Tell me I'm not the only one...

Maere

omy, I don't know anyone who would not go insane if they had to plan a wedding so fast. The fastest I know is a couple from BYU idaho- engaged after 3 months of dating and knowing each other... married in another 3 months. Thats 6 months of knowing each other. Which I know a lot of couples get married fast... but they are young and still in college... I think quick weddings are more easily accepted after graduation.

Maere

@Narwhal That one wasn't at college- I do think he's crazy for doing it.

Narwhal

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[QUOTE]Yup they do... also, any college with significantly more women then men do that...<strong> It's weird how guys think they can propose on like the 2nd date at these schools O.o</strong> ... and a lot of my friends who go to idaho get engaged pretty fast too. Not condoning getting engaged fast because when you know you know, but I once had a guy friend propose to a girl on first date (they had met on a dating sight on the internet) she shot him down HARD.
Posted by Maere[/QUOTE]

Oh yeah, I don't know why I would get that confused. />_<

sapphirebaby926

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[QUOTE]Here in the south. A &M, Baylor, Rice, LSU etc etc. Ol' Miss. It's insanity.

At A&M they have a "ring dunk", which is where you put your class ring in a pitcher of beer and then chug said pitcher. The goal is to have two rings to dunk.

Someone let me out of TX.
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

I know what the ring dunk is, I did it - but I've never heard it's a goal to have two rings to dunk

I knew a few people that were after their MRS degree though

dwest2201

There is nothing wrong with looking on the internet if it is soley browsing around out of boredom or whatever.  If you are spending hours doing this or its a regular thing that is a different story though.   I admit that after clicking on links from here to davids bridal that I looked around for a little bit.  However, I didn't save any pictures, show them to anyone, discuss them at all or anything like that... and I sure as hell didn't even consider trying any on or buying anything, that would be insane. 

As for colleges that are still like that... creepy!

katanne9

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[QUOTE]I go to a ring by spring college. But it's mostly just a big joke.
Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]


Same. I went to a religious school as well - and ring by spring is a giant joke.

But thanks for thinking so well of me and Narwhal. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-cool.gif" border="0" alt="Cool" title="Cool" />

**Mutley**

This is making me think of that movie Mona Lisa Smile.

Narwhal

I thought you'd have my back, Kat. ;D

Sing2phins

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[QUOTE]This is making me think of that movie Mona Lisa Smile .
Posted by **Mutley**[/QUOTE]
Me too.  Julia was so disappointed when her best student left to get married.

katanne9

We also have an "engagement bell" from 1880. If you ring it before you're engaged you are cursed with 10 years of singlehood.

But I also had to take classes in ironing and butter churning, so... you know.

Narwhal

Mutley.. why is this your avatar:

Narwhal

We have swings that are supposed to "predict" who you will marry.  The one by the chapel is the most accurate.

dwest2201

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[QUOTE]Mutley.. why is this your avatar:
Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]

What the eff?

Hazel_B

The university I went to had some colleges within it that were like that. I definitely went to school where some girls were after a MRS degree with no career aspirations with the degree that they were actually there for. It was pretty sad. It was also with these types of girls that I ever got an upclose look at a bridal magazine for the first time (I had no interest in them, still don't really) and some of these couples would buy fake weddings bands so they could go test drive cars and try to act older than they actually were. I am not condoning this stuff whatsoever, but I also wouldn't have believed it until I saw it.

leia1979

I have never heard of ring before spring. When I was in college (10 years ago) some jerk said something to me about an MRS degree (and I'd never heard of that either). You know, how dare I be a public school girl attending a private college? Yup, you got me. I'mma gonna snag me a rich man and never work a day in my life.

Then again, that jerk was on like year seven of undergrad with no degree in sight. Maybe he was just trying to find a rich lady so he wouldn't have to work.

And back to the original topic, I occasionally look at dresses because they're pretty. Mostly because the same site I like to browse for ao dais (Vietnamese dresses) also does knock off wedding gowns. I'm not picking out what I'll wear at some undetermined date in the future. I don't think it's any different than browsing vintage gowns I'm not going to buy either.

hetshup

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me I'm not the only one... : I know what the ring dunk is, I did it - but I've never heard it's a goal to have two rings to dunk I knew a few people that were after their MRS degree though
Posted by sapphirebaby926[/QUOTE]

Just what I was told. Could be people trying to pass off bad info. Sorry Sapph.

sapphirebaby926

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me I'm not the only one... : Just what I was told. Could be people trying to pass off bad info. Sorry Sapph.
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

No worries - I imagine that some people do have that train of thought. But it's definitely not the tradition.

catemeg

My cousin was after an MRS degree... failed, and now she's trying to find a job where there are rich men (she's working on Capital Hill, trying to pull a Jackie O - little known fact, JBKO was a college student interning in JFK's office when they met).

Haven't heard of "ring before spring", but from these gloriously backwards schools, I've heard girls are very protective of their virginity but will do everything (and I mean EVERYTHING) else.  My friend who went to a southern school used to brag about how slutty the girls were, without actually 'doing it'.

bethsmiles

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[QUOTE]omy, I don't know anyone who would not go insane if they had to plan a wedding so fast. The fastest I know is a couple from BYU idaho- engaged after 3 months of dating and knowing each other... married in another 3 months. Thats 6 months of knowing each other. Which I know a lot of couples get married fast... but they are young and still in college... I think quick weddings are more easily accepted after graduation.
Posted by Maere[/QUOTE]
I would say about 50% of my friends go to BYU-I. We call it BYU-I DO. 6 months actually isn't that bad for there I have friends that have done it faster. Its craziness but its surprises me how well a lot of them make it work. Have you heard about the ring ceremonies they have every week? I think those are wierd. My BFF goes there but refuses to date any guys from there because they are known for proposing after like 2 dates and she thinks its creepy

Goldlie11

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[QUOTE]There is nothing wrong with looking on the internet if it is soley browsing around out of boredom or whatever.  If you are spending hours doing this or its a regular thing that is a different story though.   I admit that after clicking on links from here to davids bridal that I looked around for a little bit.  However, I didn't save any pictures, show them to anyone, discuss them at all or anything like that... and I sure as hell didn't even consider trying any on or buying anything, that would be insane.  
Posted by dwest2201[/QUOTE]
This is the perfect answer.

ljewel422

Goldlie, I really like your bio. Where are you getting married? My sister is considering a NYC wedding.

KatyRoseM

What are the ring ceremonies they have every week?

Goldlie11

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[QUOTE]Goldlie, I really like your bio. Where are you getting married? My sister is considering a NYC wedding.
Posted by ljewel422[/QUOTE]
Thanks.  Here's a link to the place I'm where I'm getting married:<div><a href="http://www.toscamarquee.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.toscamarquee.com/</a></div><div>It's pretty affordable for NYC standards</div>

desertsun

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[QUOTE]There is nothing wrong with looking on the internet if it is soley browsing around out of boredom or whatever.  If you are spending hours doing this or its a regular thing that is a different story though.   I admit that after clicking on links from here to davids bridal that I looked around for a little bit.  However, I didn't save any pictures, show them to anyone, discuss them at all or anything like that... and I sure as hell didn't even consider trying any on or buying anything, that would be insane.  As for colleges that are still like that... creepy!
Posted by dwest2201[/QUOTE]

I don't know that I see a big difference between taking a casual interest, and taking a casual interest and then asking on a NEY message board if anyone else has done the same.

Own your crazy.

Acrosthec

Ring before spring is a new one for me.  MRS degree is a popular saying in SE Ga though, so I know that one!

As for the OP's question, a lot, I'd say most, of the girls I know IRL looked at dresses before they were engaged.  It's idle curiousity, and it's fine.  Don't fall in love with anything though.  Styles change and are discontinued, and your opinion of what you like may change by the time you get engaged as well. 

noelle24

Oh. Em. Gee.  If a guy proposed to me on a first or second date (or third or fourth for that matter), I'd be running for the hills.  I'm such a committment-phobe though... when I was 15, I was dating a guy who said he loved me after two weeks.  I starting avoiding him at school and broke up with him two weeks later.  Things just should not move that quickly! Yikes.

meamolly

People at my college would ask me what i was majoring in, the first few years I had not idea so I would often tell them I was there to get my MRS.

ljewel422

Goldlie, your venue looks lovely! I'm going to send that link my sister's way.

MRS Degree is definitely an old saying. You can imagine what people said about me after it came out that I was dating my former TA.

brilibby4

[QUOTE]Yup they do... also, any college with significantly more women then men do that... Posted by Maere[/QUOTE]

Umm this is not true.  Maybe some schools but I go to a college with significantly more women than men and this is definitely not our mentality.  Honestly, I did not know people still thought this way until this post.  Good try though.

jeanacorina

I go to LSU and I haven't heard any of this stuff!