Face punch to nonengaged comments...

aprovencher21

Obviously I didn't find it weird to discuss ring prices or money in the E thread.  I think as long as its tastefully discussed (as in no one saying OMG he only spent $800 on your ring or OMG what a waste of money to spend $5000 on a ring) it isn't an issue.  I didn't get the feeling of one up manship with prices.  There was clearly a great variety and it was interesting to see pricing and pictures of some georgeous traditional, non traditional, gem stone, diamond, etc. rings.  I guess money discussions don't bother me because my friends and I talk about money all the time in terms of savings, CDs, buying houses, rent rates etc.

As to the original topic I cannot stand when girls say ultimatums about their rings.  One of my closest friends keeps saying she won't say yet unless the ring is a Harry Winston.  I roll my eyes.  Its one thing to say you like the style of a specific Harry Winston but to demand one is awful.

The only reason I liked going to Kleinfelds and felt I really needed to go was that they have one of the largest collections of plus size bridal gowns in my area.  I could actual get my freakin bust into quite a few styles. 

I hate the whole covering the cost of your plate at the wedding with the amount of the gift.  I have numerous friends who have calculated what they think they will make back in gifts.  Ugh.

zippityb

I hope my FI refers to me as "my wife" in a Borat voice.

PetraStonegirl

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[QUOTE]<strong>My friend told me it was rude to have over a year long engagement. Like, it's rude to loved ones </strong>or something. I still don't get the logic of it.
Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]

<div>No crazy stories to share, but this made me laugh. Because the only thing I could think of if someone said this to me, would be 'Damn straight, because you family doesn't want to deal with you being a bridezilla/heinous bitch for more than a year! It's unfair to them to have to deal with you!' </div><div>
</div><div>I agree with zippityb, I don't get the logic behind this. if a couple wants to take more than a year to have a wedding, but know they are going to spend their lives together, why shouldn't they have a long engagement?</div>

raynes

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[QUOTE]I hope my FI refers to me as "my wife" in a Borat voice.
Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]

Mine does that sometimes.  Usually followed by "very nice".  Thanks hun.

ehathewa

Similar to the "It's MY day" rant, I have a problem with couples who ignore family requests (especially invites) because "It's OUR special day." 

While it is true that this day is largely about you and your man, I think that you should remember your family and friends.  Most* of us had a ton of help getting to where we are today... 


*Unless you were an orphan raised in the wild by wolves. 

Blueyed228

I answered the E poll because I dont mind discussing money on here either.  IRL I never talk to my friends etc about how much my wedding stuff costs.  I didnt see the one upping either.  I think its helpful to for everyone to see different varieties and budgets.  It seemed to me that no one had a problem when people said "My ring cost $500" but had a few comments when other girls said their FI's spent alot.

I get the feeling on here sometimes that it is frowned upon to mention that you are spending over X amount of money on anything.  There is a whole board on budget weddings where money is discussed all the time and no one bats an eye about it.

I never judge people on their wedding budgets, rings etc.  I dont think that the more money you spend = a better wedding.

Meaghan- to answer your question, I am the last in my group to get married so i was pretty clueless to all stuff related to weddings before I got engaged.  Looking back, I would have to say the worst I saw was when FI's friends wife kicked 2 BM's out of her wedding for not coming to her labor day surprise engagement party.

pristinedemon

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Face punch to nonengaged comments... : I do call DH "husband" to his face, lol, and he'll call me "Wife". But we pretty much only do that when we're alone ... and we use Jamaican accents when we say it ... yes, we're losers, hahaha. Any Futurama fans here? It's basically our little joke referencing how Hermes and LaBarbara address each other.
Posted by megk8oz[/QUOTE]

Kinda late to this, but Futurama was the first thing I thought of when I read that first paragraph. Freakin' love it.

stacy&tige

After seeing my e-ring for the first time one of my friends dragged (I literally mean dragged...grabbed my arm and yanked) me over to her boyfriend and said "I want that or better. It can't be smaller."

I had issues with this on so many levels:
1) they've never talked about getting married/engaged, EVER!
2) she's basically saying her ring has to be equal or better than mine...like its a freaking competition.
3) my FI bought what he could afford; we aren't in debt because of my ring. But I know they sure as hell would be.

The Kleinfeld's thing irritates me too...damn you "Say Yes to The Dress." My FI offered to fly me and my MOH out there so I could go...I was like "ummmmm no. That's money for our wedding." And then proceeded to slap him upside the head. j/k!

megk8oz

I don't get the Kleinfeld's thing either. I mean, I couldn't have afforded anything there anyway, but I really just don't "get" why they're the only place to get a dress from.

I know there's girls that will get snotty about this, but I did everything through David's Bridal. I don't care if it's "the McDonald's of the wedding industry" as somebody once put it. It's what I could afford. My dress looked great on me, and I absolutely adored it. Who the hell cares where it came from?

tpender13

Meg, I went to David's too, and am very happy w/my dress. I even got shoes there and still came in under budget!

shellydiane820

Just my personal opinion, I don't think its appropriate to talk about money with friends either.  I just think its nobody's business.  I had a friend ask me how much our home cost, and to be honest I was appalled and told him it was a personal question, I'd rather not answer.

nicepenguins

In addition to comparing the sizes of engagement rings and all the other stuff mentioned, I think the biggest face punch-worthy thing for me is how I've been treated as the gf and now fiancee of one of the groom's friends. Apparently there is no lower thing to be than a woman who isn't on the bride's side of the list. Examples...

-not being included in invitations even though were were living together/engaged. I know that people have budgets, but I feel that people who don't invite both halves of a couple need to make a discreet phone call in advance and explain the situation delicately. Why are we supposed to celebrate YOU as a couple when OUR relationship isn't worth a polite phone call? IMO, if we cannot invite both people in a couple, then they can't be that important to us or we should try to cut in other areas of our budget to invite them.

-when my fiance was best man in his sister's wedding and they tried to put all of the girlfriends together at a separate table, referring to us as "the others" (short for significant others.) Eventually this idea was scrapped; however, we were still called "the others" during the entire wedding weekend and so many "men-only" activities were pre-planned that it really felt like I was an "other." At the reception I was constantly asked to leave when they wanted to take pictures with him, perhaps they were assuming that we wouldn't last long. I don't think there's a single photo of us together at that wedding, even though we were together for two years when the wedding happened. The good news is that I will avoid these mistakes at our wedding by making an extra effort to be kind to the gfs and wives of his friends.

-maybe it seems like I'm some kind of jerk for being treated like this, but people generally seem to like me. Perhaps that's why it's so shocking when things like this happen.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Face punch to nonengaged comments... : I can't believe people actually responded and threw some $$$$ in that thread. If that question was asked a year ago, flame throwers would have been turned on. Ah, different generation of brides, I guess.
Posted by Champagne Supernova[/QUOTE]

I almost fell out of my chair when people started throwing around actual numbers. Especially things like, "Well, I can't participate because my ring cost $345,000. That's not on your poll." Not really, but you know. I don't judge whatever people spend on a ring, but I judge people who were so cavalier about naming actual prices.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Just my personal opinion, I don't think its appropriate to talk about money with friends either.  I just think its nobody's business.  I had a friend ask me how much our home cost, and to be honest I was appalled and told him it was a personal question, I'd rather not answer.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

This. When I was younger (like a broke-ass college student) it was different because... well, all my friends were broke-ass college students, too. But now that we all have jobs and rent and bills... it's awkward. As I've gotten older, I just don't want to talk about money anymore.However, I know the difference when someone asks how much I pay apologetically - I had a friend who asked if I didn't mind sharing because she was thinking about getting an apartment in the same neighborhood - and those who ask because they want to judge, or figure out how much money FI and I make.

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]I'm watching a wedding "reality" show in which the bride has one ceremony and TWO receptions.  One on Sat and one on Sun.  She keeps talking about her "Pretty Princess Day".  As I leave for work now, she's just hired a woman with ponies to have at the wedding.  She's asking if they can be dyed pink.  God.
Posted by deepcovejackie[/QUOTE]

yes! i'm not the only one who watches that show! she was absolutely ridiculous. THREE wedding dresses?! really??

but anyways more on topic... since my friend just got engaged in February my favourite line of hers has been "(insert comment here) but YOU wouldn't understand, because you're not ENGAGED like i am!"
she once had a "contest" (/argument) with another friend over who missed their SO more... when it had only been 3 days since seeing each other. and then she used the "i'm engaged-you're not" line.