You know what is annoying? High Schoolers... who are engaged!

ravenray

This girl is driving me crazy on the student board.  She has BSC written all over her posts.  But the really crazy kind, not just the "OMG I want to plan my future-may-never-happen wedding."  Her condescending tone is pissing me off too.  I wasn't even mean; I just questioned her relationship a little. And oh my did she take a high and mighty tone with me.  Want to read the crazy for yourself?  Oh and she is 15 and engaged, but for 3 years though so she can finish high school.  And the best part?  They had been dating for 1 year.  *sigh* got to love it!

 

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_students_engaged-sophmore_.0

 

To read the BSC for yourself.

Ollie08

Oh hell to the no... I'm not even sure what to say to her.

SKP82

A 17 year old dating a 14 year old creeps me the hell out.

I don't think you should be getting engaged if you can't legally even get married yet.  I really hope that is MUD.

Ollie08

She sounds like one of those crazy people... The ones that live in a compound and are all married to the same man? Like a cult or some crap...

ravenray

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_annoying-high-schoolers-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:f0ca911a-4cde-4126-8ee7-9beb43cbca43Post:1f64dac2-a669-4f26-b76c-688468a4ecab">Re: You know what is annoying? High Schoolers... who are engaged!</a>:
[QUOTE]... I just... I have no idea what to say. I sat here and read her posts to Tyler and oh how we laughed. As a dedicated watcher of /b/, Tyler says it sounds like a troll and he sincerely hopes that it's one. I, on the other hand, feel like this is real but also sincerely hope it's fake. It's scary.
Posted by ahstillwell[/QUOTE]
<p class="MsoNormal">I know I was just stunned.<span>  </span>I was so taken aback by her post.<span>  </span>I feel like it is real because the student board doesn't get many trolls (they are a bunch of softies) and she gave really long answerers.<span>  </span></p>

SKP82

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_annoying-high-schoolers-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:f0ca911a-4cde-4126-8ee7-9beb43cbca43Post:532952a1-7a0e-45a6-a945-91aa74c0dfa8">Re: You know what is annoying? High Schoolers... who are engaged!</a>:
[QUOTE]She sounds like one of those crazy people... The ones that live in a compound and are all married to the same man? Like a cult or some crap...
Posted by Ollie08[/QUOTE]

Hahaha.  Yeah, she actually does sound like that...

ravenray

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[QUOTE]She sounds like one of those crazy people... The ones that live in a compound and are all married to the same man? Like a cult or some crap...
Posted by Ollie08[/QUOTE]
You are right!  She scares me! 

bethsmiles

Oh the students board, *sigh*. There are plenty of great, not crazy girls over there but there are a lot of crazies ones as well who usually get support of their crazy by more than one or two people.

I'm really concerned that their parents are supposedly supporting this. My parents would have told me I had lost my damn mind if I thought I was going to get engaged when I was 14.

She sounds like the typical teenagers we see on this board - I'm so mature, you don't know us, I don't need life experience, blah blah blah. I doubt it will work out but some people need to make mistakes because they are mature enough to listen to the advice from others who have more experience than them.

ravenray

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[QUOTE]Oh the students board, *sigh*. There are plenty of great, not crazy girls over there but there are a lot of crazies ones as well who usually get support of their crazy by more than one or two people. I'm really concerned that their parents are supposedly supporting this. My parents would have told me I had lost my damn mind if I thought I was going to get engaged when I was 14. She sounds like the typical teenagers we see on this board - I'm so mature, you don't know us, I don't need life experience, blah blah blah. I doubt it will work out but some people need to make mistakes because they are mature enough to listen to the advice from others who have more experience than them.
Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]
OMG you are graduating in two weeks!!!   That is so exciting!  Do you know what you are going to do now??? 

bsidebella

What 15 year old thinks like that?! I am so weirded out right now...

beanbot2002

Hahahahahahahaha oh man. I can't even respond. I'm far too tempted to call her Sister Wife SoandSo. 

polkadot111

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: You know what is annoying? High Schoolers... who are engaged! : Happy early brithday beautiful!!! :)
Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

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HULU

I told myself back when I was a teenager that I was not going to get married until I was old enough to have champagne at my own wedding.

cu97tiger

All her posts are indicative of immaturity. Do you remember being 15? I never would have believed anyone that told me I would change in the next ten years. Thank God I didn't meet my fiance until almost 20 years later... that was the BEST thing that could have happened to me!

thejucheidea

... I just... I have no idea what to say. I sat here and read her posts to Tyler and oh how we laughed. As a dedicated watcher of /b/, Tyler says it sounds like a troll and he sincerely hopes that it's one. I, on the other hand, feel like this is real but also sincerely hope it's fake. It's scary.

Simply Fated

I know a few people who were high school sweethearts who are still happily married. 1) None of them were married right after high school. 2) None of them were engaged while still in high school. 3) None of them based any of their decisions on what a higher being, other than their parents, said. 4) At no time was any of their age differences disturbing. Most importantly: 5) None of them ever made comments like, "But you dont understand our situation!" or "It's different for us!" or "We're mature for our age!" There are reasons these people I knew are still together and it's because they had realistic expectations and waited until after high school to plan their lives together. What 17 wants to be with a girl barely through puberty?!

thejucheidea

At first I thought I was too taken aback by the post to add a meme to it, but then I realized that there was only one thing to be said to this girl.

caitlin.cave

FI said that the high school he went to for a bit was filled with people like this.  I totally agree that you should not get engaged before you can legally get married.  Like, there's a reason people can't legally choose to commit to each other before 18.

polkadot111

She's crazy, but I gave her some advice anyways. Wish I would have just said that she is messed up, but whatever.

ravenray

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[QUOTE]She's crazy, but I gave her some advice anyways. Wish I would have just said that she is messed up, but whatever.
Posted by polkadot111[/QUOTE]
Happy early brithday beautiful!!! :)

deburnin

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[QUOTE]She sounds like one of those crazy people... The ones that live in a compound and are all married to the same man? Like a cult or some crap...
Posted by Ollie08[/QUOTE]

<div>Agreed... She certainly doesn't talk like any fourteen year old I know.</div><div>
</div><div>My parents have a disturbingly large age gap when you go back to when they met... My mom was 13  and my dad was 21. They did not start dating then however. Eight years doesn't seem like a big difference now, but it sure looks creepy when you think about when they first met. But it was my mom who chased my dad, he didn't want anything to do with her at first. lol</div>

kellyt89

I responded once to this and then I just couldn't anymore. There's literally nothing you can say to someone like that. I'm surprised she's allowed to have the internet at her house.

alyaki

Yeah.... she's BSC... it makes my head hurt.

wink0erin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: You know what is annoying? High Schoolers... who are engaged! : Agreed... She certainly doesn't talk like any fourteen year old I know. My parents have a disturbingly large age gap when you go back to when they met... My mom was 13  and my dad was 21. They did not start dating then however. Eight years doesn't seem like a big difference now, but it sure looks creepy when you think about when they first met. But it was my mom who chased my dad, he didn't want anything to do with her at first. lol
Posted by deburnin[/QUOTE]

My parents have an 11 year age difference. When they got married Mom was 24 and Dad was 35. We laugh about it a lot. On my 11th birthday I remember saying "HAHA, DAD, WHEN YOU WERE TURNING 11 MOM WAS JUST BORN!"

ravenray

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[QUOTE]Oh em gee.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]
Right?  I was like 0.o  I have to share this with NEY!

audrewuh

Okay, if you go back and read my response, don't bite my head off! I wanted to give her the ministry perspective and it's the exact response I would have given one of my teens if they had come to me saying all of this. I highly doubt her parents are on board here as much as she thinks they are. If she's as confident as she says she is, especially in God's plan (which umm... sorry, but your interpretation of God's plan can be very off some times, especially when you're 14), then her parents will hopefully knock some sense into her. Most parents that support and promote courting don't do so until the daughter is in her early to mid 20's. Other wise she's not allowed to date. 

Okay, rant finished, I think. This has irked me all night since I read it on my fire and couldn't respond.

You guys gave some great advice and I hope she reads it all...

Bowlingchick825

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[QUOTE]Oh hell to the no... I'm not even sure what to say to her.
Posted by Ollie08[/QUOTE]

I missed this?! Where/when did this happen? I knew I had to check in this weekend but didn't get around to it since I was super busy with house stuff....and Doggy stuff...and family stuff.  That's INSANE!

caitlin.cave

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[QUOTE]I didn't have my first boyfriend until 16. I had no romantic feelings about boys until then, honestly. They were all such immature losers.
Posted by hellotarra[/QUOTE]

This.  And I think it was good that way.  I really hope she doesn't end up regretting this for her whole life.

csousa1

I just responded to her thread. I couldn't  hold it back - I've had to bite my tongue too much already this weekend to be able to keep my mouth shut.

wink0erin

I couldn't hold back either. For one, I was "engaged" my soph year of high school too, that lasted a couple months. No one even believed us, haha. I don't even tell people about it because it's embarassing how naive I was. The guy was VERY controlling too.

Plus, the fact her parents seem wary of the idea, and how her FI and his parents are moving to Texas and she is expected to go with and be a homemaker, all in the name of God, just disgusts me. It screams control and brainwashing. Like the guy burned into her skull that they were meant to be together and God would frown on her if she broke free of that path.

Ollie08

Sousa, your response was spot on. Seriously. I just... It still makes me go