I talked to my FI and I have expressed that I wanted a small hometown wedding. I have two venues picked out. Our town park with all the historic details, the clock tower from the original town school, the wooden covered bridge over the river and the historic canal boat that floats in the canal behind the gazebo. It also has flowering trees. My second venue is a historic town mansion of the first off shore oil driller. The park is beautiful and so is the mansion which was recently bought by my grandfather's cousin. I will not ask which you guys think is best but I like talking to you guys.
The one thing I am dealing with and trying to get over is that a friend's wedding in this park is the last time I saw my friend before his drunk driving accident that killed him. Every time I walk through the park I remember and I feel him there. Its kind of a bittersweet place for me. My FI worries it would be too much for us to get married there. He is afraid the emotions of the day and the memory of my friend would be too much for me.
He may be right but I feel that getting married in the park would help me feel like he was there with us. He always liked weddings and just being with all of us. I think a few tears will be shed that day for all the ones I've lost in the past few years that I wanted to be there. My grandfather, my best friend, my uncles, and my great grandmothers I had a great bond with all of them.
On another note can you have a remembrance candle for multiple people? like one candle for each side for all the people lost or is just one ok? Not sure of the proper way to do this.