Frustrated and Stressed.

cayannagirl

the finances. At the beginning I knew my fiancé and I would have to for some of the wedding, but I didn't realize it would be so much! On top of that, my father doesn't believe in giving large amounts of money to parties even if it is his daughter's wedding. and as the icing on the cake, since my parents got divorced last year, my mom is left with almost nothing to help me with. She can't even afford the house, so she left it which I don't blame her cause it was falling down around her anyways and I'm still living there cause I'm putting all my money towards my wedding and school...yes, it's not going to be as amazing and I hoped it would be, but I'm a believe that God will provide for me and my fiancé has been amazing and is helping everywhere he can, so I'm hoping it will be OK...I hope, I hope, I hope! 

nic3496

My most recent stressor is finding out that my entire family thinks I'm going to turn into a raging bridezilla. They are literally sitting on the edge of thier seats waiting for an "outburst" and informed me that they are ready to jump down my throat when I do. I'm so insulted that they think that because I'm not like that, and I never have been. And now I feel like they will overreact to anything that might be considered remotely pissy, so I feel like I can't stand up for my ideas. Its like I'm walking on eggshells. Even if I do it politely, I feel like I'm not allowed to disagree. And that makes me SO frusterated, because at work, and in every other aspect of my life, my opinion never matters to anyone, so this was the one time I was going to get to stretch my creative legs without having to "just do what I'm told."

I'm going to prove them wrong, but I'm still just so frusterated and hurt, really. My fiance says he will have my back, so at least I have ONE person on my side.
Sorry that was so long. I had to get that out.

sweetlove89

Ha, where to begin!?  I'll start off with the fact that our wedding is March 6, 2010.. so just over 3 months!  My mother-in-law to be is on my last freaking nerve!  I've been going around with her for about 3 weeks to get addresses for save the dates, and still haven't got them all.  Not to mention my FI like to drink.  We are having the wedding/reception at a christian church (we got it for free) but there is no alcohol allowed.  If we don't provide alcohol, they will sneak their own in, which could get my mom fired (she works at the church).  Also, they want to complain about stuff, but they haven't offered to pay for anything.  Personally, I don't think we should have to ask, that'd be kind of rude I think.  It's just frustrating, me and my family are putting everything into this wedding, I wish they would just get over the fact that we are getting married and help out!  Another HUGE issue.. his mom and grandma (his moms mom) don't get along at all, and are saying if the other shows up they will fight! ugh, why can't people just act like grown ups.  Put their differences aside for one day for us. 

Sorry... that was some much needed venting!

sulve

My mother. The only thing she is worried about is that there is a high level of formality. she is so upset because we are having an outdoor ceremony instead of one in the church where I grew up and has been really insulting about it. It apparently does not matter at all that we want to write our own vows and have a ceremony that is meaningful to us. We also want a romantic and personal ceremony rather than something we feel is formulaic and insincere. It is so annoying to hear my mom say "we want this" to a vendor or my fiance - she is not the one getting married! It seems like we have gotten in some of the worst fight ever over this, and it makes me sad that I will remember arguing about it.

Grrr!~

farmgirl8806

we got engaged just over a month ago. we r still struggling with deciding who to invite to the ceremony. we want only a few people there, but we keep debating on who to invite. we just might have a solution to this dilema, thanks to my big sister.

antonette1010

budget is giving me the most stress... every vendor becomes a huge negotiation and the process gets dragged out longer than it should... it just takes away from the joy of planning.  I can't wait until the say of so we can relax and know that everything we did was worth it!

StefanyaMarie

My biggest stress is my mother in general. I love her dearly and I know we are doing our wedding on a budget but I want it to be cheap and not look cheap! Not to mention that I dont want to use the things she used for her wedding because I dont want the theme of my wedding to be 80s. She got married 25 years ago...let the old ideas go and remember...IT'S MY WEDDING!!!!!!!!!!!

kmdoh77

My mother, my mother, my mother. She actually asked if she could be my MOH. She even had a list of reasons why she would be the best choice. Including talking poorly about my best friend that I had already asked. When I told her that it was inappropriate to ask me that she stopped talking to me for a while. Then she started calling people including my future MIL and telling them things behind my back. Like, things she had decided on her own for the wedding. When I  ask her to help me instead of doing things to stress me out she just stops talking to me.  Last week it got so bad that she told me and my FI not to come to Thanksgiving at her house and I haven't spoken to her since. I hate the fact that I am going to look back on my wedding and remember how miserable she has made this for me.

Sorry for the venting- thanks for reading:)

Cray.anita

Definately my future sister in law.  She is making everything miserable by yelling at my FI and I every time we see her about how she doesn't know anything about the wedding, yet she has never said congratulations to either one of us and has never asked a single question!  She flipped out when she found out we were engaged and didn't talk to us for 6 weeks.  Then when she found out she wasn't in the wedding party caused a ton more drama with everyone in the family by calling allof her aunts and cousins and crying about how mean I am.  Then at Thanksgiving caused another big scene.  She is 31 and married with 2 kids.....I don't get why she cares so much!!!!!  None of my sisters are in the wedding either!  We are having 2 attendants on each side to cut down on costs and drama.....my two are my best friend from elementary/high school and my roomate from college.  Both of these fabulous ladies know me better then I know myself and are happy to be there every step of the way!

jessicarabbit501

FI's parents! 

They've shot down every single one of our ideas because they basically want our wedding to be a)a family reunion (for their family not mine) and b)they want a big, elaborate wedding (which they never had and which we don't want).  We're having a 160 people but we've found a way to do things so that everyone gets to see us get married but only immediate family and bridal party are invited to the reception.  It didn't go over so well but if i can give anyone any advice it's to stick to your guns and do what you want.  My parents are paying for the wedding and they ARE PERFECTLY FINE WITH IT BC THEY KNOW IT MAKES US HAPPY.  Do what makes you happy!  Happy planning, everyone!

misslovinlife08

I am feeling the heat too. My mom hasn't really been into the wedding planning because she isn't paying for anything. We also are about to move due to late morgage payments but we have to remodel too. Im a full time college student and my FI is 15 hours away and everything I suggest is super horrible. He's in the Navy so we can't sit down and discuss this normally so that makes it hard. Plus he's the baby by like 11 years and the only boy. His mom is a control freak and has already told me that he and I picking out our wedding bands together is COMPLETELY WRONG. We already went through the guest list fight but we haven't revealed it to anyone yet so I'm wondering how it's going to blow over. His older sisters are trying to be nice but I can kinda tell they want things their way. I'm going to be studying for finals and trying to make plans at the same time. I feel somewhat crazy during all this.

misekrissy

Nic--I know just what you mean about everyone assuming you'll be a bridezilla.  It's **MY** partying and I'll plan it the way I want!! Everytime a vendor or family member poo-poos one of my ideas and I try to defend it, they act like I am dismissing their opinions solely because I am a bridezilla and don't care what they have to say.  But really, I just feel like it's my wedding and I should be able to have what I want.  I am also one of those people whose opinion gets dismissed in most other aspects of my life, and it would be nice just ONCE (and on my own wedding day, for that matter) to do what makes me happy without everyone else getting upset about it!