Hi Knotties!
I've been happily married for a month now..we just came back from our wonderful honeymoon. In less than two weeks, it will be my Maid of Honour's wedding...for which I am a Bridesmaid in.
For a few months now we have not had a very good relationship. For my wedding, she didn't want to do anything that I asked. She wanted to find her own dress, she didn't like the shoes, so she bought her own. She didn't want to get her hair done with the rest of the bridal party. She also didn't want to say a speech. I realize that our wedding were very close together..however, We booked our wedding date first and we booked it 18 months in advance. My Maid of Honour has only been engaged since December. When we were planning our weddings...which are two very different weddings (mine had a lot of people and I took the time to complete a lot of DIY wedding projects, her wedding is smaller and she said that she's not into details...she actually said I went overboard with all the details - and everyone loved all the details)...she stopped sharing all her details with me. When I confronted her with maybe not wanting to be in my wedding...its not as if she responded "But I want to.."..she said "No..I can't leave you without a MOH."...She made it sound as if I had no other choice...when I did. I have other friends.
She completely changed when she began to plan her wedding.
I've attempted to contact her and ask her about her wedding and she hasn't responded. I want to ask her about the dresses she chose for us...because they are actually see-through.
Also at this point, I don't feel right being in her wedding. I feel as if we are not friends. I don't even know the other people in the wedding party and I seriously do not know any details of her wedding.
She made me go through hell with her, when it came to my wedding and now she's not involving me in hers...even though she asked me to be in it. I don't want to cause her any further stress...but everyone involved in your special day should mean something to you.
Whats the best way to handle this?