Say yes to the dress

kjerl

After watching this, I feel like I didn't pick the right dress !

How do you know you found the one? Did you cry? Just rely on the people you brought with shopping?

I feel like I found "the one" and even got teary eyed. Thankfully, I went home without buying it. After going home and seeing pictures of it on, I thought it looked awful!

I found another dress that had all of the elements that I wanted and I trusted my girls, so I bought it. It's been about 4 months since I've seen the dress, so maybe I'm just forgetting how I felt in it.

I should probably change the channel now

[Deleted User]

Just go by what Randy says... pick the dress that makes you feel beautiful!  lol  obviously, I watch wayyy too much

worriedbride2012

Im watching too. Randy says pick the dress that makes you feel beautiful Im sure you picked the right dress and it will be amazing on the day of the wedding. I didnt cry when i got mine I knew when i put it on that it was the one.

divinemsbee

Yeaahhhh, I didn't cry. Neither did my mother or grandmother. I picked something that had the elements I liked, that was pretty and flattering, and was within my budget. I think the whole "one dress" thing is used a lot by salons to get you to up your price and keep you trying things on. The more you try on in your price point, and if you keep getting egged on that you must have this amazing reaction, the more they can get you into ever more expensive dresses because you (the proverbial "you" not anyone specific) feel as though if you don't have that reaction the dress is not worth buying. At a certain point, to me, within any budget, you've seen all there is to see. The only thing you can keep doing is upping the price. 

I'm sure you're going to love your dress when you see it again. Don't have doubts. 

Helsy85

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[QUOTE]After watching this, I feel like I didn't pick the right dress ! How do you know you found the one? Did you cry? Just rely on the people you brought with shopping?<strong> I feel like I found "the one" and even got teary eyed. Thankfully, I went home without buying it. After going home and seeing pictures of it on, I thought it looked awful! </strong> I found another dress that had all of the elements that I wanted and I trusted my girls, so I bought it. It's been about 4 months since I've seen the dress, so maybe I'm just forgetting how I felt in it. I should probably change the channel now :)
Posted by kjerl[/QUOTE]

This happened to me!! I put a dress on, walked out into the change room and got all teary! i was like "this is it this is it" but i didnt want to buy it then without my father seeing it. When i got home i looked at the pictures and was horrified!! It didnt suit me at all! Much to much fabric and lace for my tiny frame! i think i just caught up in the moment!

A week later i went to another store and really did find the one! it didnt make me tear up but it made me so excited i couldnt stop jumping up and down! like you, i was waiting for that "everyone tearing up moment" i had seen on say yes to the dress, but remember its often all for the drama of television!

like you, i havent seen my dress in a few months and cannot wait to see it! So exciting!

GoodLuckBear14

Nope.  I had intended to only look at dresses in Cincinnati with my mom and then buy it in NJ or PA where I wouldn't pay sales tax.  I tried on the first one she picked out in the first store we went to, looked at me in it, said "yep.  this works" took it off bought it and went to lunch. 

That is how we picked all of our vendors also.  If we liked you and thought your pricing was reasonable we booked you.  It wound up being an incredibly stress free process because we hadn't bought into the wedding industry's "It's the one day of your life that should be perfect" mentality.

jdcoker1

I've been looking for 2 months, been to every store here 3 times and have never had that feeling.  Most of the dresses are beautiful, but I haven't felt like crying or jumping up and down once.  At this point I'm desperate to just order something and be done with it.  But I'm sad to think I'm just going to have to settle for something that doesn't get me excited. 
Maybe it is the "industry" and these shows that get us all riled up about having a feeling.  Maybe I'll just rebel and wear jeans! HA

meganb1977

Some people are more emotional than others so not everyone reacts to the right dress with tears or etc.  It's actually better not to get caught up in the moment and make a more objective decision! (i.e. sleep on it and look back at pictures of yourself in the dress before you buy)  Any large, significant purchase should not be on impulse and you're better off taking emotion out of it.  I didn't cry over my dress.  I tried it on and it fit me.  It fit the vibe I wanted.  The price was right.  Sold!

mmmendi

I had three to try on - after weeks of second hand shopping. My Mother really was against me "settling" for a dress, but budget and appropriateness married well in my head. My mother and sister saw me before I saw a mirror. The first one, they said cute...the second pretty but liked the first better...the third one was a long form fitting lace...I loved it, but wasn't sure if it would flatter MY figure - and my sister didn't say a word, she just smiled. I had them take pictures on my cell, so I could see (I tend to think a photo will give me a truer idea of how I appear than a mirror image) - and I said I want this one. No tears, no trumpets just I'm done shopping. My excitement has continued to increase after that! I love my dress, am thrilled to share that picture and am again and again met with "that is so you!". I think your personality will dictate how you respond to THE dress as much as anything!

[Deleted User]

I didn't cry, my mom didn't cry, my sister in law didn't cry. I had all but narrowed it down to one gown my SIL picked out when the saleswoman came out with a ruched satin dress that had no lace anywhere. I tried it on and could feel it tugging at my heartstrings, but I had to try them on back to back before I knew my dress was right for me. It was completely different than I thought I wanted - I used to hate the way pickups looked on gowns until I put it on. I loved the color and the way it flattered my figure. I couldn't stop smiling in my dress and was comfortable sitting and standing and moving in it. I felt beautiful and I knew that my FI would love it on me. I don't think you have to have "the moment" at all as long as you feel unique and beautiful and comfortable in it. 

sis180

I didnt have that "moment" that a lot of brides have...my dress is beautiful, but not having that moment finitely made me question my pick. I think I got too wrapped up in shows like Say Yes to the Dress, thinking that I HAD to cry if it was the right dress. You bought the dress because you felt great in it (hopefully), so stop looking and don't freak out it. You are able to try the dress on again