I don't plan on telling anyone this so I thought I'd get it off my chest here. I was really looking forward to my birthday today this year because it was the first time in FOUR years that my fianc was going to actually be around not out of town for work for my birthday. We live together on the opposite side of the country from where my parents live, so it's not like anyone else is around for me... so, I sort of worked myself up to expecting to actually get something or do something this year. Last night we went out to dinner with some of his friends which was nice but we also normally do this almost every weekend anyway. And... today, nothing. No gift, no activity, no special meal, nothing special... not even a card. It was like a normal weekend day, only filled with stupid questions like "what do you want to do today?" and "did you have a good birthday?" It's not like FI is clueless on what I like either... we've lived together for 2.5 years. And I guess I'm also a little upset because I always pull out the stops for his birthday make surprising plans and give him a really cool "wow" gift that he's been wanting over the past year. Last year it was a really special fishing kayak. I wasn't expecting a tit for tat, but I also wasn't expecting this. I realize it's my fault for having these expectations. The disappointment from today has me looking forward to Monday morning! End of vent.