flameable confessions?

SarahPLiz

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[QUOTE]I wish I wanted babies.  It's weird... I want babies, I just don't want them now.  We want to buy a home next year and then the next thing on the list is babies.  I'm 28 so I feel like I should want to get the ball rolling.  I dunno.  Maybe I wish I had more time.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
You have plenty of time. I had SParky at 32. We want one of 2 more. It may not be as easy (or it may not be easy at all, not matter when), but you have time. DOn't rush yourself

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]I wish I wanted babies.  It's weird... I want babies, I just don't want them now.  We want to buy a home next year and then the next thing on the list is babies.  I'm 28 so I feel like I should want to get the ball rolling.  I dunno.  Maybe I wish I had more time.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

That's what's so hard for me right now.  I'm 22.  I shouldn't want babies, but the reason I got off my arse and took the EPT the other night (I'd been nauseous and dizzy for like a week) was because I fell asleep and dreamt I was breastfeeding.

Everyone expects me to sit down and focus on my career and paying off my loans.  But I just want a house and a family.

jennamarie10

My flammable confession is that I sometimes "check in" on FB or put pictures/statuses up with my friends tagged for the SOLE purpose of proving to a certain someone that I have more fun than her/better friends than her.

I realize this is annoying, and I realize that it makes me look like I'm overcompensating or something, but I still do it. I'm working on it.

Girlie1030

Boobs reminded me of one... 

I get pretty pissy when younger women worry about getting too old to get pregnant.  I know everyone has their own time table but if you're only 28 (not you specifically AATB) you've got plenty of time. 

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]When I think about actual child birth, I become kind of happy that I can't have kids. The thought of that scares me to death.  And all I can think about when I see the tickers are <strong>watermelons coming from my vag.
</strong>Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

This is hilarious!

AATB- Thanks, we try to do as much as we can. And believe me when you're ready to have one, you'll know. I know women that suddenly realize it's time in their 30's. You'll get there. Is B ready or something? I know you want him to have a better job first as well.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

This is flammable - when I was 21 years old and still with my ex I thought I was pregnant once.  Before I voiced my reasonings to my bf the first thing I did was get online to google about abortions.  Turned out I wasn't pregnant obviously but, shiiit, I can't believe I did that.  If I'd thought I was pregnant with Ben before we were married or that young I never would have done that.

Starmusica

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: flameable confessions? : You have plenty of time. I had SParky at 32. We want one of 2 more. It may not be as easy (or it may not be easy at all, not matter when), but you have time. DOn't rush yourself
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]


Sarah- I totally agree with you- another reason I get so angry with myself!! I am 27. There is so much we want to do and yet both of us want kids like now. Half of me is sure we are making the right decision (to start trying towards the end of the year) and the other half of me is like WTF are you guys doing?!?! We will have been together 10 years in February so the half of me that is all ready feels like this is our natural next step. I am literally all over the place. Sometimes I think my concerns mean I am not ready and other times I think my concerns are totally normal.

Me= mess.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

And yeah - I know I have time to have babies.  And we literally just can't right now - with our living situation and our finances and whatnot.  Obviously if it happened now we'd make it work but it's not ideal.  Ben is in no hurry, either

brandichamberlain

Nebb- are you pissed this is about babies?

[Deleted User]

I agree, poni - we need intelligent teachers. Don't be ashamed of what you do, be proud. If anyone judges you for it, fuuck them.

I had another one, but now I forgot. But, I will join you on the judgey couch, les. I keep my mouth shut about most things because chances are, you (general) won't want to hear my opinion.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Oh and even though I do want babies someday I think all the time about what it's going to do to my body and it scares the ish out of me.  I seriously love my body right now and it feels SO good to be in my body.  It feels so selfish but yeah, I'm dreading what pregnancy and birth will do to me physically.

pirategal03

Seriously...y'all are my only group of friends who doesn't think late 20s-30s is too old to have children.  People I know in real life, and our families, pretty much assume we're not having kids/can't have kids since we've been married over a year and are ::gasp:: in our late 20s and aren't pregnant yet. 

LetsHikeToday

I bought my H a few big bags of skittles and starbursts for his upcoming deployment, to take him with. I opened a bag of starbursts last night and now he is taking a half eaten bag with him.

I judge the shhit out of one of the 2 wives who have been nice to me here. Her son is 4 and he doesn't know how to count or his colors. Preschool for 4/5 year olds is state funded is Georgia but she won't sign him up because "she doesn't know what to say when she calls." It's f ucking free education to help her son get ready for K next year and she feels stupid calling. She doesn't read or do anything with him at home. 

SereJane

I've dreamt twice in the past week that I was pregnant. 

gurrlballa10

I can get on board with most of these confessions.

Mine is that I resent H for the house we are living in.  It's completely irrational, because I know he bought it way before he met me, but I was setting myself up to buy the house I wanted before I met him (renting a small apt and saving up), but that got blown to bits because he already has a mortgage.  With the way the housing market is, there's no telling when we will be able to sell.  And this house is not anything close to what I would have had my "starter home" be.  Assshole, party of me. 

Starmusica

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[QUOTE]Seriously...y'all are my only group of friends who doesn't think late 20s-30s is too old to have children.  People I know in real life, and our families, pretty much assume we're not having kids/can't have kids since we've been married over a year and are ::gasp:: in our late 20s and aren't pregnant yet. 
Posted by pirategal03[/QUOTE]

I hear you on this. a lot of our family and friends are all marriage then babies immediately. Only a few of my friends get the waiting thing but if we really decide to wait until our 30s I am sure we will lose them there. They won't get it.

Then I get the TOTAL opossite at work and from lawyer friends. Most lawyers I know TOTALLY judge female attorneys who decide to start families before their late 30s, early 40s. I understand that we are in a competitive field and that to really achieve my best as an attorney, I need to focus on that alone, but that is not what I want. I don't think that should make me any less smart or talented as an attorney either.

acaponi87

Thanks ladies : Also FI and I were looking at our birth certificates yesterday and both our moms were 32 when they had us. My mom had been married 10 years at that point.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]Oh and even though I do want babies someday I think all the time about what it's going to do to my body and it scares the ish out of me.  I seriously love my body right now and it feels SO good to be in my body.  It feels so selfish but yeah, I'm dreading what pregnancy and birth will do to me physically.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

I'll be honest I think a lot of women are MORE beautiful and sexy once they give birth. There are some stars I thought were pretty before, but once they had a baby they were stunning.

Can you imagine just how goreous you will be <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-kiss.gif" border="0" alt="Kiss" title="Kiss" />

Nebb

In Response to Re:flameable confessions?:[QUOTE]Nebb are you pissed this is about babies? Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]
Mildly. All anyone talks about is fhucking babies. There is more to life than having babies, goddamn.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: flameable confessions? : I'll be honest I think a lot of women are MORE beautiful and sexy once they give birth. There are some stars I thought were pretty before, but once they had a baby they were stunning. Can you imagine just how goreous you will be
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]


Omg.  I will dazzle the world.

DodgersBride

It is  not uncommon in my social circle to have children young and unmarried.  What gets on my nerves, when young moms I am talking about having kids right out of high school so like 18-19 use the "Oh well I didn't want to be an old mom" excuse for having kids young. Really you thought 18 would be the best time to get pregnant and raise a kid.

acaponi87

Me too KD!

calixtine

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[QUOTE]Oh and even though I do want babies someday I think all the time about what it's going to do to my body and it scares the ish out of me.  I seriously love my body right now and it feels SO good to be in my body.  It feels so selfish but yeah, I'm dreading what pregnancy and birth will do to me physically.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

This.  I've already budgeted for a personal trainer for myself after I have a baby.  Ideally, I would also like to be a SAHM for a while and the biggest bonus to that would be I can go to the gym...a lot. 

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: flameable confessions? : I'll be honest I think a lot of women are MORE beautiful and sexy once they give birth. There are some stars I thought were pretty before, but once they had a baby they were stunning. Can you imagine just how goreous you will be
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

I can agree with this.  You work out now, so if you stay healthy, you'll probably see good changes with your body/appearance.  

This can probably be judged- but I hate women who use the pregnancy excuse to eat whatever they want.  I think the healthy weight gain is like 25-30 lbs. or something like that.  Once you have a  7 lb baby and lose a lot of water, you're not far from the starting weight! 

LetsHikeToday

This is off topic but is anyone else's arrow to make the newest post come up first not working? Mine hasn't been working since last night and it pisses me off.

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My mom was 19 when she had me. As a result, my brother and I grew up hearing about the importance of waiting to have kids until I was at least in my late 20s (it was her choice to have me young due to health concerns, but she didn't want that for us). Not that it matters now, for me anyway.

Slight judgey confession - I don't understand why my brother is with his girlfriend. I mean, I get that they've been together since high school and are basically best friends, but she just doesn't suit him. But they are talking engagement plans so I guess we're stuck with her. Don't get me wrong, I do like her, there are just certain things that are seriously irritating.

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]This is off topic but is anyone else's arrow to make the newest post come up first not working? Mine hasn't been working since last night and it pisses me off.
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]

I think everyone's is doing this, unfortunately.

LetsHikeToday

Thanks Brandi. I didn't know if it was just me or not. 

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: flameable confessions? : I can agree with this.  You work out now, so if you stay healthy, you'll probably see good changes with your body/appearance.   This can probably be judged- but I hate women who use the pregnancy excuse to eat whatever they want.  I think the healthy weight gain is like 25-30 lbs. or something like that.  Once you have a  7 lb baby and lose a lot of water, you're not far from the starting weight! 
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

...I kinda judge it too.  My cousin gained like 75 lbs when she was pregnant.  Both times.

Obviously, I have no real experience in this so I may eat my words someday, but every single time I saw her she was drinking an oversized soda or eating fast food.  I'll probably consume fast food once in a while during pregnancy - just like I do on occasions now - but for real?  It can't be healthy for you or the baby to eat shiiit like that and gain all that weight?

Nebb

A few weeks ago I was flipping through the radio in my car and found a song that didn't sound bad so I turned it up and I was really digging it. It was nickleback. I'm so frigging ashamed of myself.