help- bridesmaid dress opinions please!!!

Summer1024

I originally picked out a beautiful dress with straps for my maid and matron of honor. I thought having the straps would be a nice way to show that they were the "special" bridesmaids. I have 7 other girls in the wedding party and I chose a strapless dress for them which is veryyy similar to the dress with straps so it still all looks put together- same colors and everything. Now I have a few girls that are complaining non stop about having to wear strapless. I dont like confrontation and I want everyone to be happy -I am def not one of those bitchy brides-so I was going to change it but then some of my other bridesmaids said that they liked the strapless and dont think I should change it. When i thought about it I thought the straps would be a little much in the pictures with 9 g irls since the straps are kind of thick(and I originally was dead set on the idea of having the maid and matron with straps and the others without soo it did kind of suck thinking i had to change it ). Here is the picture of the ddress with the straps, not in the right colors though... what do you think???? http://alexiadesigns.com/Bridesmaids/Alexia-Couture/-A-line,Pleated,Tank-Style-850/ 
This is the strapless one- I am having them sew the band on though so it doesnt tie and it more like the other dress... http://alexiadesigns.com/Bridesmaids/Alexia-Couture/-A-line,Empire,Sweetheart-Style-844/

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I didn't vote. I think that you should let the girls choose the dress they want from the designer you chose. They don't have to be all the same. My girls wore 3 or 4 different styles of dresses and it looked fine. I think making them have straps or be strapless is ridiculous. Different girls like and look good in different styles, so I would definitely let them choose.

If you want your MOH to stand out from the other BM's, there are plenty of other ways you can do this rather than making her wear something she doesn't want to. For example, she could wear a flower in her hair (my MOH did this), have a slightly larger bouquet than the other girls and more similar to yours, wear a colored sash, have a different color wrap on her bouquet, and the list goes on and on.

aerinpegadrak

Ditto missy.  Your attendants are the ones who have to wear these dresses, they should get the final say.  Personally, I hate strapless dresses, and would definitely resist if a bride tried to stuff me into one.

MommyMarta08

I think your friends were rude in complaining. When I have to wear a bridesmaids dress I don't like (every bridesmaids dress) I say it's beautiful and wear it without complaints. I would just assure them they all look gorgeous and not bring it up. If someone comes to you again and is very strong that they don't like wearing strapless, I would offer them the option of changing it, just to keep the peace and because it's not a huge deal. 

ring_pop

Let everyone choose whichever dress out of the two that they want to wear. Your pictures will still look great, and your girls will love you for it!

Your guests won't really care which ones are the "special" bridesmaids and which ones are just the "regular" bridesmaids. They'll see these nine girls standing up with you and think how lovely a person you must be to have so many close friends.

Seriously. Most people won't even make the connection that "straps = special". Just let it go.

bidge24

i am not a fan of strapless dresses at all.  as far as the maid/matron of honor being different...i was in a friends wedding who had her maid/matron wearing a different color than the rest of the girls... all night everyone kept asking "why are they wearing different colors than you?"  all i'm doing is having my matron of honor carry a slightly bigger bouquet than the rest of the girls that will be wrapped with different ribbon

reese511

i didnt vote.
i agree w/ PP's - let each girl choose the dress she wants. the most important thing is that your girls are comfortable, happy, and feel beautiful.  your pictures will still look great. 

i have been a BM a bunch of times....and when the dress is uncomfortable, the day is miserable.  and its a looooooong day.  i'd even throw in a 3rd choice if i were you.  between 9 girls...and 9 different body types...its hard to believe that 2 choices is enough!

GL!

heyimbren

I'd let the girls choose. That way they're all happy.

If you're already considering having some dresses with straps and some without straps, I think you should leave it up to the wearer of the dress. Keep that in mind: your BMs will be wearing the dress for the entire wedding so they should feel comfortable in what they're in.

pinkfleurdelys

 "I think your friends were rude in complaining. When I have to wear a bridesmaids dress I don't like (every bridesmaids dress) I say it's beautiful and wear it without complaints. "

are you big chested?  can't buy bras off the rack, have to order them from a specialty store?  yeah, i am...strapless is NOT happening, i will respectfully decline.  and i am a very straightforward person, i would probably tell you why i'm dropping out. 

i'm lucky this time though it's only me and one other girl in my sisters wedding, so i got to choose my dress and the other girl is not hard to fit, so it's all good.  but when she asked me i reminded her that i would not on this planet be wearing a strapless bra, so whatever dress we choose had to allow me to wear a normal bra...which does not only exclude strapless but spaghetti straps, off the shoulder...

SuMmErKuTiE

You should let your girls choose which style fits them best and makes them the most comfortable.

My MOH wore the opposite colors than my other BM's so that she would stand out as the MOH instead of wearing a different style of the dress. She wore the dress in gold with a pink sash while the other BM's wore the same dress but in pink with the gold sash.