Bridesmaid Shoes

MelanieNAndrew

I bought my bridesmaids their shoes for the wedding, but I gave them to each bridesmaid as soon as I got them so that they could try them on to make sure they fit, and so that they could work them in leading up to the wedding.
I am writing a letter to each of the maids and am unsure if I should say in the letter that their shoes are their gift, or not say it, assuming they will know.
Help would be appreciated:)

Summer2011Bride

What you will hear on the boards is that if it's something they have to use for your wedding, it really isn't considered a gift for them. If you wanted a specific shoe, you were right to purchase it for them, but since you're requiring them to wear the shoes to your wedding, it really isn't a gift that each girl necessarily even likes or wants. I would try to get each girl something else small that is particular to her own taste that she can use after your wedding. Maybe a gift card to a store she likes.

jemmini6

Ditto PP, "bridesmaids" shoes are a uniform, not a gift.  I would get them something else as well to be their actual gift.  It doesn't have to be expensive, it can even be homemade, but just something to let your girls know that you appreciate them taking the time to stand up with you. 

MelanieNAndrew

I am also including a small giift, but since they will be opening it with the letter, I did not include it in my post since I wasn't planning on mentioning it IN the letter to them.
And the shoes I bought are ones that I picked out with the bridesmaids, knowing that they will definitely wear them after the wedding. I wasn't going to make them wear shoes they didn't like or would never use again.
Any input to my actual question???

Summer2011Bride

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_bridesmaid-shoes-21?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:ad909a53-a362-45a9-b311-28d2a0b69182Post:7fec32f0-3f76-4e5e-9c3b-6d99f71adde8">Re: Bridesmaid Shoes</a>:
[QUOTE]I am also including a small giift, but since they will be opening it with the letter, I did not include it in my post since I wasn't planning on mentioning it IN the letter to them. And the shoes I bought are ones that I picked out with the bridesmaids, knowing that they will definitely wear them after the wedding. I wasn't going to make them wear shoes they didn't like or would never use again. <strong>Any input to my actual question???</strong>
Posted by MelanieNAndrew[/QUOTE]

I know text is not always interpreted correctly but this came across snotty to me. We did respond to your situation by giving our opinion on giving BM attire as gifts and told you what you will typically encounter posting those types of questions on the board. Even if you disagree with the advice, it doesn't mean we weren't addressing the situation.

Should you mention in your note to them that the shoes are their gift? No. I would never mention in a note, "By the way, ______ is your gift." That would be awkward.