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I would just like to say that just because you feel you can write what you want at these forums, that doesn't make it right.   If you feel that it is OK to write what you want thinking that the person you are wrting about will only find it if they look for it and it is still OK because you don't use their real name, it is stil not OK.  If your Mother in law asked you to please not write things about family members because it not only causes hard feelings for the person you are obviously trying to hurt, but it actually hurts members of your new husbands family, then why is it necessary to do it.    And,, for the persons that purposely go looking to see if something has been written about you,just so you can be angry that things are written about you, which also causes problems within you new family, then why do you do it?    And if you think that Mother In Laws don't have feeling because they are not REALLY a person, just a Mother In Law, Guess what.   They are real people with real feelings.     If you think your Mother In Law doesn't have feelings and doesn't deserve your respect and if you think your husbands deserve to be hurt, then I guess you should just keep on doing what you are doihg.   I guess it is all about you afterall.   

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_hurt-feelings-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:d256766b-fb6c-4706-93a1-85aabad2814fPost:acdeac86-6262-489d-8ff9-744a0b3cb98d">Hurt feelings</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would just like to say that just because you feel you can write what you want at these forums, that doesn't make it right.   If you feel that it is OK to write what you want thinking that the person you are wrting about will only find it if they look for it and it is still OK because you don't use their real name, it is stil not OK.  If your Mother in law asked you to please not write things about family members because it not only causes hard feelings for the person you are obviously trying to hurt, but it actually hurts members of your new husbands family, then why is it necessary to do it.    And,, for the persons that purposely go looking to see if something has been written about you,just so you can be angry that things are written about you, which also causes problems within you new family, then why do you do it?    And if you think that Mother In Laws don't have feeling because they are not REALLY a person, just a Mother In Law, Guess what.   They are real people with real feelings.     If you think your Mother In Law doesn't have feelings and doesn't deserve your respect and if you think your husbands deserve to be hurt, then I guess you should just keep on doing what you are doihg.   I guess it is all about you afterall.   
    Posted by Pattieb3[/QUOTE]

    Uhhh come again?
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    Now tell us how you really feel.
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    It sounds like the both of you need to either sit down and talk to each other.

    Passive-aggressive behavior like this is horrible on *both* of your parts. Grow up. You're going to be/are family, and you need to end your feud, whatever it is, without permanently damaging your relationship.

    If you're the MIL, then please, please, please, be the older, wiser person.
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    You might want to take this up with whomever you actually have a problem with.

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    Yep... I'm going to go with the OP is the MIL
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    Are 'hurt feelings' like 'hurt boo boos' cause if they are,I have a cool 'My Little Pony' Bandaid!! just sayn
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    I'm begining to wonder if she's not a SIL, though.
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    I'm confused. Isn't this post against what the message of the post is portraying?
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_hurt-feelings-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:d256766b-fb6c-4706-93a1-85aabad2814fPost:69e8cca5-3c8c-4fec-a994-81fe2bbaad13">Re: Hurt feelings</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm confused. Isn't this post against what the message of the post is portraying?
    Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

    <div>Pretty much. </div><div>
    </div><div>Got to love the random drama on these boards, better than any "reality" TV show out there. Now if the person who the OP is directing this rant to would come out I will be grabbing my popcorn for the fireworks. </div>
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    Hypocrite much?
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    If you have a problem with someone, talk to them directly instead of bitching obscurely to people who have no idea what you're referencing and aren't remotely involved.  You're doing a pretty good job of perpetuating the behavior you claim to be so hurt by.
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    Wow...just wow...
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_hurt-feelings-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:d256766b-fb6c-4706-93a1-85aabad2814fPost:08180aa3-7a3e-4c59-bd90-c2d8b32b7614">Re: Hurt feelings</a>:
    [QUOTE]It sounds like the both of you need to either sit down and talk to each other. <strong>Passive-aggressive behavior like this is horrible on *both* of your parts. Grow up. You're going to be/are family, and you need to end your feud, whatever it is, without permanently damaging your relationship.</strong> If you're the MIL, then please, please, please, be the older, wiser person.
    Posted by LadyArkham[/QUOTE]

    <div>This.</div><div>
    </div><div>And for what it's worth, I love my FMIL.</div>
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    If you come back and tell us what's going on we may be able to help otherwise your on your own. Strange.
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    I love my FMIL too. Know why? She would never do something this childish.
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    Forgot to mention that I also love my future mother in law. :)
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    Um ok.....Talking face to face like mature adults is usually a better solution than posting on a public message board.

    I also would like to add that I love my FMIL.
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    I don't have a MIL. She passed away before I ever even got to meet her. :(
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    Care to give some back story or is this just a P & R? My FMIL is amazing and I love her to death.
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    I would think this was my FMIL or FSIL but neither of their spelling/grammar is that good. Seriously.


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    I agree with it being a FMIL or FSIL...whom ever it might be  joined on Monday and only posted this.  Very, very very strange...
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    Perhaps she wants her FDIL/FSIL to read it between the lines and be remorseful for something that was said??
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