Here it goes...I am getting married to my best friend, and the most wonderful man in the enitre world next october. As you can imagine I am super excited for our big day. My mom on the other hand could care less. Whenever I call to tell her awesome stuff that I have found or places that I love her reponse is "ok and whats so important?" I have asked her to help put together DIY projects and her response is" I am too busy with my own life". she does not have any desire to help us pay for the wedding or even be involved. My fiance's mom on the other hand has been doing research, coming up with ideas, offering help and assistance paying for some of the wedding. I would understand if I was marrying someone she hated or was working a thousand hours a weak or was broke, but she really doesn't have any excuse to not want to be involved. She does however use my little sister's new baby as an excuse to not participate. I have asked her to contribute to the wedding and was going over what she wanted to help with and pay for but all she says to me is "i have a baby to take care of" I am just so hurt that she appears to not care about her oldest daughter getting married, I am the first to get married, I only have my younger sister who is nineteen besides me. I am not just trying to get money out of her, I believe in the tradition that the bride and family pay for most of everything, as stated in many wedding magazines etc. I just don't understand why she would act this way. Who wouldn't be happy that their oldest daughter is marrying her best friend? Everyone else has offered help and been so excited that I am getting married, but her. It is making me so unhappy and hurt that she is so cold towards me about the wedding.