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Whats wrong with being NEY?!

Okay y'all I've been lurking for a while now.
 My question is where do you get off?!
Your snooty, better-than-thou attitudes are absurd.
It does take so people more than a year to plan their weddings.
Now, how is this any of YOUR business?
Maybe they've picked out their venue.
When the time comes, they know wherethey want to get married,
Should y'all just put on blinders towards anything wedding related
until you get married?
 And then start from scratch?
Have y'all ever planed out a life?
I planned my career when I started college.
Look where it got me! In the job I want.

I think y'all are just old maids trying to stomp on other people's happiness.
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  • edited December 2011
    I think the OP is on drugs.  She's not even making any sense.  OP maybe you aren't engaged yet because you sound really crazy.  I personally wouldn't be putting a ring on your finger if I was your SO.  You may run along now.

    ETA:  UGH crap.  TK is all out of wack again.
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_whats-wrong-being-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eee8315f-cdc4-4984-bdee-ae22fcc3d52dPost:2da16f1d-814c-4a87-bd89-50362eefc58f">Whats wrong with being NEY?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Okay y'all I've been lurking for a while now.  My question is where do you get off?! Your snooty, better-than-thou attitudes are absurd. It does take so people more than a year to plan their weddings. Now, how is this any of YOUR business? Maybe they've picked out their venue. When the time comes, they know wherethey want to get married, Should y'all just put on blinders towards anything wedding related until you get married?  And then start from scratch? Have y'all ever planed out a life? I planned my career when I started college. Look where it got me! In the job I want. I think y'all are just old maids trying to stomp on other people's happiness.
    Posted by heyitscarla[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>See, you are confusing life with a party. </div><div>
    </div><div>Picking your career and planning for what you will spend the rest of your life doing = smart. 

    </div><div>Picking a significant other and planning on how you want to spend the rest of your lives together = smart </div><div>
    </div><div>Picking out all of you wedding details before you are married = pointless. </div><div>
    </div><div>A wedding is a party. You don't need extensive research or planning before you are engaged to know a wedding is right for you. Save that for determining if your BF is right for you. </div><div>
    </div><div>oh and: </div><div><a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/2/13/a2758390-91c5-4e20-9dc4-f03553d3c71c.large.jpg" title="Click to view a larger photo" onclick="return gSiteLife.LoadForumPage('ForumImage', 'plckPhotoId', 'a2758390-91c5-4e20-9dc4-f03553d3c71c', 'plckRedirectUrl', gSiteLife.EscapeValue(window.location.href));" class="PhotoLink"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/2/13/a2758390-91c5-4e20-9dc4-f03553d3c71c.medium.jpg" alt="" /></a>
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  • MLekathLEENMLekathLEEN member
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    edited December 2011
    Please use coherent sentences. Your only proving our point otherwise.
  • ravenrayravenray member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_whats-wrong-being-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eee8315f-cdc4-4984-bdee-ae22fcc3d52dPost:99bbc538-d121-4282-95d4-d4ccedf567f2">Re: Whats wrong with being NEY?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Do people post this crap expecting us to have a 'coming to God' moment?  Or do they expect a bunch of lurkers to jump out and revolt? I don't get it.
    Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]
    <p class="MsoNormal">I think it's the lurker revolt....<span>  </span>Not that it would really matter....<span>  </span>Honestly Carla, it makes you crazy.<span>  </span>And it makes your BF feel pressured and it makes you look BSC.<span>  </span>Besides if it is going to take you a whole year anyways what is the point of looking around early?<span>  </span>There is nothing wrong with going somewhere and being like oh this would be a nice place to get married... and then keeping that in mind when you are engaged.<span>  </span>Nor is there anything wrong with knowing what general style of dress you like but if you have your wedding planned out down to the napkin rings, then you are BSC and your BF should run!</p>
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  • edited December 2011
    Yeah, I'm an old maid FOR SURE at 20!! Hold on while I get my cane.

    Trust me, wedding planning get's old if you've been doing it for a long time. It's stressful. I dont' get why you'd want to make yourself stressed out for longer than you have to.

    You planned out your LIFE? Good. No problems there.
    Your life is NOT your wedding. Your future life is your husband. The wedding is just a party. You don't need a wedding to be husband and wife.  If you get yourself so worked up about a wedding, you'll be planning that instead of a marriage.

    You're setting yourself up for one heck of a stressed out 1+ years if you start to plan before you're even engaged. Not to mention the part of how much stress that would put on a relationship.
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  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't understand this post.  If you don't like us or our advice then STFU and go away.  kthx.

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  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_whats-wrong-being-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:eee8315f-cdc4-4984-bdee-ae22fcc3d52dPost:43526042-111b-46f8-894e-14a762fe187f">Re: Whats wrong with being NEY?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>Bren, you're freakin' awesome for 20</strong>. And Carla is a little bit argumentative. But I did plan out my life.  I've finished school, gotten the job of my dreams, and have the BF of my dreams. Am I married yet?  Heck no. Do I have a venue or a dress?  Heck no again. You should lurk more.
    Posted by Blue & White[/QUOTE]

    Aw, thanks Blue <3

    [QUOTE]Yeah, I'm an old maid FOR SURE at 20!! Hold on while I get my cane. Posted by bourgehm[/QUOTE]

    Hope, let's have a shuffleboard and bingo date soon, since we're such old maids ;)
  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_whats-wrong-being-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:eee8315f-cdc4-4984-bdee-ae22fcc3d52dPost:2da16f1d-814c-4a87-bd89-50362eefc58f">Whats wrong with being NEY?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Okay y'all I've been lurking for a while now.  My question is where do you get off?! Your snooty, better-than-thou attitudes are absurd. It does take so people more than a year to plan their weddings. Now, how is this any of YOUR business? Maybe they've picked out their venue. When the time comes, they know wherethey want to get married, Should y'all just put on blinders towards anything wedding related until you get married?  And then start from scratch? Have y'all ever planed out a life? I planned my career when I started college. Look where it got me! In the job I want. I think y'all are just old maids trying to stomp on other people's happiness.
    Posted by heyitscarla[/QUOTE]

    Correction #1: It doesn't <u>have </u>to take more than a year to plan a wedding.

    Correction #2: it's fine to pick a venue if people are engaged. Otherwise, it's kind of silly and people are really jumping ahead. The advice is good advice because it isn't meant to be mean. It's sound advice with a purpose.

    Correction #3: you don't need to have blinders to everything wedding related, but you shouldn't actually book and pick out things.

    Correction #4: clearly you haven't done enough lurking ot realize WHY this advice works. Otherwise you'd see the many admissions that pre-planning was useless for so many girls on here.

    I never realized I was an old maid at 20 ;)
  • edited December 2011
    Deal, bingo is fun.  We can also make some little cards and stuff like people do in nursing homes as crafts. Fun.

    And I forgot I'm 21 now. hahaha oops. Now I'm REALLY an old maid.......
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  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011

    We know what we're talking about.  Contribute something else besides a rant about the majority, or go play in traffic.

    ...Or stay here, we'll just continue to remind you how wrong you are.

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  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_whats-wrong-being-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eee8315f-cdc4-4984-bdee-ae22fcc3d52dPost:2fe7aacc-6032-4fee-8a64-7219dfdfa93a">Re: Whats wrong with being NEY?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]This thread is amazaballs. Everything is all mixed up, and there's some weird person.... Did I wake up in the Twilight Zone today?
    Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]


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  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_whats-wrong-being-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:eee8315f-cdc4-4984-bdee-ae22fcc3d52dPost:2fe7aacc-6032-4fee-8a64-7219dfdfa93a">Re: Whats wrong with being NEY?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]This thread is amazaballs. Everything is all mixed up, and there's some weird person.... Did I wake up in the <strong>Twilight Zone</strong> today?
    Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

    More like Back to the Future.. TK says you posted an hour in the future.
  • heyitscarlaheyitscarla member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Hun,  no one can tell me I'm wrong. And to listy, I understand what you mean by your list. In no means was I saying this was everyone her, but the vast percentage of y'all
  • Blue & WhiteBlue & White member
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    edited December 2011
    Bren, you're freakin' awesome for 20.

    And Carla is a little bit argumentative.

    But I did plan out my life.  I've finished school, gotten the job of my dreams, and have the BF of my dreams.

    Am I married yet?  Heck no.

    Do I have a venue or a dress?  Heck no again.

    You should lurk more.
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  • AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_whats-wrong-being-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:eee8315f-cdc4-4984-bdee-ae22fcc3d52dPost:63b19897-9452-4a0c-9e04-e904f5c6e550">Re: Whats wrong with being NEY?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hun,  no one can tell me I'm wrong. And to listy, I understand what you mean by your list. In no means was I saying this was everyone her, but the vast percentage of y'all
    Posted by heyitscarla[/QUOTE]



    wat?
    I'm not good at feelings.

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  • desertsundesertsun member
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    edited December 2011
    Bren, I'm totally calling you Listy from now on.

    Hey, OP! F*ck off. I'm sick of ridiculous AEs and pathetic, lame trolls.
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  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011

    Yes, I can tell you you're wrong, you don't have to beleive me.  Anyone can tell you you're wrong.

    How long have you been lurking?? Name names here, tell me who has the holier-than-thou attitude. List out this 'vast percentage'.

    When people come here, we're going to tell them not to plan a wedding until they are engaged.  You can do whatever you want, it just makes you look crazy. It can ruin an experience, it can ruin a relationship.

    I used to love playing Old Maid.  What's wrong with Old Maids?

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  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_whats-wrong-being-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:eee8315f-cdc4-4984-bdee-ae22fcc3d52dPost:f323d44d-625d-48f1-9ee4-150e60048994">Re: Whats wrong with being NEY?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>Bren, I'm totally calling you Listy from now on</strong>. Hey, OP! F*ck off. I'm sick of ridiculous AEs and pathetic, lame trolls.
    Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

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  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011
    Do people post this crap expecting us to have a 'coming to God' moment?  Or do they expect a bunch of lurkers to jump out and revolt? I don't get it.
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  • paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    edited December 2011

    Carla, you're a moron. No one north of the Mason-Dixon Line should say "Y'all". So if you really live in Long Island, stop with "y'all".

    Next, you're right - I have never "planed" out a life. I don't know how one would go about "planing" out a life. Do you parachute out or something? Just curious.

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  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_whats-wrong-being-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eee8315f-cdc4-4984-bdee-ae22fcc3d52dPost:2043c656-5bb7-4f03-8ca2-ac317f1d1aa5">Re: Whats wrong with being NEY?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Carla, you're a moron. No one north of the Mason-Dixon Line should say "Y'all". So if you really live in Long Island, stop with "y'all". Next, you're right - I have never "planed" out a life. I don't know how one would go about "planing" out a life. Do you parachute out or something? Just curious. STOMP STOMP STOMP STOMP STOMP STOMP STOMP
    Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]

    Ah, Paint, I was going to come back and make fun of the "planed" thing.  Curse you for beating me to it.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_whats-wrong-being-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:eee8315f-cdc4-4984-bdee-ae22fcc3d52dPost:2043c656-5bb7-4f03-8ca2-ac317f1d1aa5">Re: Whats wrong with being NEY?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Carla, you're a moron. No one north of the Mason-Dixon Line should say "Y'all". So if you really live in Long Island, stop with "y'all". Next, you're right - I have never "planed" out a life. I don't know how one would go about "planing" out a life. Do you parachute out or something? Just curious. STOMP STOMP STOMP STOMP STOMP STOMP STOMP
    Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]

    <div>And most people south of the Mason-Dixon do not write "y'all" in a real sentence. </div><div>
    </div><div>
    </div>

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  • paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_whats-wrong-being-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:eee8315f-cdc4-4984-bdee-ae22fcc3d52dPost:98121c9b-83c3-4090-86e6-522b9e2126f9">Re: Whats wrong with being NEY?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Whats wrong with being NEY?! : And most people south of the Mason-Dixon do not write "y'all" in a real sentence. 
    Posted by SeaTea02[/QUOTE]

    True story!
  • SKP82SKP82 member
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    edited December 2011
    HeyIt'sCarla's Intro HERE

    Screen Name: heyitscarla
    Age:24
    Significant Other's Age:23
    What You Do: Environmental Health Specialist
    What SO Does: Electrical Engineering Student
    State of Relationship: un officialy engaged
    How Long You've Been Together: five years
    When You're Getting Married (if you're engaged): August
    When You Got Married (if you're married):
    Fur Babies: allergic and yuck
    Favorite Color: pink
    Favorite Thing About Your SO: Mind
    Least Favorite Thing About Your SO: Too charming for his own good (too charming for other ladies.)
    Hobbies/Activities: Ballet, Painting
    Describe Your Personality: Set in my ways
    Snark Level (1 [low snark] - 10 [high snark]): IDK what snark is meant to describe
    Tell Us Something Interesting About Yourself: I've been dancing since I was three years old.


    Okay Y'ALL!!!  Clearly OP is crazy (or on drugs) since she's unofficially engaged to be married in August and doesn't like fur babies!!!!!  (I love how she put she's getting married in August when it says "IF YOU'RE ENGAGED!")

    Carla, you can leave now. 
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  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_whats-wrong-being-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:eee8315f-cdc4-4984-bdee-ae22fcc3d52dPost:d3185dfd-70c5-410a-a96b-e892f71e9d0e">Re: Whats wrong with being NEY?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]She doesn't like FUR BABIES???  Come back and play, OP. <strong>We won't bite :) 
    </strong>Posted by SeaTea02[/QUOTE]

    Sea just has a loud bark.
  • heyitscarlaheyitscarla member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Okay, I dont even want to bother
    with this because the posts
    are not in the correct order.

    But: I will.

    Thanks for making a snide remark on "planed".
    Funny.
    Point #1 PROVEN

    Actually
    all of y'all responses
    prove my point
    :)

    Skp82, thanks for judging
    my life. You dont know
    how I've planned things.

    You dont know that my BF and I
    are planning on getting
    married in August
    before his mother and father
    move to Germany
    for their job.

    Well: Now you do!


    I grew up South Carolina, and came to NY for school.
    What, none of you ever left your homes
    for some place else?

    VIVA LA LURKER REVOLUCION :)

    And again, y'all proved my point plain and simple!

    Oh, thanks for stalking my post and putting it here. That's not weird or anything.
  • ravenrayravenray member
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    edited December 2011
    This thread is so jacked up....
    And not just because half of the new posts are in the middle if you know what I mean... *side eyes carla*
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  • SKP82SKP82 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_whats-wrong-being-ney?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:eee8315f-cdc4-4984-bdee-ae22fcc3d52dPost:d3185dfd-70c5-410a-a96b-e892f71e9d0e">Re: Whats wrong with being NEY?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]She doesn't like FUR BABIES???  Come back and play, OP. <strong>We won't bite :) 
    </strong>Posted by SeaTea02[/QUOTE]

    Speak for yourself, SeaTea! 
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  • edited December 2011
    I miss all the good stuff.

    Damn me, being studious and writing papers and such.


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