Why is everyone so mean?

Belle2Be

I want a Fake Friend. Fakend? Frike?

LessThanZero

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[QUOTE]I know I'm pimping out too many bluntcards in one day, but I wish I could use this one in a convo. <strong>And, LTZ, I should have known you'd get it.  I mean, stop trying to make me cry, you bitch!</strong>
Posted by NatesGirl16[/QUOTE]


I love you forever and ever, haha.

NatesGirl16

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why is everyone so mean? : AGH I luv u.
Posted by Belle2Be[/QUOTE]
Obviously you <span style="font-weight:bold;">really</span> mean that you hate me when I'm just stressed out about planning and am looking for advice.  Or am I the only one who reads this totally innocuous statement with an undercurrent of aggression?

Belle2Be

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why is everyone so mean? : Obviously you really mean that you hate me when I'm just stressed out about planning and am looking for advice.  Or am I the only one who reads this totally innocuous statement with an undercurrent of aggression?
Posted by NatesGirl16[/QUOTE]
There's gotta be some emotion behind it, it's like 10 pages long.

Maybe she wrote it on Mega Desk.

J&K10910

I tried being nice once.  It hurt, and everyone ignored me.  I tried being helpful a handful of times.  It took effort, and everyone ignored me.  So now I'm just a completely unhelpful biitch, and everyone pays attention to me.  So I guess, if you're yelling at people, you should add everyone who gives positive reinforcement to my negative attention seeking onto that list. 

Belle2Be

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[QUOTE]I tried being nice once.  It hurt, and everyone ignored me.  I tried being helpful a handful of times.  It took effort, and everyone ignored me.  So now I'm just a completely unhelpful biitch, and everyone pays attention to me.  So I guess, if you're yelling at people, you should add everyone who gives positive reinforcement to my negative attention seeking onto that list. 
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]
Ah the squeeky wheel theory. Nice.

vegasgroom

TK makes me cry daily, guess I'm just a sensitive guy.

[Deleted User]

I'm mean because a dingo ate my baby.

[Deleted User]

I'm not mean, I'm moody. There's a difference.

thesuninherhead

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[QUOTE]I'm mean because a dingo ate my baby.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
You should totally sell that story to the press here; they seem to be really in to that sort of thing.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why is everyone so mean? : You should totally sell that story to the press here; they seem to be really in to that sort of thing.
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]

I tried, but during our meeting, they kicked me in the shin and stole my story. Then, I saw that bitch Meryl Streep pretending to be me a few years later. Assholes.

Lenore2010

If a freakin' message board is making you cry on a daily basis, you have issues far beyond the scope of mean TK brides. Sensitive? I get that, but that is just plain unhealthy. No, OP you are not a bitch but frankly you could stand to cultivate a little bitchiness-that level of vulnerability is downright scary.

betrothed123

Someone takes the interwebz way too seriously.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why is everyone so mean? : Just out of curiousity, wtf did you THINK was going to happen when you rolled in here with your finger wagging do gooding bullshit and tried to tell a bunch of grown adults how you thought they needed to behave?  Were we all gong to have a "The More You Know" moment and sing kumbiya?  Because thats how I saw it playing out too and frankly I am SHOCKED  to see otherwise.  God, these bitches are just so mean. 
Posted by eastunder1[/QUOTE]

Heh.

maratea

OP, are you Chris Hanson (Hansen) and this is a special for Dateline NBC on cyber bullying? Where are the cameras?? And the booze??

lisalou402

Honestly, not sure why she posted this here, but sometimes you girls have to admit, on other boards there isn't the "snarkiness" that this board promotes.  There are people who are very black and white about things, and newbies can easily get hurt.

I was flamed for a post, and then someone actually posted something on another board about me calling me a B****.  If I had known then, what i know now, i would have asked for that person to be banned.  Instead, i grew a thicker skin and kept peoples responses to what I wrote in the right place...comments from an online community that don't know me.

In the end, you have to take a lot of this with a grain of salt Hanson.  People all join community boards for a reason, and it sounds like you were looking for validation and some tissues. 

Probably in your month board, but not on Snarky brides.

(and in regards to the PP who said when they were helpful and got ignored, i'm sure that's what will happen to this post!)

marissa_claire

This is ridiculous.  I hate it when people come on here and complain that things are too mean.  That's for two huge reasons - for one, when it's in print,  you can't tell someone's tone at all.  So while we might be saying "yes, that's very rude of you" we might be whispering it in real life to keep our friend from making a blunder.  

Aside from that, we have had some crazy girls with crazy ideas who think bridesmaids are wedding planners, that they can ask almost anything of their guests and for us to back these things up.  A lot of girls come on here just looking for validation - not even looking to actually find out what opinions are, but wanting to share a terrible idea and have everyone gush and say "I wish I'd thought of that" when in reality I'm quite thankful I didn't print my registry info on my invitations.

I also think that if some people didn't get such harsh responses they might go ahead with said bad idea anyways, so I personally don't care.  Yeah, people get mean and snarky.  We've all been on the receiving end there, but in real life if you were wearing a horrible outfit and you asked a friend what she honestly thought... and she was like, yeah, it's terrible, you would thank her for not letting you embarrass yourself.  

Anysunrise

K&J64

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[QUOTE]Good lord OP. <strong>Grow up and put on some big girl panties.</strong> You just tested my patience, now I am annoyed.
Posted by KaylaSue19[/QUOTE]

cracking up hahaha. My goal is to say this to some one today, love it.

LesPaul

Hanson, I have a suggestion.  Lurk.  Get a feel for the board.  Not just this one, but all of them - they're different.  Test the waters.  Post a few times in a thread where you won't be ripped up.  Introduce yourself.

Look down 10 posts at the SB Lovefest.  See, we're not mean.  We 'know' each other, and many of us have met IRL.  You can't just jump in here admonishing us how to behave when you do not have any idea what this board is like.  These ladies are intelligent, witty, hilarious, and yes, will tell you when you're being ridiculous.

K&J64

OP you need to grow a thicker skin before posting on message boards on the internet. If you want to be coddled, call your mommy. If you want frank and honest opinions, well then you've come to the right place. Hearing something that is in disagreement with your preconceived notions on how you should be allowed to behave as a bride is not meanness, it's called a reality check.

crap, there I go being a betch again.

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]I miss adult behavior instead of elementary school BS, As all of you are pointing out, we are all entitled to our opinions, and if someone thinks you are mean, rude, or downright nasty, she has every right to post that anywhere. You have the right to be nasty, she has the right to tell you what she thinks. It works both ways ladies!
Posted by mleese0703[/QUOTE]
You should go back to WW and check out that thread you posted in.  I think they really liked your supportive response.  You could tell them all about how you don't like the elementary school BS.

For anyone else who's interested <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_another-prudie">click me.</a>

ksparks10

Hanson...how old are you? Because I just can't see why you would think anyone on this board is mean. I have been lurking for awhile now, posted a few things, and have read almost ALL the venting posts and I have never thought that any of these girls were mean or rude. And I am a sensitive person too.

I almost want to call MUD on this one.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why is everyone so mean? : You should go back to WW and check out that thread you posted in.  I think they really liked your supportive response.  You could tell them all about how you don't like the elementary school BS. For anyone else who's interested click me.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

/facepalm

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why is everyone so mean? : /facepalm
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]
I was so glad I decided to check out WW this morning when I saw that post.  I was rolling.

Lenore2010

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[QUOTE]I miss adult behavior instead of elementary school BS, As all of you are pointing out, we are all entitled to our opinions, and if someone thinks you are mean, rude, or downright nasty, she has every right to post that anywhere. You have the right to be nasty, she has the right to tell you what she thinks. It works both ways ladies!
Posted by mleese0703[/QUOTE]

We "ladies" have the right to say that we think she is full of it for saying we are mean. I think we also have damn near an obligation to say that crying over what a bunch of people on a board say on a daily basis in unhealthy in the extreme. We can take this out to the 1th power. Your point is?

Oh, and WTF was going on in that thread B posted? Very weird.

LessThanZero

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why is everyone so mean? : You should go back to WW and check out that thread you posted in.  I think they really liked your supportive response.  You could tell them all about how you don't like the elementary school BS. For anyone else who's interested click me.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

What. The. Hell.

That whole thread was just bizarre.

mleese0703

My point is if you can comprehend it is that quit whining about what other people post. If anyone feels you are mean, he or she has a right to say it, the same as you do. The elementary school BS is obvious to most mature people. I am fairly sure you understand, but some won't. So suck it up, put your big girl panties on and deal with it. If you feel better about making others feel bad good for you.
Making fun of a supportive response to anyone while stating that your "damn near obligation" to point out the other is unhealthy leans toward hypocritical. If you want others to respect your right to opinion, then you must respect theirs. Hence "ladies" why it works both ways.

If you don't agree on my supportive suggestions, good for you. Don't read them.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]My point is if you can comprehend it is that quit whining about what other people post. If anyone feels you are mean, he or she has a right to say it, the same as you do. The elementary school BS is obvious to most mature people. I am fairly sure you understand, but some won't. So suck it up, put your big girl panties on and deal with it. If you feel better about making others feel bad good for you. Making fun of a supportive response to anyone while stating that your "damn near obligation" to point out the other is unhealthy leans toward hypocritical. If you want others to respect your right to opinion, then you must respect theirs. Hence "ladies" why it works both ways. If you don't agree on my supportive suggestions, good for you. Don't read them.
Posted by mleese0703[/QUOTE]

*sticks fingers in ears* LALALALALALA I CAN'T HEAR YOU LALALALA.

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]My point is if you can comprehend it is that quit whining about what other people post. If anyone feels you are mean, he or she has a right to say it, the same as you do. The elementary school BS is obvious to most mature people. I am fairly sure you understand, but some won't. So suck it up, put your big girl panties on and deal with it. If you feel better about making others feel bad good for you. Making fun of a supportive response to anyone while stating that your "damn near obligation" to point out the other is unhealthy leans toward hypocritical. If you want others to respect your right to opinion, then you must respect theirs. Hence "ladies" why it works both ways. If you don't agree on my supportive suggestions, good for you. Don't read them.
Posted by mleese0703[/QUOTE]

Do you really not see how hypocritical you're being here?  Why don't you act like the bigger person and rise above if that's how you really feel?  You are doing the same thing here that you are condemning.