bow tie?

alehayes

FI has expressed the wish to wear a  bow tie.  We're having a casual outdoor wedding at his brother's farm.  I always thought bow ties were for more formal weddings. 

Is it okay to let him have this (I try to give him what wedding-related things I can, since he feels guilty about not having wedding opinions), or should I try to persuade him to use a regualr necktie instead?

vegasgroom

I'd let him wear what he wants; better to have him happy with what he's wearing on his wedding day.   I'm wearing a tux with a normal tie on my wedding day even though it's going to be more formal, just because I hate bow ties, FI is ok with it.

alehayes

Thanks for the advice

Nice to see a dude on here, btw

dizzinea

it depends on what else he's wearing bow ties can also be fun and whimsical 

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_q3VawqKcjpI/S0FmwT9-oXI/AAAAAAAAECE/YUqXlbF9Dbo/Louboutin_wedding_02.jpg

to me the striped tie makes it fun

girl2bewed

Definately let him do it if thats what he wants. Our wedding is semi formal so bow ties are ok, but I'm not a fan of them. FI really wanted them so thats what he and the GM are wearing.

Definately agree w/seeing a guy on here, thats the first time nice to have a guys perspective

scurtis07

Well for me it depends, are the other groomsmen wearing bow ties as well? If he is the only one that could throw everything off. I am not the type of person who demands uniform across the page but I feel that is too much of a drastic difference, and think about the fact that there needs to be someone able to actually TIE the bow tie, and if all of the groomsmen are wearing one, factor in that they should all be done properly, and they take a little longer to twi to perfection.

aerinpegadrak

I think a patterned bow tie would be a good compromise, it would let him get the style he wants without looking too stuffy. 

alehayes

Yeah, he's going to be wearing a pink gingham tie either way.  While we were talking about it last night, he said  he's never worn a bow tie before, he just thinks they look really cool.  So I told him we'll get a bow tie for him to put on to make sure he likes how HE looks in a bow tie before we shell out the cash for the wedding.  Plus, I told him HE will have to learn to tie it since I'll be a little too busy the day of the wedding to tie it for him

Knittibell

Totally fine! And you can ABSOLUTELY wear a bow tie with a suit!!

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB123924141044503821.html

_Dagney_

Of course it's fine.  He should wear what he wants.  It's certainly not traditional to wear a four-in-hand with a tux, or a tux at all in the afternoon...but we see that all the time at weddings, and it's totally acceptable.