Getting married young

merivale87

In August, I will be 23 and FI will be 24. We're getting married in October. Even though we have been together for 6 years and engaged for 3, I'm so very glad we waited until we were finished college/university and had some financial and emotional stability before getting married. I am 100% ready to marry him right now, and there if absolutely no doubt in my mind that we will be together for our entire lives. I can't speak for every relationship, but personally I don't think it would have worked out had we gotten married 3 years ago as soon as we got engaged. We have done so much growing (individually and as a couple) that we might not have been able to do if we were already married.

But, I try not to judge couples who get married young, because I recognize that some 19 year olds have their lives more together at that age than I do at nearly 23.

tba0313

My heart goes out to the ladies who have had to deal with the insanity of being in an abusive relationship.  I, too, was engaged at 18 to a guy who eventually spit in my face, threw me around, held a knife to me, and punched a ceiling fan off our ceiling and threw it out our bedroom window!  I ran after that.  It was hard. I really thought I was ready to marry him before things got crazy (although looking back, the signs were always there).

Now I'm older, and am at a completely different point in my life. I'm not saying all young marriages fail as I know people who have married young and it works.  For me, I can see now how naive I was. I didn't know myself yet, let alone the man I thought I was going to marry.  I am so glad I waited and I know it's best for me and FI now, although the situation from years ago can still affect me. I thought I was unstoppable back then and man, have I grown older and wiser!

Sloane99

I was proposed to at 17, instead of a ring he gave me a baseball cap. Yeah, I turned that one down, even at 17 I realized it was a bit ridiculous.

I also got married young to the guy I'd been with since I was 19 and we were living proof of why we shouldn't get married young we pretty much fulfilled every beebee stereotype.

Now at 31, I'm soooo happy I'm getting married "later" in life.

Goff2010

It absolutely is the right choice for me. My mom and dad got married at 20 and 21, FI's parents have been married since 19 and 21- both still happily married having had four children. We're going into it 18 and 25. I also don't mention age because I'd like to skip out on the you-have-no-idea what your getting into conversations. I we waited any longer we'd be doing long distance for the next several years, and we both decided that was not the way to go. The prospect of forever and through the good, bad, and the ugly is the most wonderful opportunity I could ever ask for.

cnbrantner

     I never thought I would be getting married this young but for the past two year FI and I have planned on spending the rest of our lives with each other and now that we are moving away soon and starting a new life together, why not make it legal and have a huge party?

edit: its doesn't help that we both look 16. everytime Fi goes to buy beer they give him a hard time, they never believe he is old enough even tho he is.

HereToday09

There is WAY too much growing that people do in their late teens/ early twenties... regardless of if they attend college or not.  I was 'engaged' when I was 19 (he asked me just as I went off to school while he stayed behind- last ditch effort, I think), and in hindsight, it was never meant to be.  And we were together for 5+ years! 

susieq87

I am not under 20 anymore, I am 22 and will be 23 when I get married next year. I have been w/ FI for almost 4 years and have not graduated college, yet. I am going part time and working full time. My opinion, it depends on the person. I grew up very fast, leaving my house to join the Coast Guard when I was 17. But I look at my younger cousins and see them getting pregnant or wanting to get married because they are "in love" and I laugh. I just hope I can help them see the truth.

lovelybride2

I READING ALL THESE COMMENTS AND i WILL BE GETTING MARRIED AT THE AGE OF 21 AND TMY FIANCE WILL BE 21 SIX MONTHS LATER AFTER WE GET MARRIED.  WE BEEN TOGOTHER SINCE TENTH GRADE WHICH WOULD BE FIVE YEARS. WE BOUGHT A HOUSE FIVE MONTHS AGO AND ARE LOVING LIFE. i AGREE WITH SOME OF YOU THAT SOME PPL CANT GET MARRIED YOUNG CAUSE THERE TO IMMATURE.. bUT i HAVE HAD TO GROW UP AND LIVE ON MY OWN IN 11TH GRADE SO IF YOUR MATTURE AND READY TO BE WITH SOMEONE FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE i THINK IT IS GREAT.. BUT NOT FOR SOMEONE THAT GOT PREGNANT AND THAT THE ONLY REASON THEY GOT MARRIED THAT NOT GOOD... i LOVE MY FIANCE AND CANT WAIT TILL THE DAY WE SAY i DO..  AND WE ARE SO HAPPY AT THIS TIME AND HAVE BEEN FOR FIVE YEARS..