S/O What is your LEAST favorite thing that happens at weddings?

calindi

What have you disliked about weddings you have attended?  Do you have any wedding 'pet peeves'?  What part of weddings do you not enjoy or dread?

lindsayloowhoo

i think money dances are extremely tacky, they remind me of strippers lol

Wrkn925

Oh yeah, at my cousin's wedding when the preacher announced, to a church full of divorcees, that the only people pure enough for marriage were those who had never been married or were widowed.
He included something else, either women who left physically abusive marriages or people who's partners had committed adultery. I know it wasn't both, it was one or the other.

I was like 20, had never been married, and considered getting up and leaving.

ETA: I was not 20, I was like 18.  And my Dad had just gotten remarried.

polkadot111

For sure the garter. It's awkard.

marleylikeair

The garter toss. DO NOT WANT.

leia1979

- When I was stuffed in the back corner of the room with people I didn't know because FI was a groomsman at the head table.

-When people are called out by name for the bouquet toss

-The groom going under the bride's dress (head and all) to get the garter and taking a really long time to do so. It makes me uncomfortable.

Edit: Forgot to add that time I had to pay $3 for a Coke! There was wine on the table, but no love for the non-drinker.

ravenray

Man Candi you beat me too it. 

Ollie08

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[QUOTE]- When I was stuffed in the back corner of the room with people I didn't know because FI was a groomsman at the head table.
-When people are called out by name for the bouquet toss
-The groom going under the bride's dress (head and all) to get the garter and taking a really long time to do so. It makes me uncomfortable.
Posted by leia1979[/QUOTE]

This. ALL of this!

jemmini6

- Garter/bouquet toss.  Mostly at weddings where there aren't many single people and everyone who is gets forced into being up there. 

- Buffets.  Not a big deal if they are done well, but I've been to several weddings where the buffets were just awful.  Long lines, cold food, not enough food, etc.

- Cheesy DJ's.  I went to a wedding where the DJ kept advertising himself all night which was super annoying.  One of the DJ's in our area has "Elvis impersonations, props, and more" on his website.  Uh...no thanks.

-  Long/too many toasts.  Also I'm not a big fan of really sappy toasts.  If I have to listen to someone I don't know give a toast, it should at least be entertaining (or very short).

- Head tables.  I'll jump on the bandwagon there, I think they are awful for many reasons.

Ember01

I hate the garter/bouquet toss... We are going to do an anniversary dance and give the garter and bouquet to the oldest couple.

I like cheesy DJs. The DJs I hired are known for teaching people all the line dances (which I love because I never know any of the dances).

I also like headtables

calindi

I dislike when it's super religious, especially when the bride and groom aren't particularly religious.  It's not my thing, and I don't enjoy it as much as ceremonies that are more focused on the couple and their love and commitment rather than God and religious tradition.

I really didn't like that FI's friend who had asked him to fly to Maine to be in his wedding as a groomsman this summer didn't invite me.  FI says, "Well, they don't have a lot of money."  That's fine, just invite fewer people.  If FI really wanted to go and I wasn't invited, that would be fine - I wouldn't resent FI going, but I do resent not being invited.  If it's local, to me that's less of a big deal, but if you're asking someone to fly thousands of miles, rent a car, and stay in a hotel, you should at least let them bring their fiancee as a travel companion.  Not that it makes a difference, but especially if the guest is engaged and you're inviting this guest to be in your bridal party!!!  We're giving everyone over 18 a guest if they want one.  Sure, there will probably be about a dozen people there we've never met when we could have invited a dozen friends, but I'd rather our guests be happy and comfortable.

I don't like the bouquet toss, never did.  I was glad I was engaged when my friend got married a few weeks ago, because she tried to drag me on the dance floor and I just held up my hand with the ring.  I really dislike the garter toss, and it's so freaking awkward when the groom's up her dress in front of everyone. And when some guy has to put the garter on some girl... I just cringe. HATE that!

CASK85

Cheesy DJs. ugh

csousa1

HEADTABLES! They are grotesquely 1983 and reek of an insecure bride and groom that need to be flanked by their friends and put everyone on display as they try desperately not to get any food on their expensive threads.

ETA: I may be more sensitive about this than normal (although I have always hated them), because I found out yesterday that the wedding I am going to in 3 weeks has a head table, which BF will be seated at. Other than him and the bride and groom, I literally know NO ONE. And his ex is a BM. Sweet.

calindi

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[QUOTE]Cheesy DJs. ugh
Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]

Gosh, yes!  But I do like some of the organized dances.  Not all, just a few are fun.  We'll probably do one or two.  I hate the Electric Slide.  I can never figure it out!

lunarsongbird

I'm also not a fan of the head tables. Once, I was dating this guy named Ben. He was a groomsmen at the head table- and they ended up sitting me next to his flipping ex girlfriend. Ugh.

So what is your opinion of seating charts- Yay or nay?

CASK85

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O What is your LEAST favorite thing that happens at weddings? : Gosh, yes!  But I do like some of the organized dances.  Not all, just a few are fun.  We'll probably do one or two.  I hate the Electric Slide.  I can never figure it out!
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
There will be no organized dancing at our wedding. I really hate it :) lol

ravenray

Garter tosses.  Just ew.  I don't want to know what you are doing up there.   Save it for the bedroom please! 
I also hate hate hate slide shows.  I am sorry that you want to show people your life but really when the slide shows are longer then the ceremony, come on!  The one wedding I went to was terrible, it was in August and with no air conditioning, the thing must have gone on for an hour.  I hated my life. 
EDIT: I also really dislike head tables.  For my BF brother's wedding they had one, so I had to sit with his parents, which I like but I would really rather sit with my BF.    *grumbles*

loves2shop4shoes

1.  Garter toss.  We all know my feelings on this.

2.  Cash bar.  I just find it to be very tacky and rude.

3.  Head tables.  I think it's really rude to have your BP sit away from their SOs.  Have a sweetheart table and be done with it.

CASK85

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[QUOTE]I'm also not a fan of the head tables. Once, I was dating this guy named Ben. He was a groomsmen at the head table- and they ended up sitting me next to his flipping ex girlfriend. Ugh. So what is your opinion of seating charts- Yay or nay?
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]
I think you need to assign tables, otherwise it would be confusing, especially for those that don't know many others. Assigning seats, not so much. 

danimcg

It seems to me that everyone hates the boquet and garter toss... why do they still do it?!?! lol.
I hate going to weddings and getting dragged out by people to catch the boquet! I am going to a wedding on the 11th and I just know that's going to happen because of who is going to be there. BF thinks it's hilarious. Me, not so much. The garter toss is also sooo awkward to me! I am going to do everything in my power not to let this happen at my wedding, I think I would be mortified... altho everyone else usually seems to think it is pretty funny. Thinking about it... I am curious if my friend is going to do this at her wedding, I guess I will see in a couple weeks.

bethsmiles

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[QUOTE]<strong>HEADTABLES! They are grotesquely 1983 and reek of an insecure bride and groom that need to be flanked by their friends and put everyone on display as they try desperately not to get any food on their expensive threads.</strong> ETA: I may be more sensitive about this than normal (although I have always hated them), because I found out yesterday that the wedding I am going to in 3 weeks has a head table, which BF will be seated at. Other than him and the bride and groom, I literally know NO ONE. And his ex is a BM. Sweet.
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

THIS! I hate head tables. I think they are really rude when the split the BP from their dates.

Beads921

I dislike head tables as well, but unless my partner is sitting at it, it doesn't bother me a whole lot.

Overly long, overly religious ceremonies (especially in unairconditioned churches in August) are NMS. I'm not religious, so I find it tiresome. But that's just me being selfish, I suppse. I also hate overly long speeches that mean nothing to anyone other than the person giving them. Biggest. Peeve. Ever.

Lunar - Seating charts are a good thing. It ensures everyone has a seat. Otherwise, the people who arrive near the end will be pressed to find a seat, and it almost certainly won't be with anyone they want to sit with. Edit: I should clarify, assigning seats isn't necessary, but assigning tables is.

calindi

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[QUOTE]I'm also not a fan of the head tables. Once, I was dating this guy named Ben. He was a groomsmen at the head table- and they ended up sitting me next to his flipping ex girlfriend. Ugh. So what is your opinion of seating charts- Yay or nay?
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]

Seating charts are a yay.  They're annoying to do and imperfect, but if done right it can prevent a lot of drama.  Imagine walking in with your significant other and not being able to find two seats together, or even at the same table.   Also, my grandparents can't be seated within hearing distance of each other or even eyesight, preferably.  So for us, it helps to be able to keep people apart who needs to be apart.  I've also heard that it's helpful to prevent confusion and a rush of people trying to sit in the most popular areas (near the bride and groom).  People don't have to scramble to find and save seats. 

I think the key is to keep there from being one odd man out.  If we have 10 college friends, but only 8 to a table, then we'll probably do 4 and 6 and then do 6 and 4 with another group of friends so everyone has someone to chat with at the wedding.

leia1979

The only time I've seen a slideshow it was fine. It was a surprise for the bride and groom--all of us in the wedding party gathered the photos. It was playing on the wall behind the sweetheart table on a loop through dinner, so it didn't actually interrupt anything.

If I had to sit still and just watch it, that would be tedious.

bethsmiles

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[QUOTE]It seems to me that everyone hates the boquet and garter toss... why do they still do it?!?!
Posted by danimcg[/QUOTE]

I really don't mind either of these. Some people enjoy it and some people don't. If you don't like it you don't have to do it. I'll probably do it at my wedding because my friends think it's fun.

[Deleted User]

I dislike head tables, so we're not having one. 

I am really against the garter/bouquet toss, but I have agreed to do it but ONLY because I had 3 choices:
garter/bouquet toss
letting them pin money on my dress ALL.NIGHT.LONG (I guess it's a latino thing?)
playing a game where I stand on a chair, and FI holds the train of my dress and all the guys push him around until he falls down and either lets go of the dress or rips the train off.  (also, a latino thing)

garter/bouquet was the least of the 3 evils!!!

I also dislike how everything is sooooo matchy-matchy.  however, I ended up going with traditional matching BM/GM outfits because my mom sort of flipped out about it.  I had a few other victories, like a chocolate wedding cake instead of traditional white cake, and an evening wedding instead of an afternoon wedding...  so it's all good.

cu97tiger

Bouquet toss, garter toss, and all that comes after. Gross. This will not be done at my (future) wedding.

PaigeMcC

I don't like money dances.  I just find it weird that people are asking me for money...I already paid to get you a gift, travel here and probably a shower gift.  Sorry but I iz not rich.

danimcg

o my gosh cocobella! I would choose the toss too!

I feel like I will be forced into doing boquet/garter toss/dollar dance because that's just what we do in my area and I will be harrassed by friends and family to no end if I do not. and minus the part where I feel so incredibly awkward through all of it, I don't have a legitimate problem with them. I am superrrr self-concious. I would also probably elope if it meant people didn't have to look at me, haha! No getting away from it tho!

ADTonk

Coco - good choice! I wouldn't choose either of the other two!

DanieKA

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[QUOTE]Cheesy DJs. ugh
Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Agree 100 percent! The last wedding I went to, a fancy country club wedding, the DJ totally ruined it for me. And I love to dance, but EVERY. SINGLE. SONG. was a special dance. "Women only! Now the guys only (to YMCA no less...with props...DO NOT WANT), bridal party only! Couples only!"</div><div>
</div><div>I only danced twice in 2 hours, and only once was with SO. It was beyond lame. The music was okay, not great, but the DJ was cheese on a stick. </div>