wedding bands

bridalmarch

I'm not sure if this goes here but I couldn't find a more appropriate board. This is my engagement ring. 

The setting is a figure 8, infinity symbol type thing. There is a matching band with a deep chevron and two on either side to accommodate the other dips, but it's $200 more than we budgeted for my band. We're having a little bit of a debate on this. He says that's too much and we can just find one with one chevron that's in our budget that won't match up perfectly. I say I'm going to wear this on my hand for the rest of my life and I don't want to be constantly messing with it. We're about $1000 total over our original budget right now, but that's due to adding things we didn't know we wanted like an extra hour at the reception and uplighting. We've stuck pretty true to the rest of our list and even saved several hundred on our STD cards, which was immediately put towards our venue payment. The venue and our DJ are the only things we've contracted that aren't completely paid off, and we still need rings, flowers, wedding party gifts, and invites. I know that a budget is a budget and we're tight on money because I just quit a pretty well paying job to stay home with our daughter, but I feel like this isn't the place to skimp. I don't want to fight over it, either. I don't really know what to do .

JoanE2012

IMO, I would get the band you like.  You are going to wear it for the rest of your ife, and you don't want to regret not spending the $200 to get something that matches perfecty.  The wedding is one day.....I'd work hard to find a way to cut the money somewhere from the day....spend less on WP gifts, get cheaper invites, etc

Avion22

I'd also find a way to make it fit into the budget, and get the ring you REALLY want.  Order invitations off VistaPrint with a coupon, cut back on flowers, skip favors, etc.   $200 is NOT that much in the grand scheme of things.  You can probably save that much by skipping meals out and not going to Starbucks (or whatever other little things you spend money on as a couple).  Maybe make a deal with him that if you can help come up with the extra $200, you can get the ring you want.  Show him a plan and a budget to make it happen.

The other option is to use your engagement ring for your ceremony, and wait and buy the wedding band you really want in a year or so when you can afford it.  

csweaney

Get the band you want. Like everyone is saying, you're wearing this thing on your hand for the duration of your marriage--you have to like it or you will be not happy wearing it. Start saving up change. My fiance and I have a change savings jar that counts it for you. We've been doing it for a few months and have about $50 in it. Every little bit helps!

heroeswearbrown

I would buy a band you can afford now and get a better one later. FI and I did that with my engagement ring and his wedding band (my wedding band is a family heirloom). I would rather have the best I could afford day of and take care of other things later. We elected to splurge on our photographer rather than our rings. We won't be able to go back and upgrade the things we wanted for our wedding, but we will be able to upgrade our jewelry when we can afford it. just my two cents.