Am I A Terrible Guest?

202987

I think I dun bad...

My coworker was married this past Saturday, and it was quite lovely.  It was 2.30pm in the afternoon, with a 5pm reception.  Her wedding party was in black tuxes with red vests (guys) and long black bridesmaid dresses (girls...I guess that was obvious). 

I knew prior to the wedding that her colors were black (I didn't know red), but that didn't occur to me when I was picking my outfit.  I picked my trusty black dress (shrugs shoulders, fat belt, comes right past my knee).  It might be important to note that I was running low on options, and money was tight enough that getting something new was out of the question.

My question is, should I have worn a black dress when that was one of her wedding colors?  When I first saw the bridesmaid dresses and remembered black was her color, I felt really embarassed.  Once I saw how formal they were, I felt a little better.  Besides, black is a common color for occasions such as these (I suppose).  I saw 1 or 2 other people in black dresses, but none solid like mine.  Also, what if her color was red, and I picked a red dress?  Would there be different etiquette regarding that?  Or is it never acceptable, and I was in the wrong?

Thanks!

dees14

As far as I'm concerned, as long as you're not wearing solid white, you're fine.

bethsmiles

I don't see a problem with your outfit. Black is a common color for people to wear and she knew that, even if she had picked different colors that doesn't mean none of the guests can wear that color. Its really not a big deal

ktprieto

Lol, "I think I dun bad" 

I agree with the other person's post, as long as you're not wearing white, you're fine in mine book. Especially black, I mean, it's pretty much every girl's essential party dress!

KD+BC

If you showed up in the exact same dress as the BMs then I'd give you the side eye. Other than that, I think you were fine, especially since it was black, who doesn't own a black dress? If you wore red, I'd think you were fine too. A bride can't expect all of her guests to remember her colors and avoid them. Don't worry about it!

amagwire

No, you didn't do anything wrong. I think it's only weird when the Bridal Party has a very specific color and someone purposefully tries to match to it.  Black is a neutral, and the monster of all neutral colors! It's everyone's go-to dress color, so the bride would be crazy to think no one would show up in black.  You're not a bad guest! 

jeanacorina

You're totally fine. Black is such a popular color, I'm sure nobody even noticed.

Wearing the SAME DRESS as the bridesmaids would be bad, as would wearing solid white.

Purple is my main wedding color. It's my favorite color. I wear it all the time and have tons of things in purple. Several of my guests have mentioned that they'll be wearing purple to my wedding since it's "my" color. I'm not worried at all. i think it's sweet. I tell everyone they can wear any color they want, I really don't mind!... but I won't complain if they're wearing my favorite color.

202987

OK cool :-).

After awhile I stopped caring, it was a first thought.  After that, it was a curiousity thing-if there really were rules about this, and what they were.

Thanks everyone!