POLL: Are you approving your MIL's wedding day outfit?

Knot Kathleen

Mind answering a quick question for The Knot Live team?

Thank you!

cwaggoner07

I seriously doubt she would even let me approve if I tried.

achiduck

Absolutely not. FMIL asked me last weekend what she should wear and I told her whatever dress/colour she feels beautiful in.

ChristineNB

I'm telling my mother and my FMIL that they can both wear whatever they want.

CFM102012

I didn't demand approval rights but she sent me a pic of it to see what I thought.  It's a pretty dress so I told her to get it.  I don't know that it's exactly going to "go" with my mom's but they won't be next to other very much if at all.

I wouldn't have been upset if she didn't ask me.  She knows what she likes and is comfortable in.

poison+kisses

Of course not. It's up to her what she wears. She said she wants to know if my mother if wearing a long dress or a short dress in order to coordinate with her, but other than that it's completely up to her.

achiduck

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_poll-are-you-approving-your-mils-wedding-day-outfit?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:8a101bff-006d-4f54-b25c-a4ecc06137a6Post:4d61c632-ea92-4038-bcce-6c3c5b604619">Re: POLL: Are you approving your MIL's wedding day outfit?</a>:
[QUOTE]I think The Knot Live team should know that it is rude to dictate what people wear, outside of the Wedding Party.  People are adults and can dress themselves.
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]
LIKE

HULU

I told both MIL and MOB to wear whatever they feel comfortable in. They're both respectable women and I know neither of them is going to show up in anything inappropriate. There's no need for me to dictate what they're wearing.

RamonaFlowers

I still want to know why TK can't be a little more concerned with having a functioning website instead of coming up with inane polls (That we can't even see half the time due to the forums not properly working) that will take up a whopping 4 square inches of space in a magazine that nobody reads.

AurorasEnvy

On the contrary, I got quite tired of FMIL asking me what she should wear to the wedding.

acaponi87

She sent me a pic after purchase. I don't particularly like it, but I certainly don't care enough to say anything. If she's happy, I'm happy.

StephBeanWed61502

Where's the "no way because I'm not a psycho bridezilla control freak" option?

Avion22

I have no desire to coordinate the outfits of everyone coming to our wedding.  It's too much work, and I just don't care what people wear.  I just want them to be comfortable and have a good time.

halfbreedfox

I'm happy so many women can trust their mothers and future mother-in-laws to be adults and dress appropiately for their weddings.

My mother; not so responsible. I'm certianly not going to monitor her dress shopping or give her a long lost of what-not-to-buy, but I would hope that she would ask me if what she wanted to wear was okay. I just can't predict her.

So here's a post that doesn't nag to the people who run TheKnot website.

josephwedding

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_poll-are-you-approving-your-mils-wedding-day-outfit?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:8a101bff-006d-4f54-b25c-a4ecc06137a6Post:4d61c632-ea92-4038-bcce-6c3c5b604619">Re: POLL: Are you approving your MIL's wedding day outfit?</a>:
[QUOTE]I think The Knot Live team should know that it is rude to dictate what people wear, outside of the Wedding Party.  People are adults and can dress themselves.
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

THIS.

Mrs.B6302007

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_poll-are-you-approving-your-mils-wedding-day-outfit?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:8a101bff-006d-4f54-b25c-a4ecc06137a6Post:f002d55b-a935-4e7d-907e-fdf02bd589c8">Re: POLL: Are you approving your MIL's wedding day outfit?</a>:
[QUOTE]. <strong>Knot Kathleen, you ask some borderline offensive questions.</strong>  Does The Knot honestly want to turn every reasonable woman out there into a legitimate bridezilla?   (There goes my chance for ever being a mod, ever.)
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]


I know I'm late but when I saw the title, this is the FIRST thing that I thought.

LoisLane007

She picked out her outfit and asked me if I liked it......

zitiqueen

I think The Knot wants to be more like Wedding Bee.

StephanieM22

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_poll-are-you-approving-your-mils-wedding-day-outfit?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:8a101bff-006d-4f54-b25c-a4ecc06137a6Post:4d61c632-ea92-4038-bcce-6c3c5b604619">Re: POLL: Are you approving your MIL's wedding day outfit?</a>:
[QUOTE]I think The Knot Live team should know that it is rude to dictate what people wear, outside of the Wedding Party.  People are adults and can dress themselves.
Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

<div>THIS</div>

smmessinger

I am not. I want her to be comfortable and feel pretty in what she wants. I know she will run her outfit by me anyway but im I am sure she can dress herself lol(: Brides have more to worry about.

mellimel19

Nope, I told my mom and FMIL to wear whatever they like. I have too much going on to micromanage what other adults will be wearing.

ujocdeelovely

My MIL is on the other side of the U.S. and is in her own little world. At this point I'll be happy if she even shows up!

KayCee85

Absolutely not, but she did ask me to go with her when she was trying them on. We both fell in love with the dress she ended up buying, but even if I absolutely despised her style, I'd keep my mouth shut. She can wear whatever she likes!

jmconley08

I told FMIL and mom not to wear white/ivory or anything close. Besides that I don't care.

MiksChick23

She is an adult and picks her own clothing. The only attire I picked was mine. I let the BM pick theirs and FI picked the tuxes.

jennipea382

I may help her pick it out but only because I think she may be a little self conscious getting dressed up, so maybe my encouragement will help, along with seeing what style looks nice on her. I definitely wouldn't demand anything. It's about her feeling comfortable and beautiful, not me deciding what she's going to wear for whatever strange reason someone would. I think as long as it's appropriate (not white, not super skanky, stuff like that), who cares?

mizutamababy

Nope.  MIL had been debating on wearing a traditional MOG kimono or dressing in a nice outfit and we said she should wear whatever she felt comfortable in.

My mother first picked out a retro dress that I didn't think was so flattering for her age, from a custom order website we weren't sure could finish the dress in time.  But beyond mentioning being worried it might not make it in time and showing her a few other similar options I'd found... ultimately I left the decision to her.  It's just a dress and wouldn't have changed anything about my wedding.  In the end she found something else she liked better and wore.

526SadieSadie

MIL waited until my mom bought her dress so she wouldn't wear the same color.  She sent me several photos of dresses but only in an excited "Look at these!" kind of way, not asking for my approval.
My mom looked gorgeous in her eggplant gown and MIL looked gorgeous in her royal navy blue gown.

Britt1893

I trust my FMIL and her decision. She won't upstage me. I am almost positive of that. She has that much respect for me...I know that much.

CatherineDee

The answer is no.

If they asked my advice, I would give it, in the samy way if they asked my advice about anything else on any other day.

But it would never cross my mind to SUGGEST myslef that they should wear a certain color/length or whatever.  I think I would be much out of line if I did that.

 And I can't imagine the circumastances when a bride could do that.... maybe unless she knows her mother will for sure want to dress very innappropriately and thus offend the brides feelings...... Maaaaaybe then, I would consider making a small hint to my mom to wear an appropriate dress, but I don;t think I would go so far as choose one for her.  As for FMIL - even if she decided to come in a miniskirt and see-through top - I'd leave it up to her.

midgetthemighty

We all went shopping together, but I did not in any way, shape or form "approve" her wedding attire. She's a grown woman and knows what she's comfortable in. She asked my opinions but I didn't dictate which dress she wound up getting.