OK, so I may be overreacting a bit but my emotions are running very very high right now. I am having 2 bridesmaids and a maid of honor. The 2 bridesmaids are my fiances sisters. One of them is local and one is a couple states away. The one in another state (We will call her "Dee") has already had a falling-out with me before. Were over that now though. She told me a couple months ago that she would only be able to attend either the shower or the bachelorette party because of distance, which is fine. She opted to go to the shower which is in august. Now all of a sudden she says she cant go because she cannot afford it. Then on her facebook she posts that she will be going to some success seminar or something in DC that is like $500!! I commented on her post saying something like, "Instead of doing that you should come see your soon to be sister in law for her bridal shower since you are her bridesmaid and all" she then emailed me saying that this is a life-changing seminar and that her parents-in-law will be paying half, watching her kids, and its only 4 hours or so from her.
I didnt respond. Now we recently found out that her mother who lives here, needs surgery. She says she will be coming up for that and can attend the shower now. I understand that seeing your mother before surgery is a must. But is it wrong for me to be a bit upset that I found out she actually CAN afford to come up here. Whether it be for her mom or not. It may sound selfish and all but I feel that if she really wanted to be at my shower, she could have. Since she can afford to come up and see her mom, why couldnt she afford to come up and see me if her mom wasnt in the situation? I feel like im not making sense, but it bothers me that shes not here for me.Also, "Dee" knew that I was going to have a shower at some point when she agreed to be my bridesmaid last december. She has aklready been on a trip to atlantis and vegas. I feel that if she really wanted to be here, she could have save some cash on the side...am I being a bridezilla?
