marriage vs living together,

LilTexasGal

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_marriage-vs-living-together?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:f658c82b-1e06-4a85-9b8a-f05d4874710ePost:76f8c40b-edf3-4e8b-95e5-375656512481">Re: marriage vs living together,</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: marriage vs living together, : Precisely. It infuriates me that even with something like a POA, gay partners are barred from visiting their loved one in a "family only" situation. I wonder if any hospitals have changed the rules to allow for situations like that? I can see how it would be easy enough to make a clause that allows for family and emergency contacts to be able to visit the ICU, ER, etc. <strong>Unless there's some legality I'm missing?</strong>
Posted by eirwyn[/QUOTE]

I feel the same way, and have wondered if there is some legal reason why only family is allowed back with them. I've always thought it was to keep the "crowd" down. I don't want to open a debate here about same sex marriages - because I know it can be very intense - but barring a loved one from visiting an ill loved one just because the LAW doesn't allow them to marry is BS.

However, I've never run into the issue of them not letting my FI back with me when I've had to go to the ER. They do give us dumb looks though, but I couldn't dream of him not being with me. He is very protective of me, and I feel safer when he's there. I've always said that I knew he was the one for me when he took me to the ER at one in the morning, and stayed up guarding me and keeping tabs on my doctors until I was admitted into the hospital and my parents showed up and demanded that he go get some sleep.

NurseyK

We will file as married but filing separately because I'll get a huge break on my student loans under the IBR program. Otherwise, I think filing separately is for people who are separated but still married.