Mouse and baby Voldy

CaliopeSpidrman

(AKA Dimitri)[img]http://im1.shutterfly.com/media/47b9ce25b3127ccef81ce0d7bdcd00000050O00BaOWrlmxYsQe3nwI/cC/f%3D0/ps%3D50/r%3D0/rx%3D550/ry%3D400/[/img]I got to hang out with the lovely Mouse and Dimitri last night.  Dimitri is adorable, and does an excellent Benry impression:[img]http://im1.shutterfly.com/media/47b9ce25b3127ccef81d4d025caa00000050O00BaOWrlmxYsQe3nwI/cC/f%3D0/ps%3D50/r%3D0/rx%3D550/ry%3D400/[/img]Then Bug came home, so I had to document the cuteness:[img]http://im1.shutterfly.com/media/47b9ce25b3127ccef81d7782dd0700000030O00BaOWrlmxYsQe3nwI/cC/f%3D0/ps%3D50/r%3D0/rx%3D550/ry%3D400/[/img]

BobLoblaw

Awwwww, what a cutie. The Benry impression is awesome! How is she?

KristenBtobe

Aw, what a cute guy. I love his coveralls.

KayRI

He's so cute . . . and little.

tastyburger

awww, cute!  Mouse looks fanfreakingtastico, btw.  she has such a young face; I bet she'd get carded for smokes.

noisy_penguin

Very cute! Look at his fuzzy little head.

Knottie_22382080

Very cute. 

CaliopeSpidrman

She's doing well, other than the whole not getting to sleep thing.  I am a bit worried because she didn't once mention any potential girlfriends for Dimitri to sex up, so I think this means she's a terrible mother. 

KayRI

My new response to people who suggest potential girlfriends for Ian is to say we think he's gay.  Not many people know what to say.

tastyburger

oh Calie, I met Car and his mom for lunch on Sat. so she brings up his "girlfriend" again, I say, "can't we just say 'friend'?" and she says, "no, you should see the way they roll around on top of each other" and so I gasp and say "CAR'S MOM, he's a BABY.  that is so inapprorpriate!" she looked slightly chagrined, but we'll see what happens.I feel bad because this is how she grew up, like she doesn't know any better.  her uncle used to buy her really inapproprate shirts (one was this "roadkill cafe" type that had different types of roadside "pVssy" on the menu; this was in HS) and weird cds and stuff.  my mom used to always not want me to go over there and hang out when I was young because of the lack of boundries.  in college, he got her "world's bigges c*cks" dvd, and sure, she was in college, but this is her UNCLE.  and it was a christmas present.  freaking merry c*ckmas, Uncle.  seriously.

noisy_penguin

Maybe Ian and Dimitri need to get together.

noisy_penguin

Tasty, that made me cringe. And wonder if there was some sexual abuse going on there.

BobLoblaw

Tasty, that is effing weird.

mashedpotato

cute pics!tasty, that woman is crazy, there is no way Car will grow up any differently than she did.

KristenBtobe

Ew, that's super creepy. Thanks to the Mamas&Papas incest drama my mind goes right to the worst assumptions these days.

tastyburger

noisy, I'm amy100% there wasn't abuse.  but.  and this gets really weird again . . . Car's Mom's H pulled me aside Sat when we were alone and says he wants to talk to me alone.  He was saying that she never lets him "touch her".  I asked for clarifying points like, MY H and I sit on different couches to watch tv because I like my space (but we do cuddle too, I just like my personal space) and he says no, he means when they are having sex.  And so I say, "maybe since the baby she feels weird about it or feels like it is stretched out or something and feels bad for you, have you talked to HER about it?" and so he tells me that it's always been like this and that she is just not very interested in sex at all and he is walking around constantly frustrated, and any time he brings it up she gets really defensive.  So, I'm thinking in my head, "WHY did you marry her if you guys weren't compatable sexually??" but say, I think you guys need to work this out in couples therapy (especially since I know she'd be mortified, MORTIFIED, if he was talking to me about it).  He was saying things like the only time she ever initiated sex is when they were trying for car and he thought that when they had years of each other under their belts that she'd get more comfortable with him sexually and stuff.  Meanwhile, I'm trying to be the "concerned BFF" but I'm rocking on my heels and covering my ears and going NAH NAH NAH I CAN'T HEAR YOU in my head.ahhhh.  sorry.  that was long.  it's just a mixed up situation.  what made me retell this whole thing is that I never thought about abuse but now it kind of makes sense because it's effecting her sexual life as an adult.

FallinAgain

I'd bet money she has been sexually abused.

KayRI

That's just weird.  F plays golf with a guy who always talks about his wife's sexual problems.  I'm horrified that he shares like that.

BobLoblaw

Oh man, that's really sad. I'd put money on abuse too.

tastyburger

I had honestly never, ever thought that possible before.  but I can see how an unbiased third party would immediately come to that conclusion, and it scares me.  I wonder what I should do, if anything.  I have literally known this girl for our entire lives.  how blind would I be to have not noticed something was off earlier?  and less selfishly consumed than my own guilt, what do I do NOW?  ask her?  tell my suspicions to her H to let HIM ask her?  geez.  this just got real ugly real fast and I feel sick about it.

CaliopeSpidrman

Oh.my.goodness.  Are they currently in couples therapy?

BobLoblaw

Did you say that your parents were friends were friends with hers? Would your mom know anything?

Vinny08

Tasty, I would not tell her husband.  Don't put that into his head.  As her friend, you should talk to her, but I think if he thinks this, it is going to make their situation worse.

tastyburger

ready for it to get deeper? her dad died when we were 7.my mom is "friendly" with her mom.  I wouldn't say "friends" but definately neighborly and 30-year friendly.  I could definately, definately talk to my mom about it.

tastyburger

Vinny, I can see how you are right about that.  In fact, before I even started discussing this here, I wanted to "tell" on him for talking to me about their sex life in the first place (my H would NEVER. EVER.  do that).  she is just so off her rocker (you guys have heard stories) that me asking her about that MAY just be the end of our friendship.  that's how defensive I think she'd begotta run to the dr--I'll be back in a bit to read your responses/discuss further

noisy_penguin

I'd maybe talk to your mom to feel her out on what she thinks, but this just sounds...awful. All around. I don't know how I'd approach it with her either, since you aren't supposed to know about the sexual problems in the marriage. If it comes up with the husband again I'd definitely push for them to go to counseling together. Really hard.

KristenBtobe

I would not talk to her husband about it. Gosh, I don't know how you'd even go about bringing something like this up.

noisy_penguin

But I wouldn't tell the husband of my suspicions. I forgot to add that. Honestly though, I have no idea what I'd do.

KristenBtobe

Do you guys ever take walks down "memory lane?" Could you somehow work it into one of those types of convos and say oh, I thought that stuff with your uncle was strange, do you think about it ever? Or something like that?Also, it doesn't have to be incest, I still struggle with being sexually assaulted in HS and it manifests itself in different ways.

wingedbride

Awww, what a cute family. He is adorable in overalls!

jbloom

I love her new haircut, and I like Bug's cut too.