Dress Regrets

K8EE00

I know I'm not the only one who has felt this way, and I definitely won't be the last! I just need some truly honest advice from people who don't know me and aren't afraid to tell it like it is! And that's you guys!

So, I've bought my dress. I really did like it, but I never had "that moment" when I knew. It was more like, "well, this is the only one I like in my price range!" But honestly, at the time I did like it a lot. It's beautiful. But, it wasn't what I went in looking for. I wanted a simple, classic and elegant gown, with just a little bit of funk to it to reflect my personality. Which the dress I got is all of those things, except simple. It has an awesome neckline that I love, beaded lace appliques, and draping across the bodice. I'm just afraid that it's way too "busy" for my simple ideal. I'd really like to get a new dress that reflects the simplicity and elegance moreso than my dress. Lace is my favorite, and I've found a lace dress that I'd really like to try on (haven't allowed myself yet) Right now though, I can't afford to buy a new dress and cross my fingers in hopes of selling my old dress for an amount comprable to what I paid for it. (the other day my mom pulled it out to look at it, and I actually cringed. This reaction may have been because I'm having doubts, but I don't think it's ever a good sign when you cringe at the sight of your dress)

So, to everyone who has dress regrets, what did you do about it? How easy was it to sell your dress for a good price? Should I just suck it up and deal with my decision? Thanks for any advice ladies!

these pictures aren't very good, but my main concern is the bodice having the draping, plus beaded lace appliques, plus the interesting neckline. Is this too busy?

QueerFemme

I don't think its too busy... but, I was looking for busy and didn't end up getting it... so, maybe my opinion of what is busy shouldn't count!   I think many brides have good luck selling their dresses, especially when they are unaltered and unworn for a pretty good price. David's Bridal dresses seem to have a lower resale value, but I'm sure you could still sell it.  Based on my constant searching on the used dress sites, you'd probably get about half of what you paid for it.

So, if you really love the other dress and you can afford to buy it without getting any money back for this one, I'd say go try it on. You need to be prepared to pay for the dress and hopefully, get money back for this one.   I wouldn't suggest going to try the other one on unless you are prepared to buy it though.  Because, if you fall in love with it... you are going to be really sad if you can't sell this dress immediately and in enough time to buy the other one. 

I had major dress regret... I was fully planning on buying another gown and selling mine. I tried on probably 25 more dresses, and ended up keeping the one I originally bought.

Tabbie11

I think this dress is lovely and very flattering on you! I love the neckline, it is definately the edgy part. I think this is still a fairly simple dress though (no elaborate skirt, feathering or jewels), the lace/beaded applique is minimal and not all over the the rouching or draping is really flattering. 

I sometimes have doubts about my dress, because although I went in with an open mind it is totally not what I envisioned myself in, I'm afraid I made a hasty decision... I tried on probably two dozen dresses on my first (& only) and ended up going back to the second one dress. It is a beautiful dress, but I still find myself wondering if i chose properly. I was going for super simple but bought a dress much more elaborate than I ever imagined. 

Try it on again? Everytime I am doubting my dress I google a pic or go visit it I also think of my dress compared to others I tried, and compared to some, it is still simple and elegant. 

raes19

It's normal to have some dress regret. I don't think your dress is too busy, it looks very nice. You probably won't get as much money as you'd like for it, so if you can't afford another dress, you should stop looking. You can't fall in love with something else if you don't see it. I went back and forth between loving my dress and regetting it, but in the end I felt great in it on my wedding day and that's what counts.

Strv2perfection

Yep I had it! I had a dress on layaway and I wasn't in love with it. I went back and tried on a few more. I cancelled my original layaway and put a different one on. And I bought my reception dress that day. Well last week I cancelled my lawaway again!!! I'm just gonna wear my reception dress. But I'm gonna cut off the train and make it a a halter.

LeiselEB

I had major dress regret - I tried to cancel the order the next day, but ended up coming up with some custom work that could be done to make me like the dress more. Even so, I was really sad for a few weeks and was looking into ways to sell the dress.

I gave myself a few days to really think about it. I stopped looking at other dresses entirely, and stopped looking at the pictures of the one I bought. I just stopped thinking about dresses, and after a while I realized that I did love my dress. If after a while you still don't like the dress, there are many ways to sell it, so don't worry. 

I hope that whatever dress you end up with you are very happy in

JennLax

I think the dress is flattering and the beading/appliques are very subtle - not too busy at all!  

MelissaSavin

Talk to the place you got the dress from...if it is still in perfect condition, you may have a chance at exchanging it for something else.  You may have to pay a restocking fee.  The key is to look at the same salon..if the money is staying with the same company you have a better shot of an exchange.

My second tip...go dress shopping alone.  Try on things you know you'll like and different shapes and styles...once you truely narrow it down you'll have a better idea of what you are looking for.

Once you narrow it down to a couple options, have them jot them down for you and then make a second appointment to bring those close to you in.

My third bit of advice.  Before you exchange the dress...once you've picked out a new one...sleep on it...be sure because they wont let you exchange again.

I had the same issue.  I never truely found "my dress"...to be honest the only other person at my apointment should have been by hubby because he knows me better than anyone in the world.

semplesarah

I like it and think its pretty!

K8EE00

Thanks for all the advice ladies! I have a lot to think about now