Tell me I'm not the only one...

bethekx7

NOT the only one. After dating for 8 years and ring shopping 3 times in the last month or two I was looking to buy a vintage party dress and came across a wedding dress I LOVE on ebay. Asked my BF what he thought- showed him the dress and he said buy it. Haha soooo...as creepy as it sounds, I have a wedding dress sitting in my closet and no ring. I figure if I decide later I don't want it I'll sell it. I'm going to be even more creepy and post a picture right now. But really...I'm the extreme but I know LOTS of girls in relationships or who have friends getting married who end up browsing as well.

musikbx

I have heard of the MRS degree throughout my studies, but I've never heard of the ring ceremonies or the "ring before spring" concept. I'm somehow not surprised, some women really seem to think that their main purpose in life is to become someone's wife. Though I'm sure the Marriage Obsession Level varies from state to state, and within individual social circles.  

Sing2phins

That dress is beautiful!

musikbx

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[QUOTE]NOT the only one. After dating for 8 years and ring shopping 3 times in the last month or two I was looking to buy a vintage party dress and came across a wedding dress I LOVE on ebay. Asked my BF what he thought- showed him the dress and he said buy it. Haha soooo...as creepy as it sounds, I have a wedding dress sitting in my closet and no ring. I figure if I decide later I don't want it I'll sell it. I'm going to be even more creepy and post a picture right now. But really...I'm the extreme but I know LOTS of girls in relationships or who have friends getting married who end up browsing as well.
Posted by bethekx7[/QUOTE]

That is a very pretty dress! Though I have to say that browsing and buying are two different things. I don't see anything wrong with browsing, buy I personally would not buy a dress too far in advance of any important event. This is because I know I have the tendency to change my mind quite often when it comes to such things. 

bethekx7

Thanks! I felt SOOOO weird buying it but we know were getting married in August 2011 (proposal is kind of a formality) and I ran it by my BF like everyday to make sure it didn't freak him out. He just kept saying he thought it was beautiful and that I'd be beautiful in it. It's exactly my style and he was excited that I found something that fit me perfectly!
I DO think it's funny that some girls are knocking on the fact that you are looking at dresses when they are also on ummm... theknot.com.

Also- Idaho is not nearly as bad as Utah! So many girls go to school here just for the MRS and many of the people I'm in classes with meet a return mormon missionary in class, start dating and get engaged before the semester is over. Of course, the weddding is right after the semester (yeah- like 3 mos) and the girl doesnt return to school. Yikes!

bethekx7

Oh, believe me- I felt sooo creepy doing it. It would be different if we didn't already know we were doing it in August 2011 after he finishes school (I'm already finished). We're just kind of doing the actual "proposal" and ring part of it so in 20 years we don't regret not doing it- plus, its fun! Haha I'm the most rational person I know and still cannot believe I bought it. Haha.

musikbx

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Thanks! I felt SOOOO weird buying it but we know were getting married in August 2011 (proposal is kind of a formality) and I ran it by my BF like everyday to make sure it didn't freak him out. He just kept saying he thought it was beautiful and that I'd be beautiful in it. It's exactly my style and he was excited that I found something that fit me perfectly!
I DO think it's funny that some girls are knocking on the fact that you are looking at dresses when they are also on ummm... theknot.com.

Oh, believe me- I felt sooo creepy doing it. It would be different if we didn't already know we were doing it in August 2011 after he finishes school (I'm already finished). We're just kind of doing the actual "proposal" and ring part of it so in 20 years we don't regret not doing it- plus, its fun! Haha I'm the most rational person I know and still cannot believe I bought it. Haha.
Posted by bethekx7[/QUOTE]

Well, I'm not about to "knock on" anything since I don't really know enough about your situation... but I'd be crazy nervous about buying a dress 16 months in advance.

bethekx7

Meh- date is set, body hasn't changed sizes in at least 5 years, not getting preggers cause I physically can't and I figure worst case scenario I sell it. Haha I realize I seem like a crazy person on here. I promise- I'm not nuts.

nefariousmango

musikbx- Love your siggy!  XKCD ftw!

What are these ring ceremonies?  And what exactly does "ring before spring" mean?  Just, if you start dating in winter you'll be engaged before spring because your man wants non-virgin level sexy times?

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]Meh- date is set, body hasn't changed sizes in at least 5 years, not getting preggers cause I physically can't and I figure worst case scenario I sell it. Haha I realize I seem like a crazy person on here. <strong>I promise- I'm not nuts.</strong>
Posted by bethekx7[/QUOTE]

<div>Not sure if I believe you or not on that one.  Looking before engaged is one thing...buying is a whole other thing.  I'm getting married in Sept 2011 and I'm not even CONSIDERING going dress shopping until this fall.  If it ends up working that's great but guess what - buying a dress before getting engaged is silly.  Period.</div>

ekathleen684

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me I'm not the only one... : Not sure if I believe you or not on that one.  Looking before engaged is one thing...buying is a whole other thing.  I'm getting married in Sept 2011 and I'm not even CONSIDERING going dress shopping until this fall.  If it ends up working that's great but guess what - buying a dress before getting engaged is silly.  Period.
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]

I'm trying not to plan anything until fall :X I think 12+ months of wedding wedding wedding will be the death of me. Worst bride to be ever?? Maybe.

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me I'm not the only one... : I'm trying not to plan anything until fall :X I think 12+ months of wedding wedding wedding will be the death of me. Worst bride to be ever?? Maybe.
Posted by ekathleen684[/QUOTE]

<div>Once we get our venue sorted out I plan on doing nothing wedding until the fall.  12 months is DEF enough time.</div>

Narwhal

The "ring before spring" concept at my school is actually "ring before spring or your money back."  And it refers to the senior spring semester, and the ring is an engagement ring, not a wedding ring.

nefariousmango

Thanks Narwhal!