Got married 12/31/2010 b/c of military issues and moving overseas. :)

Cynthia1207

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_got-married-12312010-bc-of-military-issues-moving-overseas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:f01ba7d1-204c-4b3a-b904-1aab4638e90bPost:c6fb4cf7-eced-4c6c-9737-fa4f3e0cec5e">Re: Got married 12/31/2010 b/c of military issues and moving overseas. :)</a>:
[QUOTE]There have been a lot of these posts lately! And they haven't even had questions attached to them. OP-- don't have a shower. It's really not proper etiquette to have a shower when you're already married. Why not have another kind of party instead? My sisters wanted to throw me a shower before our blessing ceremony since I never had one before the wedding, but I didn't feel comfortable, so they threw me a tea party instead. No presents, and everyone still got to hang out together as a group of family ladies. And honestly, why do ppl care if random strangers on the internet will attend your party? presumably you think enough people in your circle will attend and want to celebrate with you, or you wouldn't be inviting them! Right? <strong>Cynthia, I'm beginning to think these posts are a massive conspiracy to create drama and controversy.
</strong>Posted by LuluP82[/QUOTE]

I don't know.  They keep coming and going all the time....It's getting annoying as hell

LuluP82

I think so too. It's one thing when a person comes on here and says I'm planning my wedding and then everyone finds out she's already married and it all blows up. It's quite another to see so many "asking for opinions" when 1) there are 8,000,000 posts on this all over the place and 2) if your family and friends truly don't care, then why are you asking us?

It's kind of like when ppl post about is it okay to have a cash bar. If you're asking, it's probably not.

MattNCarol

I'd say.. vow renewal or wedding... do whatever you want to do, if you, your husband, your family and his family will be happy with this big thing, totally go for it. Here all you can get is opinions and new ideas, which you could use or not. If I was you, I'd do everything me and my husband wanted to, and if our families agrees and support.. way better... my opinion.. go for it, do everything you want to do, and great that you know your anniversary will always be the day you actually married, legally. So, good luck with your vow renewal and everything

browneydhero

I am sure that everyone invited knows about your situation. I highly doubt that ANYONE would care if you were in a white dress and had a wedding party.

You have your shower and WEDDING. Its fine. Everyones situation is differnt. Forget all these debbie downers trying to take the fun out of everything. I dont see why they need to nit pick on everything. Who cares if you were a big gown or have a wedding party or get gifts? The people that support you and want to join in on the fun will. Those that dont want to join in, wont. the end. You enjoy it either way!

browneydhero

To all the bitches complaining about people asking questions about this......You dont have to answer or even read it....

= )

Cynthia1207

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_got-married-12312010-bc-of-military-issues-moving-overseas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:f01ba7d1-204c-4b3a-b904-1aab4638e90bPost:aec86c53-31bb-44f8-bae2-845937567e1c">Re: Got married 12/31/2010 b/c of military issues and moving overseas. :)</a>:
[QUOTE]To all the bitches complaining about people asking questions about this......You dont have to answer or even read it.... = )
Posted by browneydhero[/QUOTE]

It's a public message board.  We can answer whatever we want.  Using the word bitch however goes against TKs TOS. 

browneydhero

Responding about how sick you are of certain questions is stupid. If someone has a problem with a strangers situation don't respond. It is unnecessary and certainly unhelpful.
I dont know what TOS stands for but I'm guessing its some guidelines for posting..... I really don't care if what I said is out of line. I'm sure the wedding nazi's will report it.

Cynthia1207

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_got-married-12312010-bc-of-military-issues-moving-overseas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:f01ba7d1-204c-4b3a-b904-1aab4638e90bPost:f92ab067-6295-4d7e-82ef-a81efe0bc748">Re: Got married 12/31/2010 b/c of military issues and moving overseas. :)</a>:
[QUOTE]Responding about how sick you are of certain questions is stupid. If someone has a problem with a strangers situation don't respond. It is unnecessary and certainly unhelpful. I dont know what TOS stands for but I'm guessing its some guidelines for posting..... I really don't care if what I said is out of line. I'm sure the wedding nazi's will report it.
Posted by browneydhero[/QUOTE]

No people starting threads about issues that have been answered and reanswered about a gazillion times without even thinking of using the search button is stupid.  And if you don't care for posting guidelines why are you here?   By the way I quoted what you said so editing your post after the fact doesn't change anything.  People are still going to see what you wrote.

TOS = Terms of service.  You know thing you agree to abide by if you decide to post?  If you don't give a damn about it then why are you even posting?

browneydhero

The Knot must have erased my post because I sure didn't, I could care less if people see what I wrote, I meant it!

"No people starting threads about issues that have been answered and reanswered about a gazillion times without even thinking of using the search button is stupid"

That could apply to pretty much ANYTHING on the boards because pretty much EVERY situation has been covered. People like to post and ask advice about their personal situations. If you don't like it then why the heck are you here?

jess9802

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_got-married-12312010-bc-of-military-issues-moving-overseas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:f01ba7d1-204c-4b3a-b904-1aab4638e90bPost:f63fec7f-99a9-4c54-912e-8133878ed3ea">Re: Got married 12/31/2010 b/c of military issues and moving overseas. :)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Got married 12/31/2010 b/c of military issues and moving overseas. :) : <strong> It also bothers me how many girls don't feel their marriage is validated until they have a PPD. </strong>My mom and her husband have been happily married for nearly 20 years, and they had a simple JOP ceremony (my mom wasn't even wearing white *gasp*... she also had to repeat everything the JOP was saying to my stepdad because he spoke so fast and with such a thick accent that my stepdad couldn't understand him haha). I also don't buy the excuse that the family is "forcing the issue" - all you have to say to shut them up is something along the lines of: "We're sorry you didn't get to share in the day like you'd hoped, but regardless of the lack of making a huge production of it, we are happily married none-the-less." End of discussion. ETA: Decline the shower. Skip the wedding party, the fluffy white dress, the processional, the cake, etc. If you feel you NEED to be in white, find something simple to wear.
Posted by KellyBrian2013[/QUOTE]

Yes, and it's not just the brides. My FSIL had a JOP wedding before her husband deployed to Iraq, and then they had a public "ceremony" and reception on their first anniversary. My FMIL refers to the latter event as her daughter's "real wedding." I don't get it, myself.

Cynthia1207

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_got-married-12312010-bc-of-military-issues-moving-overseas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:f01ba7d1-204c-4b3a-b904-1aab4638e90bPost:75947630-5e46-44bc-a713-382c09b6e817">Re: Got married 12/31/2010 b/c of military issues and moving overseas. :)</a>:
[QUOTE]The Knot must have erased my post because I sure didn't, I could care less if people see what I wrote, I meant it! "No people starting threads about issues that have been answered and reanswered about a gazillion times without even thinking of using the search button is stupid" That could apply to pretty much ANYTHING on the boards because pretty much EVERY situation has been covered. People like to post and ask advice about their personal situations.<strong> If you don't like it then why the heck are you here?
</strong>Posted by browneydhero[/QUOTE]

Because I actually enjoy giving real advice to people, not validating crappy ideas.  I just get annoyed when in one day, I see 5 threads about the same exact subject.  Since you hvaen't been around long enough, you haven't had the enjoyable experience of that yet.