Flower Girls

KateyHumbert

Sorry for the misinterpretation. 

KellyBrian2013

By worrying more about how their heads will look on your wedding day rather than commending such young people on their donation to charity & thoughtfulness, you've already become a bridezilla.

Good for them, and let them wear their bald heads with pride.

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]So I choose my cousins two little girls, 6 and 3, to be my flower girls for my wedding August 8. They did have cute little girl curls until today when I found out they had shaved their heads for a cancer fundraiser. Their mother did not tell me ahead of time, or has told me in any way. Now my two little flower girls will have hair maybe 1-2 inches long. What do I do? Should I have them ware hats? That wasnt my original plan. Should I have them wear head bands with big flowers? Or should I just say not have any at all. I dont know how to approach the mother and discuss my thoughts with her, I don't want to go Bridezilla on her.
Posted by KateyHumbert[/QUOTE]

JIC.

mrshellem2012

I think having them wear head bands with flowers is a really cute idea, maybe they could have stringers off the head band in the back, Or veils maybe?
 I dont think it is anything to worry about so i hope you arent too stressed about it. Good Luck Bride2B

theluckiest555

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[QUOTE]By worrying more about how their heads will look on your wedding day rather than commending such young people on their donation to charity & thoughtfulness, you've already become a bridezilla. Good for them, and let them wear their bald heads with pride.
Posted by KellyBrian2013[/QUOTE]


I agree with this. Good for them for what they did. But if you are still worried about it, the head band idea sounds cute.

kara811

Let them wear their hair however they want to. What they did is very charitable and commendable. Don't even say anything to their mom, those are her kids. No one at your wedding will care that your FGs are bald. They'll probably love them more if they knew the whole story.

MairePoppy

Isn't anyone curious about how a 6 and a 3 year old made such a mature decision? They probably didn't come up with this idea on their own.
If you think they'd look cute in the headbands, just ask their mom about that. Don't say anything about their hair.

mmhepb

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[QUOTE]Isn't anyone curious about how a 6 and a 3 year old made such a mature decision? 
Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I wouldn't be worried about their hair, but I also wonder how they made this decision.  Especially the 3 year old.  I can see how a mature 6 year old would have some amount of understanding and may want to support a friend or relative in this way. But the 3 year old, I doubt it.

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NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]By worrying more about how their heads will look on your wedding day rather than commending such young people on their donation to charity & thoughtfulness, you've already become a bridezilla. Good for them, and let them wear their bald heads with pride.
Posted by KellyBrian2013[/QUOTE]

Agreed.

Also OP. Change your Username. First and Last names don't make good user names. Internet safety! :)

Mrs.B6302007

Sounds to me like you care more about using these girls as wedding props than anything else. 

CassieeK

The headbands are a great idea. 

aegrish

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bald Flower Girls : I wouldn't be worried about their hair, but I also wonder how they made this decision.  Especially the 3 year old.  I can see how a mature 6 year old would have some amount of understanding and may want to support a friend or relative in this way. <strong>But the 3 year old, I doubt it.
</strong>Posted by mmhepb[/QUOTE]

this.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]Isn't anyone curious about how a 6 and a 3 year old made such a mature decision? They probably didn't come up with this idea on their own. If you think they'd look cute in the headbands, just ask their mom about that. Don't say anything about their hair.
Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]

Yeah, it may not have been their idea but I suppose it doesn't really matter now  since what's done is done.

MyNameIsNot

Seriously?  These kids shaved their heads for a charity, and your first thought is how it will look in your wedding?!

Holy superficial, batman.  Good luck with all that.

stacie+luciano

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[QUOTE]Let them wear their hair however they want to. What they did is very charitable and commendable. Don't even say anything to their mom, those are her kids. No one at your wedding will care that your FGs are bald. <strong>They'll probably love them more if they knew the whole story.</strong>
Posted by kara811[/QUOTE]

<div>Yup. So true.</div>

Summer2011Bride

Regardless of how/why these young girls made this decision, the point is, they are not your kids and shouldn't be used as props! I would not say anything obviously, not even to suggest a headband. If the mother wants them to wear that, she can. What if one of the FG's really did have cancer and was bald b/c of treatment? Would you also be this upset about her lack of hair and wanting her to cover it up? Probably not, b/c you'd come across as a jerk. This should be no different. Just b/c the hair loss was a choice, not a necessity, doesn't make it any more your place to say something.

Queen Jane

Seriously? Get over yourself. No one has to consult you before making cosmetic changes (for what ever reason) whether they are 6 or 60 years old. Once you embrace that, I promise you will immediately feel less stressed.

GoodLuckBear14

How is having 1 -2 inches of hair bald???

SilverLining1

So they shaved their heads for a cancer fundraiser, to raise money for cancer. Whose victims often lose their hair. And you can only think about how bad it will look. What if they actually had cancer? Would you insist on covering their heads then? That's telling me that you think that them looking like props is more important than who they actually are.

ETA that my snarkiness was residual from another poster.. I can understand your concern, but the best advice is to just learn to roll with these kinds of things. You can't control the things that other people do, and you really shouldn't try or stress over it. I think that they will look just as adorable. 

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]Seriously?  These kids shaved their heads for a charity, and your first thought is how it will look in your wedding?! Holy superficial, batman.  Good luck with all that.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]
*likes*<div>
<div>OP, Yoouu soundlikeanasshat. They are not props, they are children. Is the only reason you're having them in the wedding because you think you need to have 2 cute kids walk down the aisle?</div></div>

loves2shop4shoes

You should definitely make them wear wigs.  And make that hoar of a mother of theirs pay for it.  How DARE they shave their heads before your wedding!  Charity, schmarity, YOU'RE GETTING MARRIED!

mob2689

I had a freind of a freind who had cancer, and the woman's chidlren(all 4- 3 girls & 1 boy in the same age group as these girls) and husband all shaved thier heads to support thier mom/wife.

I would not stress about it, and as PP stated.

You could also do flower rings with streamers on the back. I personaly wouldn't do anything but them shine as they are w/o noting on thier heads.

I would also not say anything to the mother or any one else how you veiw this, it does as pp stated, make you sorta of a bridezilla. The mother did not have to tell you nothing about it, would it have been nice to give you a heads up? Yes, but she wasn't obligated to do so, and didn't need your permission on what she was going to do with her children. Maybe it was better that she didn't give you a heads up based on your reaction.

Beazilla

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bald Flower Girls : I wouldn't be worried about their hair, but I also wonder how they made this decision.  Especially the 3 year old.  I can see how a mature 6 year old would have some amount of understanding and may want to support a friend or relative in this way. But the 3 year old, I doubt it.
Posted by mmhepb[/QUOTE]
I can see the 6 year old making the decision and the 3 year old wanting to look like her big sister.

The girls will look adorable with 1-2 inches of hair and their parents can fix their hair the morning of the wedding. A headband with a flower reminds me too much of babies, but a wreath of flowers might look nice if you're really concerned (I think they look nice on all flower girls regardless of hair length).

RamonaFlowers

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[QUOTE]Seriously?  These kids shaved their heads for a charity, and your first thought is how it will look in your wedding?! Holy superficial, batman.  Good luck with all that.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

Couldn't have said it better myself.

SparrowSong

LOL. I love this thread.

trix1223

My DH is bald.  Bald means NO hair on his wonderful head.  These little girls are not bald.  They have 1-2" of hair on their head.  Think of it as a pixie cut.  Because that's what they have.

And they  have done something completely altruistic by making a bold gesture about a devastating disease.  You on the other hand, are worried about your pictures.

Who is the more mature here?  Hint:  it's not you.

MairePoppy

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bald Flower Girls : Yeah, it may not have been their idea but I suppose it doesn't really matter now  since what's done is done.
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

Agreed.

I also agree that the parents don't have to get the bride's approval, just as the other wp members don't have to get permission for hair style changes, tattoos etc...

I wondered, though, what gave the girls the idea to shave their heads.

KateyHumbert

Thanks everyone for weighing in and I value the opinions but I think most people are missing the point.

First of all I am not angry they shaved their heads, if it had been any other time or any other kids I would be supportive but it is only a couple months before my wedding and now these two litttle girls will have 1-2 inches of hair.  They will not still be bald just have really short hair.  If one of them had cancer or something it would a totally different situation, the fact is they dont have cancer and when they saw their mom shaving her head they just wanted to do it too.  

I don't know what to do with the short hair and I also want ideas of how to dress up short hair.  I was not expecting this situation.  At least they could have ran it by me and maybe postponed the shaving until after the wedding.

Thanks everyone

PS I have heard horrer stories about brides asking the only blonde in their wedding party to dye her hair brunette to match everyone else, Id like to think Im not THAT bad.

RamonaFlowers

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[QUOTE]Thanks everyone for weighing in and <strong>I value the opinions but I think most people are missing the point. </strong>First of all I am not angry they shaved their heads, if it had been any other time or any other kids I would be supportive but it is only a couple months before my wedding and now these two litttle girls will have 1-2 inches of hair.  They will not still be bald just have really short hair.  If one of them had cancer or something it would a totally different situation, the fact is they dont have cancer and when they saw their mom shaving her head they just wanted to do it too.   I don't know what to do with the short hair and I also want ideas of how to dress up short hair.  I was not expecting this situation.  At least they could have ran it by me and maybe postponed the shaving until after the wedding. Thanks everyone PS I have heard horrer stories about brides asking the only blonde in their wedding party to dye her hair brunette to match everyone else, Id like to think Im not THAT bad.
Posted by KateyHumbert[/QUOTE]

I think <strong>you</strong> missed the point. They are children, not props. They did something selfless for a good cause and <strong>you're</strong> worried about something as trivial as how some pictures are going to look because of it.

Sorry, but doing something to join the fight against cancer trumps anything related to your wedding in the grand scheme of things. You really need to get some perspective and realize just how silly you sound.

Ghoti

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[QUOTE]Thanks everyone for weighing in and I value the opinions but I think most people are missing the point. First of all I am not angry they shaved their heads, if it had been any other time or any other kids I would be supportive but it is only a couple months before my wedding and now these two litttle girls will have 1-2 inches of hair.  They will not still be bald just have really short hair.  If one of them had cancer or something it would a totally different situation, the fact is they dont have cancer and when they saw their mom shaving her head they just wanted to do it too.   I don't know what to do with the short hair and I also want ideas of how to dress up short hair.  I was not expecting this situation.  <strong>At least they could have ran it by me and maybe postponed the shaving until after the wedding. </strong>Thanks everyone PS I have heard horrer stories about brides asking the only blonde in their wedding party to dye her hair brunette to match everyone else, Id like to think Im not THAT bad.
Posted by KateyHumbert[/QUOTE]
No, they don't need to run it by you. You are being just as petty as the women who want all blondes in there wedding party, although I actually never heard of that.

vicki0508

Did you expect the parents to consult with you first?  Seriously, just get them some headbands and quit worrying about it.