FI wants his groomsmen to wear suits

kirstenr

He says he's always thought it's strange that the bride dresses nothing like her bridesmaids, yet the groom is totally interchangeable with the groomsmen. He wants to wear a tuxedo, and have his guys wear nice suits.  I just want to know what the public opinion of this is. 

He gets to wear what he wants, and dress his side the way he wants. It's the same privilege the bride gets to enjoy, so he should too... but his sister got all snotty about it, so I want to know if other people will too.  Not that it matters.  What does everyone think? 

Knittibell

If he's in a tux and they're in black suits I think it's fine. The bride and her party do not match, but they DO generally have the same level of formality, and it should be the same for the men in the BP.  So if they're in black suits, that would work.

Or, have him in a funkier vest/tie combo than the GM- but either way, as long as they match formality, it'll be fine.

srkropf

Sounds fine with me, ignore your FSIL

kirstenr

My girls will be in black cocktail dresses.

He wants to wear a black tux, probably grayish charcoal vest/tie, and yes, black suits for the guys.  His new idea is to have them all wear different patterned ties or different color ties, which I'm not a huge fan of myself, but like I said-- I really think this portion of the planning is his call.

MsBunny312

My fiance is going to wear a light grey suit and then his groomsmen will wear black suits. I've seen it done before and it looks great if the guys don't totally match the groom.

opalsky007

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[QUOTE]My girls will be in black cocktail dresses. He wants to wear a black tux, probably grayish charcoal vest/tie, and yes, black suits for the guys.  His new idea is to have them all wear different patterned ties or different color ties, which I'm not a huge fan of myself, but like I said-- <strong>I really think this portion of the planning is his call</strong>.
Posted by kirstenr[/QUOTE]

And you've just answered your own question :)

If his sister gets snotty, tell her that her brother picked it out, and that it's his wedding too.

petey406

I think it would be OK, as long as they are wearing the same suit, by the same designer.

vegasgroom

I was thinking about this very subject for my wedding; I'm going to be wearing a tux that I'm buying and it's not a brand that rental places carry, so my GM's are going to look different than me either way.  That made me start thinking why not let them wear suits so they wouldn't have to rent something, but then I started thinking I wouldn't like it if the suits don't match and if they're going to have to rent something either way to accomplish the matching, may as well be a tux, so now I'm back to having them wear tuxes. :-)

gottahavashorti

DH's GM wore their own suits.  They had matching pocket squares instead of boutonnieres and wore ties of their choice that coordinated with the pocket squares.  The different suits/ties looked fine and it was still cohesive.

Knittibell

I actually really like all different ties of the same color- I think it's a great look. No need for super matchy/matchy cookie cutter bridal parties. It all sounds like it'll be great to me!

Vegas- did you ask if they'd rather buy a suit than rent a tux? I always think it's not a bad thing for a man to have another suit, and, unlike the bridesmaid dresses, it IS something they'll wear OVER AND OVER!

vegasgroom

That's probably a good idea, I'll round them up and see if they'd want to do that.

gottahavashorti

Vegas, it might be easy enough to have them get their own suits.  If they don't think they'll wear them often, they can still probably get them from somewhere like JCPenney, Kohl's or Burlington for less than the cost of a tux rental.  DH and his GM wore their own black suits.  His BM got a new suit for the wedding.  One GM's is pinstriped and it's barely noticeable.  I didn't really notice the difference in cuts of the suits until I cropped this picture - otherwise it just looks like everyone has a suit that fits them well.

LoriAH11

I think it will be fine as long as they coordinate. Your BM's will coordinate with you w/out looking just like you. The guys aren't wearing tux's or suits in my wedding. It is an outdoor June wedding and after being in a few outdoor June weddings I decided that it just seems like toture and punishment to make the guys wear full suits and tuxes.

With that being said, my FI is pretty much picking out the guys' stuff too. I gave a few guidelines of things I thought would look good with what I'm having for the girls' side. They will all wear black pants, maybe black dress shirts (not totally decided) and ivory suspenders with a brightly colored tie to match with the accent colors. MY FI will have a similar look, just with a different color shirt and a different tie than the rest of the guys.

So my long winded anwer would be, I think it will be just fine as long it coordinates. Super matchy matchy gets boring anyway!

kirstenr

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[QUOTE]I actually really like all different ties of the same color- I think it's a great look. No need for super matchy/matchy cookie cutter bridal parties.
Posted by Knittibell[/QUOTE]

<div>I think I like the idea of different patterns in the same color too, which is where I'm trying to sway him-- his idea is more along the "different colors" theme, which I don't see as great... although here, I'll go off on a tangent and get some feedback:</div><div>
</div><div>My dress will be ivory with silver beading and lace accents. His tux will be black, and I think he wants silver accents.  My BMs' dresses will be black.  His GMs suits will be black... the flowers will be white and red.  So... would multi-color ties look cool and add some needed color, or should they maybe be different patterns/shades of red? Or patterns in silver?  I just can't figure it out.  I want to help him out.</div>

LoriAH11

The only problem with having them get say red ties with different is that their different shade might not coordinate (so may have to get involved more than think if you did that).

As I said above my guys are wearing different colored ties. Here is is how mine is laids out. My colors are black, cobalt blue and granny smith green. The groomsmen will wear the green, the two best men will wear the blue and my FI is wearing a black tie with ivory polka dots that I had custom made for him.