Ordered Dress Today - Cancelling order tomorrow - help!

kdweingart03

I went to try on dresses today and it was my 4th store I've gone to try on dresses.  I thought I found my dress and the sales consultant offered a great deal and I took right away without even thinking twice.  The rest of the day I had a bad feeling and knew it wasn't the dress.  Luckily, there is a 24 hr "buyers remorse" cancellation policy.  So needless to say, I'm cancelling the order first thing tomorrow.

So I need advice for those of you who have found your dress, how did you know your dress was the "one"?  Did you have that feeling?  Did you try it on several times before buying it?  I haven't gotten that feeling yet so I'm assuming that I just haven't found it yet....

Thanks! )

mbcdefg

I knew I had found a good one because I was happy and confident while wearing it, it was comfortable, my mom didn't have anything bad to say about it, it was affordable for me, and there wasn't anything about it that I disliked. I tried on a few contenders where I said things like, "This would be perfect if it didn't have X" or "If this only had Y I'd definitely get this one." I also tried on a couple more after that and kept comparing them to the favorite, so I put the favorite back on one more time ... unlike a lot of others, I didn't want to rush and take it off.

Plus, I had found it on the website and specifically went to try that one on at the salon. I had done this with some others with no luck, so I had a big sense of personal satisfaction that I'd picked out something good for myself.

I don't really think there's only "one" dress out there for everyone. But you need to feel confident and happy while wearing it. If you're unsure, look around some more. And not everyone has bells and fireworks going off in their head or waterworks flowing from their eyes when they find the one they'll end up wearing, remember.

kdweingart03

Great advice....I'm going to take a little break and go back at because of the ones I've tried on I have been thinking , "well I would like it if I could change this or do this" so I'm thinking that I just haven't found what I've been looking for. I have only tried on a few at each store so I don't think I'm being really patient about the whole process..

Thanks again and congrats on finding your perfect dress!!!

quotequeen

I was getting frustrated because I don't like trying things on much, and I like to make decisions like that quickly and get out, but I was really finding nothing at all that I liked.  The dress I ended up getting was one I actually liked, it was cheap, and it made my mom cry.  Good enough for me!  But I'm not a "the one" kind of person, especially about something like a dress.

birdie119

I don't think you can make a decision the same day you try on the dresses for the first time.  I went to 3 stores in two days, and narrowed it down to some favorites.  I went back and tried on the favorites a month or so later - at which point i knew for sure.  I wound up picking the one that gave me that "wow" feeling the first time I tried it on, but I felt much more confident about the decision the second time I tried it on.

amberpro

When I tried on my now dress the 1st time, I wasn't sold.  I loved it, but...  So over the next month, I went to 3 more stores to try on God knows how many more dresses, and I found that every dress I put on, I compared to "that" dress.  I told my mom at the umpteenth store as I was trying on the umpteenth dress, "I just keep going back to that Maggie."  So we simply got in the car and went back to that Maggie.  So now I know for sure with no regrets that I have found "the" dress for me.  I think the key is find the styles you are drawn to, take your time, compare, and once you purchase... stop looking. 

deborah2121

I knew it was the dress I would buy when I stressed everyday that somehow, when I went to buy it, it would not be available.  Completely not realistic, but the panic overwhelmed me!  Also, I had zero intention of buying my dress where I did, but I could not get it out of my mind and was not interested in going to other stores.  Lastly, I didn't want to take it off!  A PP made a good point to look then think then go back...great advice! 

I don't believe there is "the one" dress for me or for anyone.  LIfe is about choices.  I chose the dress I love given my budget, my FI's wishes, my families' reactions and my feelings.  It is likely if I kept on looking, I would have come across others I liked, too.

***Keep in mind, however, that even though I found a dress I love for way less than I thought I'd spend, I still look at dresses online and watch SYTTD repeatedly.  It was fun to look for a dress so I miss that feeling, but I love, love, love mine.  Just keep this in the back of your mind when you find the dress! 

Good luck!!!!

t.kaufman

I am still looking and wondering the same thing. Most of the dresses I try on, I can't even find someting specifically 'wrong" wth them - they just don't wow me. perhaps we are expecting too much... or maybe we really just haven't found the right dress yet! it's so complicated! But I definitely have one dress that I keep going back to in my mind... I tried it on several months ago and wasn't sure that it was "perfect" [and it might be too expensive anyhow]. I am going back to try it on again in a couple of weeks... so we'll see how it goes. I agree that there isn't a "one" - but our dresses should make us feel awesome and special. I won't settle for "it's okay."

SocialWorker2B

I really don't think that there is "one" dress for each bride. I have seen a bunch of dresses that I love and would have liked to wear on my wedding day. I was actually a two dress bride because I had a short 5 - 6 engagement and bought a dress after being engaged for 2 weeks because, obviously, I had to get on it. When I bought my dress, I thought that DB was literally the only bridal store and at the time, they didn't have their dream in color dresses. So I bought a dress and added a sash to it. Then I found out about Alfred Angelo's color dresses so I bought another dress with tons of blue on it.

However, I would have been just fine in the original dress. I would also have been fine in the dress that I just bought for my trash the dress/rock the dress shoot. There are a million and one dresses that I see on Say Yes to the Dress that I could have loved, obviously scaled down for my budget.

As pp said, you may not get that feeling. I didn't and they even  say on SYTTD, they say that not all people get it. If you feel beautiful, maybe even sexy, confident, happy and like a bride (if that's important to you, it was to me), than you've struck gold. :-)

Oh, and I tried my first dress on once and bought it that day. If there hadn't been colored wedding dress, than I would have gotten married in that dress and been fine. I bought my second dress online for 1/2 the price but I did try it on a wedding dress store but mostly just to get the size. I knew I wanted it just from seeing it online.

AmoroAgain

Shoot, I had one day, and 4 dresses.  Found one that I thought was fun, was me, and I could walk and sit in it comfortably.  And that's what I wore!

You just have to realize that there are literally millilons of dresses out there.  Of course there's always going to be something you'd like to change, but honestly, at the end of the day I think there's a lot of hype about it being a WEDDING DRESS.  Sure you want to look pretty and be special, but they're all special.  If you just stop thinking that you have to look a certain way, or be a certain way-- then you find what you're looking for.  Stop putting pressure on yourself to find "the one" and I think you'll be surprised at how much easier it is.

YouandMe912

My MIL said she could tell by my face. Every other dress I tried on just didn't give me the look she said I "needed" or else it wasn't good enough. She was right. It was the perfect dress for me. IMO, you just know. Similar to picking your mate. I just knew about my H, and I just knew about my dress.

kdweingart03

Thank you everyone for your responses....I definitely have a new outlook when trying on dresses now.  I cancelled my order this morning and the sales consultant mentioned that she wasn't suprised because of how uneasy I was during the whole process.  (I went to lunch with my mom after I bought it and couldn't even eat - I knew then that I made the wrong decision - went back and told the sales consultants what happened but they reassured me it was the right choice...) 

I agree now that there isn't such thing as the "one" dress and there will be several dresses we will like.  However, the other factors (i.e. budget, comfort, style) will play a factor in the decision.

T. Kaufman, I'm glad I wasn't the only one feeling overwhelmed by all of this!  Maybe we are setting our expectations too high - not sure but after all these comments I'm hoping next time I won't have a panic attack and actually think before I act....

Thanks again everyone!

PDXMartha

For what it's worth, I never got *that* feeling.
I found a beautiful dress at a good price (great discount).  It had attirbutes I liked, and didn't have any that I'd scoff at (some other dresses I tried on, did) such as an ugly ruffle, way to low cleavage for a Church ceremony, too froufrou, etc.  It is pretty, very compfortable, and not at all complex.  (means it comes off fast and easy, too *wink wink*).
My cousin bought a dress that she didn't like.  It was one of those scenerios where her mom and every person in the store stopped in their tracks when she walked out in it.  Based on their reaction, she bought it.  she just thought it was mediocre.
Her wedding was 12.5 years ago.  Of all the weddings I've been to, her dress is the only one I remember.  And to her, she thought  it was just "meh. I guess it'll do".

PDXMartha

PS.  I only went to one store for dresses.  I had 2 other appointments that day, but bought the dress from the first store and cancelled the other appts.  I only tried on a handfull of dresses in that store, too.