My husband to be and I got engaged the first of September 2011. We have been together nearly 5 years. We were planning our wedding before we got engaged, (taboo I know) because we wanted to make sure we wanted similar things. To give ourselves enough time to save and plan, (and because my older sister was getting married this year) we decided to wait until October of 2013 mostly out of respect for my sister's big day and my family.
Just before Easter my future brother-in-law and his girlfriend got engaged, and he said that out of respect for us, they were going to wait until the spring after we were married to tie the knot themselves. Very respectful, I thought, especially since our themes are nearly identical and neither one of us are budging.
Recently my husband to be found out that his brother has decided to move his wedding up to the spring before ours. Which for us, is a problem. We've had our date set since December 2011 and have the Hall reserved and the wedding mostly planned. My brother-in-law to be, however, keeps changing the date and the location, and I feel like he's trying to take away from our day.
I do not want to get married the same year one of our siblings gets married, it's too much on the family. So if they decide to get married before us then it's going to be a lot of re-planning on our end to pick a new date and possibly find a new venue because they're considering using the one that we picked.
I don't know what to do. Everyone in the family seems to agree that my future brother-in-law is being disrespectful and selfish, and I'm just all together hurt by the entire situation. I haven't talked to him yet because I don't even know what I'd say.
Do I move my date? Change my venue? Give up my Theme? And pretty much replan my entire wedding because they don't want to wait their turn? Am I being irrational?