Stupid things people say

Blueyed228

I still think its an asshole move not to give grown adults a plus one.  Noone cares about your wedding enough to want to spend 5+ hours by themselves.  It doesnt matter how many other people they "know" there.  They are still by themselves.

Its fine if thats what you want to do.  I personally think its cheap and rude.

And please tell me Sasha how many people you are inviting?  Since you keep stressing that your wedding is SO SMALL AND INTIMATE.

leeannabelle572

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[QUOTE]I still think its an asshole move not to give grown adults a plus one.  Noone cares about your wedding enough to want to spend 5+ hours by themselves.  It doesnt matter how many other people they "know" there.  They are still by themselves. Its fine if thats what you want to do.  I personally think its cheap and rude. And please tell me Sasha how many people you are inviting?  Since you keep stressing that your wedding is SO SMALL AND INTIMATE.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]



Blue, you act like this is such a black and white issue. I am one of 18 first cousins on my mother's side. Just my mother's side. Between family and friends, dh and I had 98 single guests for our wedding. Double that number to get a plus one count and add it to the other 176 guests. There are exactly zero locations near us that hold that many people. What would you suggest we have done? Simply not invite our friends and family if there was literally no space for their date?

Basically, screw you for being an asshole about this.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Stupid things people say : Blue, you act like this is such a black and white issue. I am one of 18 first cousins on my mother's side. Just my mother's side. Between family and friends, dh and I had 98 single guests for our wedding. Double that number to get a plus one count and add it to the other 176 guests. There are exactly zero locations near us that hold that many people. What would you suggest we have done? Simply not invite our friends and family if there was literally no space for their date? <strong><u>Basically, screw you for being an asshole about this.</u></strong>
Posted by leeannabelle572[/QUOTE]

Lol, ok. 

And yes.  I suggest cutting your guest list if you cant find a venue that can hold your number or if you cant afford to give adults a plus 1.

QueerFemme

omg.  that's all I got.

leeannabelle572

Who would you suggest I cut? Some of my cousins, or my friends? Maybe all first cousins make the cut but second cousins do not, even though we see them as often as the first cousins? Grade school friends are invited but not college friends? Which of the people I love shall I cut to make room for plus ones I have never met?

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]Who would you suggest I cut? Some of my cousins, or my friends? Maybe all first cousins make the cut but second cousins do not, even though we see them as often as the first cousins? Grade school friends are invited but not college friends? Which of the people I love shall I cut to make room for plus ones I have never met?
Posted by leeannabelle572[/QUOTE]



Then find a bigger hall.

Dont act like you are the only person to make cuts or who has a big family. Im greek and h is Italian. If we invited every single relative we have we would have been at 600 people.

leeannabelle572

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Stupid things people say :

Then find a bigger hall.

Dont act like you are the only person to make cuts or who has a big family. Im greek and h is Italian. If we invited every single relative we have we would have been at 600 people.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]



I would rather invite people I love who I know care about me and want to witness my wedding than people who do not know me or care about anything other than attending a party. I'm arguing with you because you have repeatedly bashed prior posters on this thread for what you consider a rude and tacky decision. Everyone has different priorities and I was frustrated that you consider your opinion to be more valid than that of prior posters and persisted in telling them so multiple times.

Let's agree to disagree and stop derailing the thread.

SachaBee

leeannabelle, OK, I will agree to disagree . It is a matter of opinion after all so no one is "right" and I am happy blue was able to invite her guests with plus ones to her wedding since it is important to her.
But I just HAVE to say that it is extremely rude for someone to ASSUME that my friends and family don't care enough about me to not bring a random stranger to my wedding. Like I said in my previous post, I cared enough about my cousin to go to his wedding without a date. Not everyone thinks the same way you do so I'm glad you had the wedding of your dreams, plus ones and all--now lay off mine.
And now I'm done. Except let's all reiterate that the people cmgilpin referenced are the biggest assholes of all--no grey area on that one.

leeannabelle572

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[QUOTE]leeannabelle, OK, I will agree to disagree :) . It is a matter of opinion after all so no one is "right" and I am happy blue was able to invite her guests with plus ones to her wedding since it is important to her. But I just HAVE to say that it is extremely rude for someone to ASSUME that my friends and family don't care enough about me to not bring a random stranger to my wedding. Like I said in my previous post, I cared enough about my cousin to go to his wedding without a date. Not everyone thinks the same way you do so I'm glad you had the wedding of your dreams, plus ones and all--now lay off mine. And now I'm done. Except let's all reiterate that the people cmgilpin referenced are the biggest assholes of all--no black and white on that one.
Posted by SachaBee[/QUOTE]



Oh absolutely. "Not a real wedding"? Total bull. Best wishes for a beautiful wedding cmgilpin.

QueerFemme

thanks !   I hope it's fabulous, and I'm watching the weather reports closely.  Hopefully, all of my guests (and their +1s) will have a great time. 

OwningAHome1981

In Response to Re:Stupid things people say:I still dont get why people think grown adults want to attend a wedding solo. Posted by Blueyed228 Bam! You nailed it! I have been there and it seriously sucks.

erinlin25

I was single for a looooong time, attended many wedding's as a single girl and had a blast!  Sure there were the moments where it sucked but luckily I was not the only single and I had other single friends + met others there. I think there is nothing wrong with not allowing singles a +1.  If you can do it, great, but it's rude for people to get mad if they can't bring a +1 and that they just assume they can bring a +1.  Planning my wedding, I have a few singles so will give them the option of a +1, but if there were to be a lot of singles I would probably have to pick and choose too.