what with getting married in a month and a half.  I'm sad, I'm angry, I'm tired, I'm confused, I want to be alone and I don't, I want to run and I can't move.  People keep asking me who is going to walk me down the aisle (and telling me who should), about memorials for my dad for this summer (including asking for money when they don't need it), etc. and I want to scream and at the same time just hole myself away in a bathroom and be still.  I could use hugs...wine I've had in abundance in the last few days (and cheese...God, I'm never going to fit into my dress).

Anyway, that was a hell of a "welcome back" post for me...sorry for the vent. 

I'm going to try to catch up on the board in the next few days to see what all of you have been up to.  And try to find my old password for my old account.

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    Hugs!!!   I'm so sorry for your loss. I was just thinking about you the other day.  I realized I hadn't seen you in any threads lately and was wondering how your wedding planning was going.

    There are no words at a time like this that make things right.  Only time.  FI's dad passed away 18 months ago, and I know how hard that was for him.  I could only imagine the extra grief that goes with planning such a special event.   My heart goes out to you.

    I hope you find the support you need during this trying time in life.  A little wine and cheese will be good for you, and I'm sure you'll still look beautiful in your dress.
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    Hi minskat.  I am so sorry to hear about your dad.  I'm sending you lots of love and hugs from afar.

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    [QUOTE]Hugs!!!   I'm so sorry for your loss. I was just thinking about you the other day.  I realized I hadn't seen you in any threads lately and was wondering how your wedding planning was going. There are no words at a time like this that make things right.  Only time.  FI's dad passed away 18 months ago, and I know how hard that was for him.  I could only imagine the extra grief that goes with planning such a special event.   My heart goes out to you. I hope you find the support you need during this trying time in life.  A little wine and cheese will be good for you, and I'm sure you'll still look beautiful in your dress.
    Posted by suzie211[/QUOTE]

    Thank you for the hugs and thoughts.  I'm sorry to hear about your FI's dad.  You are right...there is nothing that makes this right.  No amount of talking, staring blankly at a wall, walking, eating cheese or drinking wine (though I've done plenty) that makes you feel better.  FI keeps trying to ask what he can do and, other than hug me, there is nothing he can do to make the pain go away.  I'm glad you were there to support your FI during his (and your) loss. 

    I'm going to try to post more and focus on some of the happy things about getting married in 45 or so days.  It will be bittersweet but hopefully still happy.
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    [QUOTE]Hi minskat.  I am so sorry to hear about your dad.  I'm sending you lots of love and hugs from afar.
    Posted by danser55[/QUOTE]

    I much appreciate the love and hugs...a few friends have been through something similar (loosing a parent) but my dad was so young (60) that a lot of the friends my age just haven't had to go through this yet so no one knows what to say...though there isn't much to say.  Thank you.
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    I'm glad you are back miskat but I am so sorry about your dad.  Hugs.  I can't imagine what you are going though.  You go ahead and eat all the cheese you want.  We are here whenever you need us.  
    "Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained"-C.S. Lewis

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I join you ladies again? : Thank you for the hugs and thoughts.  I'm sorry to hear about your FI's dad.  You are right...there is nothing that makes this right.  No amount of talking, staring blankly at a wall, walking, eating cheese or drinking wine (though I've done plenty) that makes you feel better.  FI keeps trying to ask what he can do and, other than hug me, there is nothing he can do to make the pain go away.  I'm glad you were there to support your FI during his (and your) loss.  I'm going to try to post more and focus on some of the happy things about getting married in 45 or so days.  It will be bittersweet but hopefully still happy.
    Posted by minskat31[/QUOTE]


    So glad your FI is there for you.   I asked a lot of those same questions to my FI.   Everyone is different.  You will heal on your own, and its hard to not take away some one's pain that you love.   It's good for you to have a support system like that.

    I hope you can find some of those happy things in the upcoming weeks.
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    [QUOTE]I'm glad you are back miskat but I am so sorry about your dad.  Hugs.  I can't imagine what you are going though.  You go ahead and eat all the cheese you want.  We are here whenever you need us.  
    Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

    Thank you so much.  As to cheese...you name it, I've consumed it.  My gym routine is going to suck royally next week when I *try* to get back on track.  Thank you for the love and support.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I join you ladies again? : Thank you so much.  As to cheese...you name it, I've consumed it.  My gym routine is going to suck royally next week when I *try* to get back on track.  Thank you for the love and support.
    Posted by minskat31[/QUOTE]
    Have you tried Raclette?  It's a French/swiss cheese that is sooo yummy!  I love to melt it over potatoes.  You should try it!  NOM!
    "Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained"-C.S. Lewis

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I join you ladies again? : Have you tried Raclette?  It's a French/swiss cheese that is sooo yummy!  I love to melt it over potatoes.  You should try it!  NOM!
    Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

    Oh no!  A new cheese idea...especially cheesy potatoes.  Going to Whole Foods tomorrow and will likely try it now.  Promising myself to be better on Monday.  But Monday is several days away...
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    Oh Minskat, I am so sorry for your loss.  I can't even imagine how you are feeling.  Sending you lots of internet hugs and support!
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    Had lobster mashed potatoes last night similar to this, in case your looking for shopping list inspiration.  Plus cheese of course:)
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    [QUOTE]Oh Minskat, I am so sorry for your loss.  I can't even imagine how you are feeling.  Sending you lots of internet hugs and support!
    Posted by lovelyheather[/QUOTE]

    Thank you, Heather.  Your dress is lovely by the way.
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    Welcome back, Minskat. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Sending you great big hugs. ETA: Tell me about your wedding! What does your dress look like? Shoes? What's the thing you're most excited about besides the actual marriage part, of course?



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    [QUOTE]Welcome back, Minskat. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Sending you great big hugs. ETA: Tell me about your wedding! What does your dress look like? Shoes? What's the thing you're most excited about besides the actual marriage part, of course?
    Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

    Thank you...I've been watching your posts and thinking of you actually.  I know your wedding is coming up fast too and I'm very happy for you.  I think I saw a post of your venue, which I remember being lovely, and I know I saw a post of your honeymoon...I'm uber jealous about South Africa. 

    Dress...I posted it a while back but can't now...FI is right over my shoulder.  It is a wee bit blingy but I couldn't help myself.

    Shoes are surprisingly comfortable and are these...


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    Not sure what I'm most excited about...the honeymoon is one.  We are staying in Cancun for a week at Le Blanc...not as nice as where I think you are going but we've been there before and it is awesome how well they take care of you...which I could use.


    <a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/7/15/875540b5-9cb5-44d2-bf9d-bc559e04678b.large.jpg" title="Click to view a larger photo" class="PhotoLink"><img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/7/15/875540b5-9cb5-44d2-bf9d-bc559e04678b.medium.jpg" alt="" /></a>


    I also love the venue at night so I'm sure it will be a great time...my FI loves the planets so we are choosing the Planetarium to get married.  It is on Lake Michigan (my favorite place) so it is a nice compromise.


    <a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/14/10/be09c3bf-ef38-4c61-aab9-b8d3e03dc1aa.large.jpg" title="Click to view a larger photo" class="PhotoLink"><img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/14/10/be09c3bf-ef38-4c61-aab9-b8d3e03dc1aa.medium.jpg" alt="" /></a>

    I'm also really excited about our photographer.  He did some engagement shots of us and they turned out pretty well (I'm not very photogenic and I think he made me look somewhat decent actually).

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    I'm not uber comfortable around cameras so I'm looking at FI in 90% of the pictures.  :)
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    Hi minskat, I know we don't know each other very well, but sending all my T&P your way during this difficult time for you. *hugs*
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    [QUOTE]Hi minskat, I know we don't know each other very well, but sending all my T&P your way during this difficult time for you. *hugs*
    Posted by steign[/QUOTE]

    Thank you, I really appreciate that.
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    Big hugs for you!  Welcome back <3
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    [QUOTE]Big hugs for you!  Welcome back <3
    Posted by LaSak87[/QUOTE]

    Thank you. I miss posting here and talking with you gals so I'll stick around like glue if you all don't mind.
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