Feeling bad that I don't care as much about my look as maybe I should...

PhishGirl

So does it make me crazy that I am not obsessing over details like my shoes and bag and such, but would just rather go with my gut, get what seems right, and forget about it?  I just feel like I don't want to stress over what's on my feet because I would rather be focusing on details of the event that will be enjoyed by all...like the overall look, and the music, etc.  I found flats that I love and I totally think I would like, but I feel bad that I just want to get them and be done with it...

Is anyone else crazy like me?  Am I crazy for even stressing that I am not stressing enough?  I guess I need someone to tell me I am not nuts.

ateague1985

I'm right there with you!!!  I bought the first dress I loved and the first shoes I loved.  If you love them, you love them!  You don't have to try on every dress & pair of shoes to know which are right for you & you don't have to date every guy to know yours is the one

Briannasteve

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[QUOTE]So does it make me crazy that I am not obsessing over details like my shoes and bag and such, but would just rather go with my gut, get what seems right, and forget about it?  I just feel like I don't want to stress over what's on my feet because I <strong>would rather be focusing on details of the event that will be enjoyed by all</strong>...like the overall look, and the music, etc.  I found flats that I love and I totally think I would like, but I feel bad that I just want to get them and be done with it... Is anyone else crazy like me?  Am I crazy for even stressing that I am not stressing enough?  I guess I need someone to tell me I am not nuts.
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</div><div>You are Fine!!! Everyone plans their wedding differently. I got my shoes first!!! lol because I was at Macys and fell in love with a pair of shoes. I figured if I didnt end up wanting to wear them for my wdding ill wear them to another wedding! ha See? am I crazy for that? did i mention it was on sale?... it was. I just get something when it jumps out at me. It doesnt matter as long as YOU and your FH are happy. 

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mrszeno34

I feel kinda the same.  I was stressing at first, then decided - why?  Found a bracelet I liked, it was cheap and I bought it.  Same with earrings.  Not driving myself crazy if every little detail matches or is perfect.  I love everything I got and didn't break the bank.  So I feel pretty good!

PhishGirl

You have all made me feel so much better!!  Thank you!!!  I really appreciate that I can come here and feel supported.

firsttimersluck

Don't stress it. I was picky with my shoes but.. that's because I love shoes. I didn't stress over all the rest of the details (heck, I made my wedding earrings because I was bored one evening.. lol ). 

We all have our priorities, and your personal look isn't  your #1. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.   

csweaney

Go with your gut in all things. I've found, from personal experience, that gut instincts are normally the right choices (like with my fiance for example, you probably had a similar experience--when I knew I just KNEW). Don't sweat the small stuff and just enjoy the ride

Grits8812

As long as you are comfortable with your decision, there is nothing wrong with not worrying over a pair of shoes or a hair piece.  While your wedding is about you and your fiance, and the dress, and the hair, and blah blah blah, it is also about the bigger picture, being the whole event.