ANNOYED WITH RUDE REPLIES TO POSTS

BRITTANY143dsl

awww no LADY GATOR this post isnt about just the replies over there its about alot of rude replies i have been seeing on peoples posts it just upsets me that we cant all get along and say positive feedback.. i didnt see your apology and thank you for apologizes I apologize if I came off rude to you i was just confused with our conversation at first...and damn i wish I could change my name now lol.... also i posted this over ehre because I didnt think it fit with wedding etiquette I try to post things on the board that is most suiting

LDYGTR13

Unfortunately, like Mrs. B said, people don't take kindly to being told how to post. I've been grateful (albeit later on) for some of the brutal honesty that has come from this site. I've also cried because of the things on this site, but unfortunately it's not something anyone can control except for the specific posters.

Yes, somepeople will be biitchy. Yes, somepeople will be rude. Yes some people will even be hurtful. But honestly, it's just one of those things.

I'm sorry you don't like the vibe. Wedding Wire (another wedding site) seems to have more upbeat and supportive brides if thats more your thing.

ETA: Supportive isn't the right word, because the girls on the E board have been some of the most supportive women I've ever "met" in my life. Wedding Wire has more brides that will give validation to more things.

noodle_oo

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[QUOTE]you are obviusly misreading my post reply I NEVER said they where behaving badly you are the one that said would I lvoe to be lectured. IM GETTING SICK AND TIRED of the very few of you replying to my post and misreading it... i posted 3 posts on there how about you read EVERYTHING before you post and I appreciate the veteran brides that are giving me sound advice but this in an onlin community and jsut beacuse some of the women have been on ehre for years doesnt mean they can be rude to newbies do they run this site? do they control this site? and many of the people im compalining about...im not compalining about anyone in particular I just stated an opinion based on numerous rude replies I have seen on all kinds of peoples posts...i was just trying to get some clarity on why some people are rude on here and its funny how many rude responses I got which just proves my point.....I wish everyone the best and good luck with there futures I am not going to respond to ridiculous replies anymore...
Posted by BRITTANY143dsl[/QUOTE]

You ran away to another board to complain about how rude posters on E were to you.  You don't see that as slightly rude or inappropriate or anything at all?  Would you do that at work?  I just kind of think you need to grow up a little.  This is the internet, you need to develop a thicker skin.

BRITTANY143dsl

I posted this on the board of chit chat because this is what it is chit chat NOT WEDDING ETIQUETTE... and if you read my posts I said it wasnt just about that post its about tons and tons of replies i have been seeing since I got my account.. AND THANKS LADY GATOR AND CHAMPAGNE SUPPER for your advice...Ill take the good with the bad!

pretzelgrrl

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: ANNOYED WITH RUDE REPLIES TO POSTS : You ran away to another board to complain about how rude posters on E were to you.  You don't see that as slightly rude or inappropriate or anything at all?  Would you do that at work?  I just kind of think you need to grow up a little.  This is the internet, you need to develop a thicker skin.
Posted by noodle_oo[/QUOTE]

She didn't run away...she went to what she thought was the most appropriate board...she already said that in a previous post.

J&K10910

I want a champagne supper.

stacie+luciano

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[QUOTE]I want a champagne supper.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm dumb, whats a champagne supper?</div>

J&K10910

Well, I think she was referring to Champagne Supernova.  But she called her Champagne Supper.  Look up like 4 posts.

mkrupar

Congratulations OP, you've inspired me to add another point to my newb myth vs. fact post. Please see below to Myth #6.

 

I am really sick of having to read these lectures from people with less than 500 posts. You haven't been around enough to sit there and think that your words are going to have any effect on a bunch of people who have been posting here for a while. Check out my join date. It's just over a year ago, so no, not EVERYONE has been here FOREVER.

 

How about we have a rant about newb behavior:

 

Newb Myth 1: They have this notion in their mind that we're all here to hold their hands and support them while planning their wedding

 

Fact 1: If you need support planning you wedding you're doing it wrong. It's a party, a big party, but essentially still a party. We're here to make sure you understand that the day is NOT all about you (general you) and that you have an understanding of how to make your guests comfortable. We also want to make sure you don't look like an idiot in front of your friends and loved ones by committing some serious error.

 

Newb Myth 2: They think regs are all a bunch of mean old hags that have nothing better to do than pick on new people. And tell us this all the time.

 

Fact 2: Please reference fact 1 and remember that because a lot of us have been here we've formed friendships and this is a great way to continue those friendships. Sure we could all move on to TN and TB, but this is where we met, this is where we like to keep in contact. If there were no marrieds here who would give you the advice you need? It would be the blind leading the blind.

 

Newb Myth 3: They think they can come on here and ask regs to validate an obviously bad idea.

 

Fact 3: If your idea is bad, you will get called out on it. It not only happens in WR threads, but in NWR threads all the time. People aren't afraid to tell you when you're showing your ass.

 

Newb Myth 4: They think jumping in on a discussion that they have no prior reference to is a great idea because they want to be the great defender of all newbs.

 

Fact 4: No one around here likes anyone to play "Captain Save-a-Newb" If you have no prior reference to the discussion at hand, lurk, get to know the dynamics, then state your opionion.

 

Newb Myth 5: Grammar, spelling, and puncuation don't matter because this is a forum and they can be lazy about it.

 

Fact 5: This is a written forum. The only way you communicate and get your point across is through written form. If you don't use correct grammar, punctuation, and spelling, it's generally assumed that you are not a very good communicator. You could be the smartest person in the world, but if you choose to type in text speak or lacking in grammar, you will be perceived as less than intelligent.

 

Newb Myth #6: If a newb gets flamed and don't like the responses they get, they think it's a brilliant idea to run to another board and post a rant about how mean and unhelpful people are being. Like telling a bunch of adults how to act is really going to make them want to help you.

Fact: These posts will get you no where. Well, forgive me, they will get you imprinted in everyone's minds that you're "that poster" that essentially walked into a room full of adults and shouted at all of them and tried to tell them what to do. This does nothing to help your cause.

 

NEWSFLASH: A majority of regs got flamed when they first started posting. But you know what? They took their lashings, LEARNED from what people were telling them, and then returned with a better attitude.

 

Edited: spacing for clarity

stacie+luciano

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[QUOTE]Well, I think she was referring to Champagne Supernova.  But she called her Champagne Supper.  Look up like 4 posts.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>Haha oh, okay. I just skimmed the first page. My head wanted to explode.</div>

BRITTANY143dsl

im so sorry Champagne Supernova my interenet cut your name off at the sup and I dont know why I thought to put supper makes no sense im sorry for it...and wow your DIY projects are amazing!!

BRITTANY143dsl

im over this newbie and brides that been on here for years you guys dont run this site like you are trying to being rude to newbies.....NEWS FLASH everyone was a newbie before doesnt mean you have to be rude to us! over it over it over it! your myths and facts GTFOYS! I truly appreciate the ADVICE I have gotten from veteran brides on here and with those NICE VETERAN BRIDES that give advice but some of the veteran brides need to realize they dont run this site and being rude to everyone on here isnt helping.... now im not saying all veteran brides are rude because I have come across more nice then rude here im just saying the rude ones really stand out for no reason to be rude

NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]Congratulations OP, you've inspired me to add another point to my newb myth vs. fact post. Please see below to Myth #6.   I am really sick of having to read these lectures from people with less than 500 posts. You haven't been around enough to sit there and think that your words are going to have any effect on a bunch of people who have been posting here for a while. Check out my join date. It's just over a year ago, so no, not EVERYONE has been here FOREVER.   How about we have a rant about newb behavior:   Newb Myth 1: They have this notion in their mind that we're all here to hold their hands and support them while planning their wedding   Fact 1: If you need support planning you wedding you're doing it wrong. It's a party, a big party, but essentially still a party. We're here to make sure you understand that the day is NOT all about you (general you) and that you have an understanding of how to make your guests comfortable. We also want to make sure you don't look like an idiot in front of your friends and loved ones by committing some serious error.   Newb Myth 2: They think regs are all a bunch of mean old hags that have nothing better to do than pick on new people. And tell us this all the time.   Fact 2: Please reference fact 1 and remember that because a lot of us have been here we've formed friendships and this is a great way to continue those friendships. Sure we could all move on to TN and TB, but this is where we met, this is where we like to keep in contact. If there were no marrieds here who would give you the advice you need? It would be the blind leading the blind.   Newb Myth 3: They think they can come on here and ask regs to validate an obviously bad idea.   Fact 3: If your idea is bad, you will get called out on it. It not only happens in WR threads, but in NWR threads all the time. People aren't afraid to tell you when you're showing your ass.   Newb Myth 4: They think jumping in on a discussion that they have no prior reference to is a great idea because they want to be the great defender of all newbs.   Fact 4: No one around here likes anyone to play "Captain Save-a-Newb" If you have no prior reference to the discussion at hand, lurk, get to know the dynamics, then state your opionion.   Newb Myth 5: Grammar, spelling, and puncuation don't matter because this is a forum and they can be lazy about it.   Fact 5: This is a written forum. The only way you communicate and get your point across is through written form. If you don't use correct grammar, punctuation, and spelling, it's generally assumed that you are not a very good communicator. You could be the smartest person in the world, but if you choose to type in text speak or lacking in grammar, you will be perceived as less than intelligent.   Newb Myth #6: If a newb gets flamed and don't like the responses they get, they think it's a brilliant idea to run to another board and post a rant about how mean and unhelpful people are being. Like telling a bunch of adults how to act is really going to make them want to help you. Fact: These posts will get you no where. Well, forgive me, they will get you imprinted in everyone's minds that you're "that poster" that essentially walked into a room full of adults and shouted at all of them and tried to tell them what to do. This does nothing to help your cause.   NEWSFLASH: A majority of regs got flamed when they first started posting. But you know what? They took their lashings, LEARNED from what people were telling them, and then returned with a better attitude.   Edited: spacing for clarity
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]


That is just purely brillant!! Love!

mkrupar

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[QUOTE]im over this newbie and brides that been on here for years...over it over it over it! your myths and facts GTFOYS!
Posted by BRITTANY143dsl[/QUOTE]

Well if you weren't posting like a newb and would actually listen to what these ladies are saying it woudln't have needed to be brought out. Sorry. You keep digging yourself deeper and you're not helping your cause.

Birdie1483

OH EM GEE GUYTHS!

mkrupar

Oh and please next time please refrain from swearing at me. It's against the TOS of TK. I realize you used an acronym, but everyone knows what you've said. mkthnx

Birdie1483

Oh mk STFU :-P j/k

mkrupar

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[QUOTE]Oh mk STFU :-P j/k
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

I'm totally reporting your ass for that.

:-p <3 you Birdie

BRITTANY143dsl

im glad everyone realized what i said it was meant that way block IDGAF I have a real life I can live without "the knot" some of YOU veteran brides are hilarious...calling us newbies but you all where some before

NcsuPsych

OP. . .EVERYONE on here has had crappy comebacks and replies to previous posts.

I could name names of those that have recently had their butts lit on fire from being flammed so bad. But ya know what?! They accepted that everyone is different and will always have different opinions no matter what. It's called life.

Coming onto another board to vent/whine/alert/cry . . whatever because some other board didn't agree with something, gets you absolutely no where. If you think E is bad now. . man, you should have seen it when I start posting two years ago (dang, it's really been that long. . jeez) anyways. That was some crazy stuff back then.

If you don't like the advice given, take it with a grain of salt. No one says you HAVE to listen to it.

The benefit to TK is that the ladies here will give you a hard and honest opinion of things that may not be such a great idea.

They will tell you, that your butt looks fat in those pants, as opposed to your IRL friends that'll be like 'Nooo you look awesome' simply to spare your feelings.

So. . that the replies just as they are, simply replies. You also dont have to read them either if you don't want to. As addictive as TK is, there are many many many other threads that you can divert your attention to

Now, I'm finished with this ramble. I'm cold and wet from walking around 5 miles in the flippin rain. So before I get snippy, I'll excuse myself )

mkrupar

Umm yea, did you read the newsflash part of my post? That's my point. Everyone's been where you are, and instead of continuing on like you are, they learned, lurked (like about 15 people have told you to do so far) and they're still around.

I love that you think just because we've been here for a while means we have no life. You're not the first one to tell us that. Are you going to tell us you feel sorry for our H/FIs next?

NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]im glad everyone realized what i said it was meant that way block IDGAF I have a real life I can live without "the knot" some of YOU veteran brides are hilarious...calling us newbies but you all where some before
Posted by BRITTANY143dsl[/QUOTE]

Oh Geez, go take you're freaking Thumper qoute with Bambi and go frolic in the woods over in puppies and rainbow land.

J&K10910

Ok Brittany, in all seriousness, it'll be ok.  I think you'd have better luck with your month or local boards.  They tend to be a little nicer than the national boards, but very helpful.  I don't mean this in a mean way, I promise, but I just don't think you have the right personality for the national boards. 

NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]Umm yea, did you read the newsflash part of my post? That's my point. Everyone's been where you are, and instead of continuing on like you are, they learned, lurked (like about 15 people have told you to do so far) and they're still around. I love that you think just because we've been here for a while means we have no life. You're not the first one to tell us that. <strong>Are you going to tell us you feel sorry for our H/FIs next?</strong>
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]

I feel sorry for my DH. . . but simply because he carried the bookbag all over the historic area and got rained on because my stupid umbrella sucks!
He's taking a nap now though, so actually, I don't feel sorry for him.

Amt2109

LOL, this is still going on?

I've wondered how some of these things carry on like this.... having been in one from the beginning I finally know :P

you ladies!

stacie+luciano

OP, I got flammed once, badly. I ignored it, took a cool off, and came back. I learned from what I posted ( And I took advice, which is what you should do) and am a happier person for it.

Running and posting on another board about problems on another board gets you nowhere and fast. 

BRITTANY143dsl

Im still confused as to why PEOPLE ARE RUDE on here..but I never got a straight answer and wont

stacie+luciano

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: ANNOYED WITH RUDE REPLIES TO POSTS : I feel sorry for my DH. . . but simply because he carried the bookbag all over the historic area and got rained on because my stupid umbrella sucks! He's taking a nap now though, so actually, I don't feel sorry for him.
Posted by NcsuPsych[/QUOTE]

<div>Hahah that happened to me yesterday, Beka. We had a horrible thunderstorm system move through and I got drenched at work walking from building to building at work.</div>

BRITTANY143dsl

i never said that you ladies had no life...if there werent NICE VETERAN BRIDES on here to give advice us brides to be would be lost. I appreciate the one who help and dont just like to keep drama going

stacie+luciano

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[QUOTE]i never said that you ladies had no life...if there werent NICE VETERAN BRIDES on here to give advice us brides to be would be lost. I appreciate the one who help and dont just like to keep drama going
Posted by BRITTANY143dsl[/QUOTE]

<div>I think you're confusing rude with real. Sure they come off as snarky, but in all honesty, they have some sound fcking advice.</div>