How upset do you get when someone misspells your name?

seesawgirl

The reason why I'm asking, is because when FI gave me the list of his family members, he misspelled a number of them. I was able to catch some of them, but his cousin, who spells her name "Jeanette" but pronounces it "Juh-net", has an invitation heading her way with her name spelled "Janette". FI thinks that we need to send her an invitation and RSVP card with her name spelled properly. I think the woman is 24 years old, and I doubt that she's going to get pissy because her cousin's FI who has only met her 2 times didn't know how to properly spell her name. Thoughts?

Celles

It depends. 

Michele I'm okay with.  Michael, not so much.

Celles

Also, just call her and apologize for the misspelling, and commit to getting it right on the escort card (if you're using them).  A missing E is no big deal.

I was either a Janette or a Jeanette before I was adopted.  I don't know which.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]My first name is Jasmine, and I have my name mispelled often ("Jasmin").  It bothers me when it's family (or FI's family).  It wouldn't bother me enough to freak out about it, but I think your attitude about it kind of sucks.   If I got a formal wedding invitation with my name spelled wrong, I'd be tempted to give you a card with your name spelled wrong, and my very large signature at the bottom, with emphasis on the 'e'. 
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

I agree with your first part (OP's attitude kind of sucks), but to your second part I say "Well, aren't you mature?"

OP, I agree that you should call and apologize, clarify the spelling with her, and get it right in the future.

mbody

I think it depends on the relationship between me and the person who is misspelling the name.

For instance, my aunt always writes Michele, instead of Michelle. It does annoy me a bit because, um, hello you've been my aunt for 28 years! (She is my mom's brother 's wife- so not blood, but STILL!)

But, if someone I'm not particularly close with misspells, I wouldn't care too much.

In this instance, I'd apologize and just change it on everything else from here on out. I don't think a new invite needs to be sent.

Celles

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[QUOTE]My first name is Jasmine, and I have my name mispelled often ("Jasmin").  It bothers me when it's family (or FI's family).  It wouldn't bother me enough to freak out about it, but I think your attitude about it kind of sucks.   If I got a formal wedding invitation with my name spelled wrong, I'd be tempted to give you a card with your name spelled wrong, and my very large signature at the bottom, with emphasis on the 'e'. 
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

Are you 12?

AdeleDazeem

This is a family member?  I'd be embarrassed if I made the mistake and irked if I was on the recieving end of the mistake.

Apologize.  Get it right on everything in the future.

For our STDs, I misspelled my brother in law's fiance's name.  I immediately apologized profusely.

ErinG93

I don't get upset at all. Customers call me "Eric" all the time, which is funny because my email says, "Erin LastName." Really? I also get called Mr. LastName, which I don't mind.

OP, I would call and say you're sorry. No biggy.

celticmyss

As a Sara I no longer get upset when people spell my name wrong. I am used to seeing an H on the end. I have also seen it spelled Sahra, Shara, and Sarha though. My brain hurts when I see  those last few. 

It does make me question a person's intelligence when the spell my name wrong in response to a work email or on FB when the correct spelling is right in front of their face. 

I agre that this shouldn't be a big deal and that OP (or her FI since it's his cousin!) should just apologize and not make the same mistake again.

petebergsh

I'm 26, my name is Leanne, I could care less how you spell it, I've seen:

LeAnn
Leann
Leighanne
Leeann
Liane

At this point, if you can pronounce it, I'm okay.
Jeanne (Genie) and Leanne (LeeAnn) are spelled similarly, sound different. Go figure. :-)

hbatchel2

It doesn't really bother me. I grew up with a long last name that no one could spell. I now have a short last name that no can spell, so I guess I'm used to it.

But since you know it was wrong, make sure you spell it right on everything else from here on out.

Nindakay

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[QUOTE]I don't get upset at all. Customers call me "Eric" all the time, which is funny because my email says, "Erin LastName." Really? I also get called Mr. LastName, which I don't mind. OP, I would call and say you're sorry. No biggy.
Posted by ErinG93[/QUOTE]

Haha!!  My name is MELINDA and when I talk to people on the phone (that's my job...call center) they call me Rhonda or Wanda.  Whaaat?!  How they will get that, I never know.  But I just laugh it off.  It's a funny story.

RE: OP - my last name can be spelled about 50 different ways, so I don't really mind if someone gets it wrong.  It's pretty common, so no biggie.

I will be happy to be married and getting an easier (and shorter!) last name though.

Tahlora

I would just apologize when you see  her, or call. I would just say you didn't have time to go through all the invites before sending them so didn't catch it.
My name is TayLora, no one spells it right, and mine is pronounced the way it is spelt. People always uncap the L or add a space or take the a off. Or just butcher it. One of my teachers in high school just called my by my older sisters name for the whole year... Her name is Anastasia.. Lol.

KateJ10

I get upset if they should know it (like a close family member) or I get upset at work when I get emails to "Kathy" even though my full name is written correctly in the "To:" box.

I used to get more annoyed until I had a wedding and realized it can be difficult to spell every single persons name correctly. I missed a couple names, felt bad about it, but made sure to spell them correctly the rest of the time.

Like others have said, just use the correct spellings going forward.

ETA: Also, I tend to give more leeway when I am close to or related to the Groom, because I assume a lot of the time the bride is the one doing the invites, and the grooms (at least in my experience) tend to not notice or look into those details.

Case in point: my husband and I just got an invite from my male cousin- both of our names were misspelled. I just spelled them right on the RSVP I sent back, no big deal.

button6004

I've had so many funky combinations of Samantha, its unreal.  I think my mother underestimated how badly people could misspell what is a seemingly simple name. 

One of a million reasons I just go by Sam instead.

allisong23

The only time I was pissed was when someone spelled it Allisin, because it sounds likea stripper's name.

MrsMack10612

I've spent most of my life correcting people; so much so that it's automatic to stay, Kristina with a K & an A.

I only get annoyed when it's somone who should know better.  Very rarely is it family, mostly co-workers.  Though my grandfather used to write my cards out to Kriss (I have no idea why he used 2 "s").

fluttaby32

My name is Jessica and people (clients, other unimportant people) call me Jennifer all the time. More than I misspelling, but still, I don't really care.

jemmini6

H misspelled his cousin's wife's name on the invite and she just corrected it when she sent in the RSVP card, so I made sure to spell it correctly on her place card. 

My name gets misspelled, mispronounced, misunderstood all the time and while it's annoying sometimes, I'm never upset about it.  I just have one of those names, so I've gotten used to it.  I'd just correct the issue on any further correspondence and just let it go.  It's not a huge issue.

Duckie731

I get annoyed.  My name is Christina and I get called Christine all the time even after I correct the person.

ElleB87

I get annoyed when I have to tell the same person how to spell or pronounce may name every.single.day. but not enough to flip out about it. I constantly am called Chantelle when there is no gosh darn T in my name. People butcher my last name all the time too...I still have co-workers who think my last name is everything from Beaupre to Bodin. 

Blueyed228

Unless you spell my name slutfacewhore im not going to get upset. My name is Melissa and there are lots if variations. My last name us long and italian. People never get it right. Especially since there are 2 capital letters in it.

hayis4horses

The only time I get annoyed is when it's someone who knows me well. My name is Hayley, and there are so many variations on it that I couldn't possibly expect people to just get it right. But when FI's entire family, who I've known for 3+ years, spells it wrong, it bugs me. That being said, I wouldn't be upset if I got an invitation with it spelled wrong, I would just correct it on the RSVP and hope they noticed the correction. I actually just had to do this for FI's cousin's wedding. We'll see if they get the placecard right. I agree with PP's who have said apologize for the mistake and fix it in the future. You're both adults and I think that's reasonable, most people would be okay with this.

musicxstore

My name is Alexa, but I get Alexis ALL THE TIME (spelled, spoken, whatever). I'm so used to it that I gave up correcting people. Also, I once dated a guy whose grandmother insisted on calling me Alexis because "it's prettier" than my actual name. That made me go wtf?

Then, I had an art history professor who called me Danielle the entire semester... not even close.

ZombieNates

I'm usually just surprised when people get "Noreen" right without me correcting them that I rarely notice when they get it wrong.

Girlie1030

Celles - my middle name is Michele and my mom didn't mean to leave out the 2nd 'l' on my birth certificate. 

ceh789

<div>I don't care at all and I wouldn't even bother to correct someone unless it was habitual or such a terrible misspelling that it wasn't my name any more.  People make mistakes, it's not the end of the world. </div><div>
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[QUOTE]My first name is Jasmine, and I have my name mispelled often ("Jasmin").  It bothers me when it's family (or FI's family).  <strong>It wouldn't bother me enough to freak out about it,</strong> but I think your attitude about it kind of sucks.   If I got a formal wedding invitation with my name spelled wrong, I'd be tempted to give you a card with your name spelled wrong, and my very large signature at the bottom, with emphasis on the 'e'. 
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
I dunno, that card seems like a pretty passive-aggressive freak out to me.

Blueyed228

I did write a wedding invitation out to someone with a hyphenated last name.  She is Mrs. Jane Doe-Smith.  I wrote the invitation out to Mr and Mrs Smith.  She corrected it on the reply.  I called to apologize because I felt bad about it.  She didnt care at all about it. 

dubird

I'd just make a joke out of it personally.  My last name is four letters, two of which are the same, and people even get that wrong.  The funniest was a lady in the school office who knew my brother.  I gave her a hard time about that.  XD

I called my aunt Diane for about 2 years before I found out it was Diana.  When I asked her why she didn't correct me she said it didn't really bother her and she didn't want to be difficult.  /><

brookerich

As a Brooke I don't get upset often, no one puts the "e" on it and I've dealt with it my whole life.  It used to bother me a little when my grandmother would misspell it but I never said anything.

I have two middle names, the first (Ashley) is easy too and rarely gets mis-pronounced or misspelled but the other (Saoirse) is hopeless.  Its pronounced Saer-Zha.  Yeah, sounds nothing like its spelled so I use it rarely. 

ZombieNates

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[QUOTE]As a Brooke I don't get upset often, no one puts the "e" on it and I've dealt with it my whole life.  It used to bother me a little when my grandmother would misspell it but I never said anything. I have two middle names, the first (Ashley) is easy too and rarely gets mis-pronounced or misspelled but the other (<strong>Saoirse)</strong> is hopeless.  Its pronounced Saer-Zha.  Yeah, sounds nothing like its spelled so I use it rarely. 
Posted by brookerich[/QUOTE]
Love this name!

My grandmother would purposely spell my cousin's name wrong because she said my aunt chose the wrong spelling--she'd always write "Corinne" for my cousin's "Corin."