When we first got engaged my FH said that he wanted to help plan the wedding. He seemed very enthused about it and even sat down with me one day looking at book after book about budgets and such. We have been engaged for six months now, and I feel like I left him in my planning dust. Everytime I try to get him involved with the planning now, he just rolls his eyes and says "What more do we need to do?!" or "Why are you doing this so early?" I'll tell him that if he doesn't want to help, he doesn't have to, but he always says, "I'll help, I just don't see why we are doing this right now. I don't want you stressing over it for a year."
Here's the thing: I am in college now. We are getting married at the chapel on campus. Next year, I will not be in college, and he is graduating a semester before me even. Once I graduate I have to move back home (which is out of state). I want to get as much done while I am here and can talk to venders in the area and what not and not have this hanging over my head. I don't know why he thinks that me planning it now is going to cause me to stress over it for a year (rather it will do the opposite because it is one more thing for me to cross off the to-do list).
So, I don't know how to involve him. When I try not to, he gets upset with me. When I try to, he tells me it is too soon. I have asked him about it and he just gets upset with me, saying that I am just worrying myself over it and thinking too far into the situation. I am not trying to, but I can't read his signals.
Has anyone else experienced this? How do I deal with this? When we are not talking wedding stuff he is very attentive and "there". I try to make sure that we do things that aren't wedding related, and have made a packed with myself to only discuss wedding stuff twice a week or less so as to not seem overbearing to either of us.