ANNOYED WITH RUDE REPLIES TO POSTS

pretzelgrrl

It was kind of rude when people discussed her SN reminding them of **** sucking lips.

NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: ANNOYED WITH RUDE REPLIES TO POSTS : I'm sorry it rained on you all. Did you have fun otherwise?
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]

Oh yes! And we had a blast on the ghost tour!! kinda wanna do it again tomorrow night! The rain held out for that , which was awesome :)

artbyallie

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[QUOTE]OP:  An example of a situation and the difference between rude and honest responses.  Let's pretend for a moment that you come to a board and ask "My BMs aren't planning a shower for me.  Is it okay to throw one for myself?" Rude=  Oh my God.  You're such a freakin' moron for thinking that it's a good idea to throw your own shower!!  WTH is wrong with you.  Your brains must be in your butt, because you're an idiot. Firm but honest:  No, it's a pretty egregious faux pas to throw your own shower.  Don't do it.  If you don't get a shower, you don't get one, but no one is obligated to throw a party in your honor. See the difference?  The responses you received were firm, but honest.  They didn't necessarily validate your opinion, which is what it seemed you wanted.  But they weren't rude. And seriously, do you think that people who have been here and formed relationships over the course of a year or more are going to cry their way through a box of tissues because you're pulling a dramatic GBCK? Here's the sad truth:  you just don't matter that much. But gosh.....lots of good luck to you.
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

<div>Wow, I just read this whole trainwreck of a thread, but it was worth it. Trix, I love you. (In a totally platonic, non-creepy way of course)</div>

karenshopping

I didn't answer your poll. However, I, too, am annoyed by rude replies to posts. Ironically, the Etiquette board "regulars" are among the worst offenders. And you can't rely on their etiquette advice either. If you have an iPad, iPhone, iPod, or Mac, you might want to try the knot's Wedding 911 app. (I think they meant 411.)

trix1223

Awwww, thanks Allie.    you back. 

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]It was kind of rude when people discussed her SN reminding them of **** sucking lips.
Posted by pretzelgrrl[/QUOTE]

I guess I'm the only one (and I'm the one who made the original comment) who doesn't see this as rude! I'm looking at it as fact. In my world (and obviously others) DSL means - among other things - D*ck sucking lips. I was just pointing it out. Just like I pointed out that 143 meant I love you. If I saw a SN that said FUPA, I'd say it made me think of Fat Upper P*ssy Area. I don't see how saying what a SN makes me think of is rude. But I'm obviously in the minority. I said in that thread, my BFF says my SN reminds her of "lady getter" - so this happens to my SN too. I will admit that telling her I didn't want her to make me hate my name was a bit rude/snarky, but Jeebus, her SN was plastered all over the front page of E, all I saw was my first name, in all caps, splashed across the board. It threw me off my game. I've since apologized.

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]I didn't answer your poll. However, I, too, am annoyed by rude replies to posts. Ironically, the Etiquette board "regulars" are among the worst offenders. And you can't rely on their etiquette advice either. If you have an iPad, iPhone, iPod, or Mac, you might want to try the knot's Wedding 911 app. (I think they meant 411.)
Posted by karenshopping[/QUOTE]

And why can't you count on their etiquette advice? I've found it to be spot-on and nothing but helpful...

... and yes, I've gotten a few snarky responses to posts I've started and/or made, too. It's the internet. Get over it.

LessThanZero

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[QUOTE]I didn't answer your poll. However, I, too, am annoyed by rude replies to posts. <strong> Ironically, the Etiquette board "regulars" are among the worst offenders. And you can't rely on their etiquette advice either.</strong> If you have an iPad, iPhone, iPod, or Mac, you might want to try the knot's Wedding 911 app. (I think they meant 411.)
Posted by karenshopping[/QUOTE]

You should set up a poll to see how many people agree with this, yes?

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]I didn't answer your poll. However, I, too, am annoyed by rude replies to posts. Ironically, the Etiquette board "regulars" are among the worst offenders. And you can't rely on their etiquette advice either. If you have an iPad, iPhone, iPod, or Mac, you might want to try the knot's Wedding 911 app. (I think they meant 411.)
Posted by karenshopping[/QUOTE]

<div>Holy crap, the queen of polls didn't answer someone else's polls?  Isn't that against your message board religion?</div><div>
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</div><div>OP- all I know is you keep saying how people don't read you're whole posts.  Try proper grammar and punctuation, and then they'll start.  I can't get past your first few lines without wanting to bang my head against the wall.  And seriously, what is with all the ,,,, in between sentences.  Just use freaking periods.</div>

JanoBean75

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[QUOTE]I didn't answer your poll. However, I, too, am annoyed by rude replies to posts.<strong> Ironically, the Etiquette board "regulars" are among the worst offenders. And you can't rely on their etiquette advice either.</strong> If you have an iPad, iPhone, iPod, or Mac, you might want to try the knot's Wedding 911 app. (I think they meant 411.)
Posted by karenshopping[/QUOTE]

Part of my job relies on deep knowledge of proper social etiquette. I mostly lurk and post on the E board and the only time I've seen blatantly incorrect advice was when a new poster jumped in to tell the OP to just ignore all the meanies and do what they want. I can't think of a time when a reg gave incorrect advice. Do you have examples?

NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]I didn't answer your poll. However, I, too, am annoyed by rude replies to posts. Ironically, the Etiquette board "regulars" are among the worst offenders. And you can't rely on their etiquette advice either. If you have an iPad, iPhone, iPod, or Mac, you might want to try the knot's Wedding 911 app. (I think they meant 411.)
Posted by karenshopping[/QUOTE]


Oh Noes! I'm confused. .I don't know how to reply to this because there isn't a poll. . . what ever shall I do!?

sklink0486

I'm still probably considered a newb on here, I don't really know, but I've learned to appreciate all the good advice people give on Etiquette, etc. It was hard to hear some of the responses to other posters at first, but once you start being on the boards and posting and responding for a while yourself, you start to realize that they aren't actually being rude. And Brittany, if you had lurked a little longer, you would have realized that people don't post 3 different posts all on the same board like you did on the same day- it kind of annoys people, especially since your questions have been asked frequently. Honestly, just by being on the boards and looking at questions others ask on a daily basis, I have learned the answers to most of my questions. If I still have a question, it's usually a personal one about my choice of shoes or if a seating arrangement would be a good idea for my specific wedding plans. 

Coming to this site, you may think that since everyone's a bride, they should all be responding happily and be really sweet or something. But the truth of the matter is, I don't find it helpful reading posts that only agree with the OP- what do you gain from that really??

mkrupar

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[QUOTE]I didn't answer your poll. However, I, too, am annoyed by rude replies to posts. Ironically, the Etiquette board "regulars" are among the worst offenders. And you can't rely on their etiquette advice either. If you have an iPad, iPhone, iPod, or Mac, you might want to try the knot's Wedding 911 app. (I think they meant 411.)
Posted by karenshopping[/QUOTE]

Yeah because I'm going to trust a TK source over Emily Post. ::eyeroll::

I would love to know what etiquette advice you've seen over there that's wrong. Pretty please, examples are mandatory when you make inflamatory statements like that.

mrshellem2012

She has a right to her opinion just like everyone else. Being new(like I am) or a regular doesnt give superiority over anything. Were here for the same reasons and why certain people are taking offense to her post after themselves stating not to take it personal is a laugh in my book!
 If someone feels the need to argue this reply so be it, i am moving onto other posts and hopefully getting more wedding advice...
 P.S i do like this website, i think its cool

jljohans

I am with you, when I first came on here I would read others posts and was surprised how brutal some people were. While you may disagree with what someone thinks or get tired of posting the same answers over and over, that's still not an excuse for being rude. Even if what you have to say may not be what the person wants to hear, you can still word it in a kind manner.

bltata

I have been a member of the boards for a while, but don't have posts in the thousands because I honestly like to read all kinds of advice and don't always have something to say.

Brittany, from what I've learned I can definitely tell you that you may get the random rude response from girls who have had a bad day, but it is by no means the norm unless it has been provoked.  Usually a girl gets flamed when she asks a question, doesn't like that nobody agrees with her vision, and then throws a tantrum that "I'M GOING TO DO WHAT I WANT ANYWAY" as they stomp off into their delusional and self-absorbed sunset.  I'm not saying that's what you've been doing because honestly, I haven't read many of your posts.  However, I do know that if girls actually listen to the advice of the brides who have been on the boards a little longer and actually take the advice they generally don't get called names.

Also, please, and I mean PLEASE, learn to use a period.  Your grammar is a little difficult to decipher and using fewer run-on sentences in the very least will greatly help your cause.