I need advice, my moh seems to have no concern about getting her dress because she can't afford it at the moment. She speaks like she will never have money to buy a dress. My wedding is 5 months and two weeks away. Should I worry about her not having a dress yet? How much time should I give to have her dress ordered and altered? What can I do to encourage her more on the importance of getting the dress and figuring out a way to do it?
Re: Help! Maid of Honour won't buy dress
If the cost is the issue then maybe you need to sit down and have an honest discussion about her budget - is there a cheaper alternative to the dress you've picked? If you haven't picked one maybe you can set a shopping date and hit the sale racks to find something and make it a fun day with your MOH. Good Luck!
My personal opinion is as brides we should purchase all attire for the wedding party. I have never understood why its customary to ask someone to be in your wedding but they have to pay! Once again just my personal opinion!! If you cannot afford to buy the attire than maybe limit the number our attendants,what you can afford to pay for. As a previous bridesmaid on numerous occassion I throughly enjoyed that the "bride" purchased my attire and opted not to purchase gifts for attendants.
If you are feeling major pushback, you may want to have a serious conversation with her though. Tell her you are feeling resistance. Make sure it's just about money/dress budget and come up with a solution from there. (order a cheaper dress, pay for her dress yourself).
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
[QUOTE]<strong>My personal opinion is as brides we should purchase all attire for the wedding party. I have never understood why its customary to ask someone to be in your wedding but they have to pay! </strong>Once again just my personal opinion!! If you cannot afford to buy the attire than maybe limit the number our attendants,what you can afford to pay for. As a previous bridesmaid on numerous occassion I throughly enjoyed that the "bride" purchased my attire and opted not to purchase gifts for attendants.
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Well, that's why we <em>ask</em> them to be in the wedding party. Most people understand that agreeing to that means purchasing a dress. They can say no if they can't do it.
I ordered Eden Maids dress for my MOH they are suppose to take 12 weeks. Should come in next week and then time for alterations. Cutting it close is stressfull, you do not want to do that!
JMHO
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Since you are 5 months out, you have at least 2 months to find something, as I say "once loved".
Also, if this doesn't work. Maybe offer to pay for half of the dress?
The AA dresses I looked at all said 2-4 months. DB told me anywhere from 3 weeks to 4 months. One took just over 5 weeks, and I'm at almost 3 months for the other, and it hasn't arrived yet. So, I seriously wouldn't take any chances.
If having her in the wedding is important to you, ask to schedule some time with her to go get fitted and tell her tha tyou are paying for the dress. If she still seems resistant, have an open and honest conversation with her and ask her if there is some other reason she is feeling uncomfortable about being in the wedding.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
So sit down with your FI and figure out how much, if any, you two could afford to pitch in for the cost of the dress. Then sit down with your MOH and have a heart to heart about what she can afford without hurting her budget. Then find a dress that's in that price range. It's okay if it's not the exact same dress as your other maids since she's the MOH, if that's one of your worries. As long as it's the right length/color/formaility to go with your wedding, it will be fine.
As PP suggested, check out ebay, Craigslist, and all the pre-owned dress sites. You may be able to find the right dress for a much better price.