DRAMA :(

desertsun

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[QUOTE]ok so obviously im NEY...This is BOTH of their second marriages ( they even got married in vegas !)  and their reception is said to be just a big party anyways... This is my FIRST and ONLY wedding.
Posted by tlgardn2[/QUOTE]

Right, those second weddings are just not as important.  How dare they try to steal your month for your wedding. First weddings are always better and more important. Even when they're hypothetical, they still matter more.

And of course you KNOW that you'll never get divorced and re-married. That could NEVER happen to you.

Yup. Of course. Whatever you say.

katanne9

Yes, you are being absurd.

First, you aren't even engaged.

Second, did you ever consider the fact that you both could have had your weddings (*Not even touching the fact that this is a "wedding") in October. Doesn't matter if it's his 1st, 2nd, 5th or he's being out of line with the timing. You were out of line for making it a big deal.

2 of my best friends and I all got married within a 6 week span. We lived. And, we actually had fun. Sharing is caring.

loves2shop4shoes

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[QUOTE] <strong>Sharing is caring.</strong>
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]
<span style="color:#333333;font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;line-height:17px;font-size:13px;" class="Apple-style-span">
</span><div>Regina George:<span style="color:#333333;font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;line-height:17px;font-size:13px;" class="Apple-style-span"> Hello, may I please talk to Taylor Wedell? </span>
<div><span style="color:#333333;font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;line-height:17px;font-size:13px;" class="Apple-style-span">Taylor's Mother: She's not home yet who's calling? 
Regina George: This is Susan from Planned Parenthood, I have her test results. If you could have her call me as soon as she can. It's urgent, Thank You. </span></div></div>

jeanacorina

You are being silly. 1) You and your brother could have "parties/weddings" during the same month. It happens. It's no big deal. You could have chosen to be happy for your brother and new SIL and enjoy planning your receptions along similar timelines. It could be a bonding experience.

2) You're not engaged yet. Until (and even after) you are engaged, everything is subject to change.People here have changed wedding dates a couple of times, even after getting engaged. Crap happens. The world can't revolve around some day that you think you might maybe get married. And you don't get a month, anyway. You get ONE DAY. If you WERE engaged and had BOOKED a time, place, and vendors for your wedding, and then your brother chose to have his reception/party thing on the same DAY which you'd already spent money on, THEN I could see why you'd be upset.

But that's not how it went down. You are overreacting and being selfish, and your mom and sister should never have said anything, because it's a dumb thing to get upset over. October is a whole freaking MONTH, and you're not even engaged yet, so you don't have a date. You have a preference. And you don't get dibs on preferences. Ask any wedding location- I didn't get dibs until I signed a contract. Preference didn't matter until I forked over money.

luvdncn90

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: DRAMA :( : Regina George: Hello, may I please talk to Taylor Wedell?  Taylor's Mother: She's not home yet who's calling?  Regina George: This is Susan from Planned Parenthood, I have her test results. If you could have her call me as soon as she can. It's urgent, Thank You. 
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]


I had to share this with all the Mean Girls quotes...


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tlgardn2

i did apologize yes...

TheGlamourist

More behaviour like this, and the engagement may never happen, so look on the bright side: you might not have to worry about October after all!

loves2shop4shoes

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[QUOTE]More behaviour like this, and the engagement may never happen, so look on the bright side: you might not have to worry about October after all!
Posted by TheGlamourist[/QUOTE]

<div>Glamourist FTW!</div>

tlgardn2

i don't think im entitled

i am not a brat

my mother was married in october

my sister was married in october

and i have for many years even before i started dating the guy i am now planned an october wedding

my biggest problem with all of this was, i felt that my brother knew this

yes...we have talked about marriage

my brother has asked me when my boyfriend would propose and would it be soon

it IS obvious we're getting married

my boyfriend is telling me to go to bridal shows and asking what rings i like

i didn't want my brother to cancel anything

i didn't want to make a big deal out of it

i just miss him. he is no the same guy he used to be...

what i suppose no one understands is this was the last of a long string of things that he has done to everyone in the family to cause problems. 

on several occasions, most of which not concerning myself directly, he has been quite a jerk and hurt people.  

again i said earlier, we used to  be very very close... 

it broke my heart because contrary to what many of you believe, i would have asked him if this situation was reversed. and at one time, he WOULD have done the same.  

i wouldn't plan my wedding for the same month as him because i wouldn't put my family thru that.  i have many elderly relatives that would feel obligated to travel and come to both and i won't put them thru it. 

its just sad to me that so many of you cannot get your point across without being downright mean.  i asked for advice. not to be attacked.  

jeanacorina

Some people might have gone a little overboard, but honestly I get the feeling that you came here seeking a pat on the head and some vindication, and were disappointed and frustrated that you didn't get it.

The backstory really doesn't change that most of us are going to disagree with you. You don't get dibs.

If your brother had his party in September, would you still feel the same way about relatives having to travel? How many weeks or months apart do celebrations need to be for it not to be too inconvenient for out of town guests? You just can't plan like that.

But I'm going back to "you don't get dibs." At least not any more dibs than your brother and his new wife get. Maybe October has some significance for them, too. Maybe circumstances will dictate that you can't get married this October at all... it might be next October or the following. You just don't know. Things can change in the blink of an eye.

Be happy for your brother, even if he's a jerk. Be supportive of your new SIL. Just suck it up and be the bigger person if that's how you want to think of it.

Your actions just were not something I could support, so I'm not going to pat you on the head for acting like a brat. Maybe you're NOT a brat, but you did act like one in my opinion.

tlgardn2

i am happy for them.. that's why i never brought it up to them in the first place.  

i have been the only one that has supported them thru their entire relationship when many others were against them. ( she may or may not have had something to do with why the last marriage ended) 

i appreciate the fact that everyone thinks i am overreacting. 

but again...simply saying " i side with your brother " would suffice.....

jeanacorina

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[QUOTE]simply saying " i side with your brother " would suffice.....
Posted by tlgardn2[/QUOTE]

Nothing is EVER that simple on the internet, hon.

AudgiePodge

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[QUOTE]i don't think im entitled<div>
<div>i am not a brat </div><div>
</div><div>my mother was married in october my sister was married in october and i have for many years even before i started dating the guy i am now planned an october wedding <strong>When you get engagned, you can still have an October wedding.  Believe it or not, October comes every year.</strong></div><div><strong>
</strong></div><div>my biggest problem with all of this was, i felt that my brother knew this </div><div>
</div><div>yes...we have talked about marriage my brother has asked me when my boyfriend would propose and would it be soon <strong>I don't understand why your brother would ask you when your BF is going to propose.</strong></div><div>
</div><div>it IS obvious we're getting married <strong>Maybe to you, probably not to anyone else.</strong></div><div>
</div><div>my boyfriend is telling me to go to bridal shows and asking what rings i like <strong>That doesn't mean you're engaged or will be anytime soon.</strong></div><div>
</div><div>i didn't want my brother to cancel anything </div><div>i didn't want to make a big deal out of it <strong> Well, you did, and it seems like you came here looking for validation.  You're not going to get it here.</strong></div><div>
</div><div>i just miss him. he is no the same guy he used to be... </div><div>
</div><div>what i suppose no one understands is this was the last of a long string of things that he has done to everyone in the family to cause problems.  <strong>We can only go by the information YOU give us.  We are not mind readers and we do not know the dynamics of your family.</strong></div><div>
</div><div>on several occasions, most of which not concerning myself directly, he has been quite a jerk and hurt people.   </div><div>
</div><div>again i said earlier, we used to  be very very close...   <strong>I don't think this is helping remedy the situation.</strong></div><div>
</div><div>it broke my heart because contrary to what many of you believe, i would have asked him if this situation was reversed. and at one time, he WOULD have done the same.  <strong>Totally understandable if you were engaged.  You don't get dibbs on a month for something that isn't even going to happen yet.</strong></div><div>
</div><div> i wouldn't plan my wedding for the same month as him because i wouldn't put my family thru that.  i have many elderly relatives that would feel obligated to travel and come to both and i won't put them thru it.  <strong>You don't even have a wedding to plan yet.  I don't see how you do not get this point.</strong></div><div>
</div><div>its just sad to me that so many of you cannot get your point across without being downright mean.  i asked for advice. not to be attacked.  <strong>You are getting advice.  We don't validate craziness.  You're posting on a public forum.  You don't get to choose the responses you get.  Sorry.  I agree, not all the replies have been helpful, but you did receive some pretty good advice.  It's up to you to see that. </strong>
Posted by tlgardn2[/QUOTE]

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loves2shop4shoes

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: DRAMA :( : My advice? You are way way overeacting. You say that your mother and sister were both married in October. Is it totally out of the realm of possibility that your brother wanted to get married in October as well? And just because this is his second marriage means absolutely nothing. It is just as important as your eventual-marriage. You are not engaged. Your boyfriend has not proposed. Therefore, you have no reason to be planning a wedding yet. Until he actually says, "Will you marry me?" and you two become fiance and fiancee, then you don't get to "claim" a wedding month. And there was no reason for your brother to ask you when you will be married because you aren't engaged yet. YOU AREN'T ENGAGED YET. Andplusalso, there is no such thing as a 'wedding month.' You get a day. Maybe two, if you count the rehearsal. Long story short .. your brother did nothing wrong. NOTHING. He did not need to ask you anything. He did not need to run anything by you. This is the date that works best for him and his fiance. Seriously, just get over whatever issues you are having. Be happy for your brother and sister-in-law.
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This.  The "string of events" leading up to you're being a brat are irrelevant.  You were still being a brat.  Sorry Charlie.

</div>

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]Some people might have gone a little overboard, but honestly I get the feeling that you came here seeking a pat on the head and some vindication, and were disappointed and frustrated that you didn't get it. The backstory really doesn't change that most of us are going to disagree with you. You don't get dibs. If your brother had his party in September, would you still feel the same way about relatives having to travel? How many weeks or months apart do celebrations need to be for it not to be too inconvenient for out of town guests? You just can't plan like that. But I'm going back to "you don't get dibs." At least not any more dibs than your brother and his new wife get. Maybe October has some significance for them, too. Maybe circumstances will dictate that you can't get married this October at all... it might be next October or the following. You just don't know. Things can change in the blink of an eye. Be happy for your brother, even if he's a jerk. Be supportive of your new SIL. Just suck it up and be the bigger person if that's how you want to think of it. Your actions just were not something I could support, so I'm not going to pat you on the head for acting like a brat. Maybe you're NOT a brat, but you did act like one in my opinion.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

I agree completely with Jeana. I wish I had that button right now...

But on top of that, even if you're BF is encouraging you to go to bridal shows, slow your roll. You don't need to plan until you are engaged. So don't worry about it now, don't focus on it now. Here's the reality: as much as you two may talk about it, <u>your BF has not proposed yet.</u> And that's fine; there's nothing wrong with that. There isn't a wedding to plan right now, but there is a relationship for you to enjoy.

And honestly, your backstory about how your brother has done other things just makes it sound like your backpedalling to make him sound like the bad guy. You two can both have your parties/weddings in October. And guess what? Maybe some of those other relatives will decline his invitation and go to yours instead; or even vice versa. No one is obligated to go to both. And if these people are being coerced into going to both weddings, then there's a bigger problem at hand. But ultimately, that is not up to you or your brother to control who comes to your weddings. It's up to the guests you invite. And you really <u>do not need to deal with that at all</u> until you are engaged. And you, are not engaged.

tlgardn2

i was not seeking vindication....

i was seeking constructive criticism. again, not for people to attack me.

i called my brother bawling my eyes out, like i said HOURS after i found out what had happened..apologizing and explaining to him the bigger picture of why i am upset about this one thing.  

he somehow apparently cancelled everything in those few hours and now basically wants to stay away for awhile. 

i tried to do and say everything i could to remedy the situation.

and side note: i guess when i read up on the whole "ney" description it basically says that is an agreement between your boyfriend and yourself... ring or no ring...so thats the way i look at it... it's agreed... we are..

tlgardn2

i thank all of u...this post can be forgotten now..

jeanacorina

I'm sorry some folks were immature and unhelpful. It happens all the time on the interwebz. It's always a mixed bag of helpful responses and folks just kind of entertaining themselves/each other.

It happens. Sorry. But you did get some constructive criticism. So, there you go.

calindi

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[QUOTE]<strong>When you get engaged, you can still have an October wedding.  Believe it or not, October comes every year.</strong>
Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]

This is what I was wondering... if he doesn't propose by, say, June... you'd be in a bit of a time crunch to plan an October wedding this year.  Why stress about when he'll propose - why not just enjoy your relationship, and when he proposes figure out if you can do it this year or next year?  There will be an October 2012... the world doesn't end until December 2012, so you should be all set!  You'll still see the Apocalypse with a ring on your finger!

Also, in the original post, the OP uses the word "obviously" a lot.  "Obviously" they're thinking of marriage, since they live together.  "Obviously" he'll be proposing soon.  You know what happens when you "assume" something?  It makes an ASS of U and ME - don't ASSUME anything.

Your brother can do what he wants.  Your Mom and sister were juvenile for involving him in your misconceived disappointment.  Just chillax and try and be patient - when you get engaged, then figure out this year or next, and if it's this year, just pick a weekend when he's not having his party.  Easy breezy.

AudgiePodge

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[QUOTE]i was not seeking vindication.... i was seeking constructive criticism. again, not for people to attack me. i called my brother bawling my eyes out, like i said HOURS after i found out what had happened..apologizing and explaining to him the bigger picture of why i am upset about this one thing.   he somehow apparently cancelled everything in those few hours and now basically wants to stay away for awhile.  i tried to do and say everything i could to remedy the situation. and side note: i guess when i read up on the whole "ney" description it basically says that is an agreement between your boyfriend and yourself... ring or no ring...so thats the way i look at it... it's agreed... we are..
Posted by tlgardn2[/QUOTE]

<div>No matter how many times you try to validate your OP, we aren't going to.</div><div>
</div><div>It just seems like you're upset that we aren't, so you are coming up with more reasons as to why you were justified.  You're brother's a jerk, but you called to apologize...  Everyone in your family got married in October so your brother should have known you wanted to also... You say you're not even engaged yet, but you just read the sticky at the top and now you are?  Hmmmm..</div>

desertsun

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[QUOTE]i was not seeking vindication.... i was seeking constructive criticism. again, not for people to attack me. <strong>i called my brother bawling my eyes out, like i said HOURS after i found out what had happened.</strong>.apologizing and explaining to him the bigger picture of why i am upset about this one thing.   he somehow apparently cancelled everything in those few hours and now basically wants to stay away for awhile.  i tried to do and say everything i could to remedy the situation. and side note: i guess when i read up on the whole "ney" description it basically says that is an agreement between your boyfriend and yourself... ring or no ring...so thats the way i look at it... it's agreed... we are..
Posted by tlgardn2[/QUOTE]

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[QUOTE]<strong>i am happy for them.. that's why i never brought it up to them in the first place.</strong>   i have been the only one that has supported them thru their entire relationship when many others were against them. ( she may or may not have had something to do with why the last marriage ended)  i appreciate the fact that everyone thinks i am overreacting.  but again...simply saying " i side with your brother " would suffice.....
Posted by tlgardn2[/QUOTE]

These statements are confusing. It seems like you're saying you both did and did not bring up to your brother your feelings about him getting married in "your month."

And no, saying I side with your brother would NOT suffice. You said some not so nice things yourself, insinuating that you're too good to ever get divorced, that second weddings are somehow not as important as first weddings, and that Vegas weddings aren't as good as other weddings.

You will find on the interwebz that people will call you on your shiit when you're being shitty. Whoop de friggin do. Ignore it if you don't like it. Argue if you feel like it. But realize that you will NEVER be able to dictate how others respond to what you put out there.

My advice? Tell your brother you realize you were being selfish and you are sorry. Tell him you will support him getting married whenever he feels like it. It's his wedding and you realize that now. Be sincere and mature.

hetshup

See, one of the coolest things about October is that it happens every year. It's like Christmas, guaranteed to happen. Unless you believe in the apocalypse. 

If I was attending wedding two weddings in the same month that I had to travel for, and one wedding was a 2nd wedding and one was a first. I would travel to the first, all things being equal. So you need to calm down. You are assuming that everyone will ignore you, but the truth is, your childish antics will make them ignore you. You can't depend on Mom and Sister to say "you aren't wrong", because, well, they encourage the behavior. You ARE in the wrong. You need to straight up apologize. Not some... I'm  sorry, but you made me mad/you took my wedding date/ you should have asked. None of those are apologies, and I would bet money your apology had some variation of that. So not only did you make him upset by acting like a brat, you made him more upset by telling him it was his fault. 

What you need to do is ENJOY this time, you will not get it back. And when you are engaged, then plan your wedding. And in the in-between I strong recommend that you figure out that because you are getting married doesn't mean you can't be wrong. 

Oh, and way to ruin a perfectly good relationship with your SIL. Who is family. Way to go. 

tlgardn2

look .. i get it all... i really do want to be a part of this forum.. i swear I am not a brat ..i don't think i'm entitled.

this is an issue between my brother, my family and i and i made my step to fix it.

i shouldn't have even asked, its all irrelevant now anyways.

I will go back to just enjoying my relationship. and posting about non-issues.

that was my first post on here and i never dreamed i would be so ill received. 

allow me to apologize to everyone that i made so irate.

let me RE introduce myself

i'm 26

i am in a relationship with my best friend

we have been best friends for 6 years

we've been dating for 2 of them

we live together and i love every minute of it

we have 2 cats, one of which is my brothers because he is unable to take it to their current apartment.  

i do hope for a fall/october wedding if the cards fall right

we are a family of tradition...same vacation spot every year, sunday dinner together every sunday, same holiday traditions, same thanksgiving traditions, we have various other trips throughout the year that we take together as well.

i work full time (which is why i took a long pause away from this thread, i was away from the computer)

i am the youngest of 3

i am an aunt to 4 girls and 1 boy

i hope this helps...i really didn't intend on causing such a ruckus... 

AudgiePodge

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[QUOTE]look .. i get it all... i really do want to be a part of this forum.. i swear I am not a brat ..i don't think i'm entitled. this is an issue between my brother, my family and i and i made my step to fix it. i shouldn't have even asked, its all irrelevant now anyways. I will go back to just enjoying my relationship. and posting about non-issues. that was my first post on here and i never dreamed i would be so ill received.  allow me to apologize to everyone that i made so irate. let me RE introduce myself i'm 26 i am in a relationship with my best friend we have been best friends for 6 years we've been dating for 2 of them we live together and i love every minute of it we have 2 cats, one of which is my brothers because he is unable to take it to their current apartment.   i do hope for a fall/october wedding if the cards fall right we are a family of tradition...same vacation spot every year, sunday dinner together every sunday, same holiday traditions, same thanksgiving traditions, we have various other trips throughout the year that we take together as well. i work full time (which is why i took a long pause away from this thread, i was away from the computer) i am the youngest of 3 i am an aunt to 4 girls and 1 boy i hope this helps...i really didn't intend on causing such a ruckus... 
Posted by tlgardn2[/QUOTE]

<div>Hello.  Welcome. </div><div>
</div><div>Just don't get ahead of yourself and enjoy the present.</div>

tlgardn2

thanks...i'm going to do my best...

calindi

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e49030bf-2570-4dcb-a822-b28641932fc1Post:550fe993-2b69-4d2a-80e5-48cef306bf3b">Re: DRAMA :(</a>:
[QUOTE]look .. i get it all... i really do want to be a part of this forum.. i swear I am not a brat ..i don't think i'm entitled. this is an issue between my brother, my family and i and i made my step to fix it. i shouldn't have even asked, its all irrelevant now anyways. I will go back to just enjoying my relationship. and posting about non-issues. that was my first post on here and i never dreamed i would be so ill received.  allow me to apologize to everyone that i made so irate. let me RE introduce myself i'm 26 i am in a relationship with my best friend we have been best friends for 6 years we've been dating for 2 of them we live together and i love every minute of it we have 2 cats, one of which is my brothers because he is unable to take it to their current apartment.   i do hope for a fall/october wedding if the cards fall right we are a family of tradition...same vacation spot every year, sunday dinner together every sunday, same holiday traditions, same thanksgiving traditions, we have various other trips throughout the year that we take together as well. i work full time (which is why i took a long pause away from this thread, i was away from the computer) i am the youngest of 3 i am an aunt to 4 girls and 1 boy i hope this helps...i really didn't intend on causing such a ruckus... 
Posted by tlgardn2[/QUOTE]

Eh, it's okay, don't take it personally.  There's more than one who have gone through (much worse) flaming and lived to tell the tell.  Look at Jilly - she's even got a signature that says "Graduate of the NEY Flaming Program" (or something like that).  And she just got engaged in the last couple of weeks!!!  Wooo hooo go Jilly!

Look, don't try to justify things.  It just digs you a deeper hole when it really doesn't affect the situation at all.  People think you handled the situation poorly - apparently you apologized to your brother.  So now let's just move on.  Don't be surprised if more people post, because we're a chatty bunch and everyone likes to have their say (yes, including me).  Just take a deep breath and take us with a grain of salt and a hefty dose of humility.

May I suggest dropping this subject entirely and moving to another post?  Like perhaps you have an awesome Super Bowl recipe to share?  Cuz I'm in the kitchen and up to my elbows in Buffalo Chicken Dip, and it's delicious!

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tlgardn2

haha i was actually going to share my buffalo chicken dip recipe until u just said that,...i guess that's out of the question!!

i'll try to come up with something delicious and creative for u!

but i warn you, i don't cook... so my options r limited haha

AudgiePodge

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[QUOTE]  Like perhaps you have an awesome Super Bowl recipe to share? <strong> Cuz I'm in the kitchen and up to my elbows in Buffalo Chicken Dip, and it's delicious!</strong>
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

<div>Send some to me, plz.</div>

desertsun

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:e49030bf-2570-4dcb-a822-b28641932fc1Post:550fe993-2b69-4d2a-80e5-48cef306bf3b">Re: DRAMA :(</a>:
[QUOTE]look .. i get it all... <strong>i really do want to be a part of this forum.</strong>. i swear I am not a brat ..<strong>i don't think i'm entitled</strong>. this is an issue between my brother, my family and i and i made my step to fix it. i shouldn't have even asked, its all irrelevant now anyways. I will go back to just enjoying my relationship. and <strong>posting about non-issues</strong>. that was my first post on here and i never dreamed i would be so ill received.  <strong>allow me to apologize to everyone that i made so irate.</strong> let me RE introduce myself i'm 26 i am in a relationship with my best friend we have been best friends for 6 years we've been dating for 2 of them we live together and i love every minute of it we have 2 cats, one of which is my brothers because he is unable to take it to their current apartment.   i do hope for a fall/october wedding if the cards fall right we are a family of tradition...same vacation spot every year, sunday dinner together every sunday, same holiday traditions, same thanksgiving traditions, we have various other trips throughout the year that we take together as well. i work full time (which is why i took a long pause away from this thread, i was away from the computer) i am the youngest of 3 i am an aunt to 4 girls and 1 boy i hope this helps...i really didn't intend on causing such a ruckus... 
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</div><div>It seems like you're just trying to say what you think we want to hear in order to fit in on the board. You apologize for making people irate but not for anything you said. There IS a difference. I feel like you didn't take in anything that was said. You're just nodding and smiling and hoping we'll leave it and you alone.</div><div>
</div><div>As for being engaged...does your SO call you his fiancee? Does he agree that you're engaged? Agreeing you want to get married in such and such timeline is one thing but actually being engaged is different.</div><div>
</div><div>This board is not about everyone always agreeing on everything. It's about talking about our lives and relationships and doing exactly what was done here: talking each other down, bluntly, when we start getting our priorities skewed.</div><div>
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jilld82

I made ice cream cone cupcakes for dessert and they are delicious, just wanted to throw it out there.

Easy Buffalo chicken dip recipe.

One brick of cream cheese
half bottle franks BUFFALO sauce
a few stalks of cut up celery
2 tablespoons of buffalo wild wings spicy garlic sauce(if desired)
one can of chicken chunk
half bottle of ranch

Throw this all in the crock pot for an hour and it is yummmmy!  I put mine in the mini crock pot.