Unsure about my dress.....

Msnisha81

I tried on wedding dresses for the 2nd tIme with my mom and bff/maid of honor and the moment I put the dress on I loved it. I felt beautiful,sexy and classy. My mom and bff also loved the dress. Because my father passed me and my fiance are paying for everything on our own. My bff and her husband paid right then and there for my 900 dress as a wedding gift. I am very, very grateful but the dress that I dreamed I would be walking down ther aisle in is totally different by Maggie sottero. I still think about this dress although I already have my dress in my closet wondering if I made a mistake cause I never had the chance to even try it on. I don't want to be disrespectful or hurt my friends feelings but I feel in my heart that should try it on. But if I do, and I love it how do I tell her that I changed the dress?!?!? Or should I just take the safe route, keep everyone else happy and just settle. Like I said before the one I have is beautiful but not the one in my dreams.
NOTE: If I did like this dream dress I plan to sell my current dress to pay for it.

Avion22

Rule Number One of dress shopping is:  Once you find (and buy) your dress, STOP LOOKING.  

You tried on this dress and fell in love with it.  It makes you feel amazing. And your friends were generous enough fo buy it for you (meaning THEY loved it on you too).   Stop fantasizing about this other dress that you never tried on.  A lot of dresses look very different from the pictures you see on the internet once you try them on, and a lot of girls are dissapointed that the dress they fell in love with on the internet or in a magazine didn't live up to their expectations once they actually tried it on.

If it helps, since you have your dress hanging in your closet, take it out and try it on from time to time to remember how amazing it makes you feel.  Remember that shoes, a veil or headpiece, and jewelry will only help to complete the look:-)   

jennylee813

Agree. When I managed a bridal salon brides came in all the time doubting that they had found the 'right' dress. You have.

Besides, falling in love with a picture of a dress and imagining how you would feel is very different than the reality. PP is right, often the dream dress looks nothing like you thought it would when you put it on, and then you're left without any idea of what you want. Think about how many times you see posts or hear people say that they thought they knew what they wanted, or the bridal consultant suggested something that they'd NEVER want to try on their own...

You have an amazing dress hanging in your closet that's been provided by wonderful friends. I think that you might be missing the thrill of chasing the dress more than anything. Finding 'the dress' is often the biggest and most time consuming part of planning a wedding. You're lucky enough to have done that. Enjoy!

MissBehavinJess

I agree with the PPs. Your friends bought you a $900 dress! Not many people have friends like that. The dress was gorgeous and it made you feel gorgeous...be happy with it. Most likely if you tried the other dress on it won't look good anyways but it's not worth risking it. It would be completely rude to sell the dress your friends bought you to pay for it.

BostonGIrl4732

I never tried on my dream dress either.  The dress I fell in love with online was a ballgown.  Every ball gown I tried on looked AWFUL on me.  I didn't need to try on my dream dress to know that it wouldn't look good on my body type.  I hate my dress when I look at it online.  When it's on me, I love it.  I think that's what has made it so easy to accept now.  Stuff just looks different on models!

QueerFemme

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[QUOTE]I tried on wedding dresses for the 2nd tIme with my mom and bff/maid of honor and the moment I put the dress on I loved it. I felt beautiful,sexy and classy. My mom and bff also loved the dress. Because my father passed me and my fiance are paying for everything on our own. My bff and her husband paid right then and there for my 900 dress as a wedding gift. I am very, very grateful but the dress that I dreamed I would be walking down ther aisle in is totally different by Maggie sottero. I still think about this dress although I already have my dress in my closet wondering if I made a mistake cause I never had the chance to even try it on. I don't want to be disrespectful or hurt my friends feelings but I feel in my heart that should try it on. But if I do, and I love it how do I tell her that I changed the dress?!?!? Or should I just take the safe route, keep everyone else happy and just settle. Like I said before the one I have is beautiful but not the one in my dreams. NOTE: If I did like this dream dress I plan to sell my current dress to pay for it.


I think you should try on the dress in your closet again.  And.. if you do decide to go try on and buy your dream dress, keep in mind, you will never get close to the $900.00 your friend paid for your dress if you sell it.    You will be lucky to get $500.00. 
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loca4pook

You fell in love with it in the first place, don't second guess. I also would definitely think wearing a different dress would possibly lead to a friendship ending. Is that worth it?

Just remember, some dresses look great in mags and in stores but look awful on..just remember that