Age Poll

MeaghanandMichael

Just because it has come up a bit lately...


You-
FI/H/SO-
Kids-


Does you age have any bearing on your relationship at this point in time? For example, do you think you are too young for kids?

Starmusica

me- 25

H- 25

Kids- none

We are 25.. Many of our friends think we are too young for marriage and kids. I do not agree. However, I am in law school. I have one year left, then the bar exam and then my first year as an attorney. I would love love love kids now but we know we need to wait another 2-3 years, so we are waiting. I think if we were younger.. it would be too early for kids. We've spent 8 years getting to know eachother, but more importantly- ourselves. In fact we know ourselves so well that we are waiting despite both desperately wanting to start a family.

J&K10910

24
27
-110

Yes.  We are too young for kids.  We will always be too young for kids.  We are too old to play in the sandbox, but not too old for the swings.

[Deleted User]

Me 33
Him 26
Stinkbutt 5

I used to think I wanted another kid, but I'm not sure anymore. I think I'm too old and grumpy.

[Deleted User]

You-24. But I'll be 25 on Tuesday.
FI/H/SO-31, 32 in a month!
Kids-Whisky is 14. What can I say, I got started young.

Does you age have any bearing on your relationship at this point in time? For example, do you think you are too young for kids?
We aren't having kids, so no. It was a little weird when we first met, because I was 20 and he was 27, but I've always been too mature for my age and even my mother told me to get with an older guy. Honestly, I'm more mature than H in many ways. So it works out. People gave me crap when they found out I was engaged because they thought I was 17 (I look really young) but other than that, our ages don't really play a part. It works for us.

kd.joseph

You- 44
FI/H/SO- 48
Kids- Mine-20 DH's 32

I think we are more settled. And I like that we can travel wherever we want. Our days of packing around baby stuff is over.

We are too old to have children. It's time for grandkids.

zippityb

27
26
I wish I would have gotten married young, when I didn't own property, because changing my name and getting H added onto my mortgage and whatnot is a pain in the anoos.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]24 27 -110 Yes.  We are too young for kids.  We will always be too young for kids.  We are too old to play in the sandbox, but not too old for the swings.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

You're never too old for the swings. Or the slide.

jasmineh7777

You- 21
FI/H/SO- 22
Kids- dear God no.

H and I wouldn't even consider having kids for at least 6+ years. We both want to get PhDs. However, many of our friends our age have kids and are doing fine. I think it's a regional thing, perhaps? No one in my circle was shocked/concerned when our friends got married and had kids right out of highschool.

Cew- What is going on in your sig?

Starmusica

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[QUOTE]27 26 I wish I would have gotten married young, when I didn't own property, because changing my name and getting H added onto my mortgage and whatnot is a pain in the anoos.
Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]

<div>ugh we have to do this. we both own property and need to figure out all the deed issues since we want it all in both names</div>

MeaghanandMichael

You- 26
FI/H/SO- 26
Kids- nope!


I am kind of starting to feel all goldilocks about my age and kids (juuuust right) but then I don't. Right now our age is affecting much more than we are going to weddings, e parties and stuff every other weekend over the next few years.

NatesGirl16

Me --27 (28 next month!)

Him--28

Kids--not yet, thank you!

We want to be married for a couple of years and definitely have a house before bringing kids into the picture.  If, for some reason, I did get KU in that 3-5 year window, it wouldn't kill us, but we'd like to have some "us" time first.  I'm not done being selfish and frivolous just yet :P.

MarriedInAFever

You- One week shy of 24
FI/H/SO- 29
Kids- none

We met and started dating when H was 25 and I was 19. So that was a little weird. But, we were always like-minded. I would NEVER date him the way he was he was 19. I think we caught up with each other. We'll probably start TTC soon due to our age difference.

anna.oskar

You- 31
H - 34
Kids- negative 3

AllAboutTheBenjamin

You- 26
FI/H/SO- 26 (27 a week before our wedding)
Kids- none yet


Does you age have any bearing on your relationship at this point in time? For example, do you think you are too young for kids?  I don't think we are too young to have kids - people start really young where I live.  I used to think I'd be married by 22 and then I could wait til I was old, as in, 27, like my mom was when she started having kids.  Yeah well, I'm 27 in February and I'm not ready yet.  We want to be married for a couple years and have a house before we start a family.

shaydenise

Me 23
Him 26
furbabies Millie 2.5, Sebastian 2, and Bella 1

We definitely aren't ready to have kids.  We kind of agreed on a 3-5 year rule when it comes to kids.  We want to be able to enjoy each other before enjoying children.  Which would be why we have three dogs ;-)

ALittleLove

Me- 22
Him-23
Kids- NOPE

We both want kids, but will probably be waiting 2-3 years ( after we get married a year from now). We A) Want to spend some more QT time together and want to make sure we are financially ready.We want to get our cars paid off and possibly buy a slightly bigger house before starting a family. It boggles my mind when people who can barely afford to be on their own thinks having a kid is a great idea.

Bubbalub

Me: 33
H: 38
No kids yet

Our age does affect our thoughts on kids. We want them, more than one, but we've waited a really long time already and need to get started soon. We started dating when I was 25, he was 30 and it seemed like we had all the time in the world, then 8 years just flew past us in the blink of an eye.

katiewhompus

Me 26
Him 36
No kids (yet)

The only thing I feel has bearing on our age is the urgency for having kids. If he were 26 as well we probably would just keep trying until 30 without pursuing other options. As is we're kind of on an accelerated path so he won't be well into his 60's when the kids are 20.

Starmusica

and just to add.. for some reason this has been a seriously sensitive topic for me. I used to career first.. family last. In the last year or so I've realized how badly I want a family and I sorta hate that my career choice will make it so so difficult to be the kind of mom i want to be...

katiewhompus

Star you can definitely be both I know not all law is the same but my sil is a partner at a DC law firm and is still an incredible mom. It's gotten tougher since bil is out of the country but it is totally doable.

MarriedInAFever

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[QUOTE]Your kids are going to be happy anyway because they'll be pretty. Pretty people are happy, right?
Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]

This is true! Your kids will no doubt be gorgeous.

Starmusica

katie- stories like that give me hope I focus on them. One of my bridesmaids is in the same boat as me. our school regularly attempts to scare us with various lectures about the demanding lives we have all chosen to lead. school ftw

edit: thanks zippity and milf!

cupcakesfrosting

Me: 21 (22 on 11/15)
FI: 29 (30 on 11/14)

I don't think I'm too young for kids. I raised two kids before I was 18, and I miss little feet and voices, and the excitement that kids bring. FI is not too young, as he has a 12 year old, who we're not in touch with.

However, we're not financially fit. I want to be able to pay all our bills without freaking out, and I want a 2 bedroom apt. (at least!)..

[Deleted User]

Star I think the fact that you think about how to balance your career and family shows you'll be a good mom. You care about your kids without them even being born yet. How could you not be a good mother?

cupcakesfrosting

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Age Poll : It is. Mostly because it needs to be scratched from the inside. (Ewwww. I made myself sad) <strong>But yeah, I may or may not have named our future children already.</strong>
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

So did we! Bahaha..

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]Star I think the fact that you think about how to balance your career and family shows you'll be a good mom. You care about your kids without them even being born yet. How could you not be a good mother?
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

<div>Blah, you beat me to it. Definitely this. You'll be wonderful =)</div>

Starmusica

thanks guys.

again- sorry i made this a pity party... soooo not my intention! altho its nice to know I am not nuts for thinking about this. My best friend frequently gets mad when I discuss this and tells me I am too young so shut up. its always productive...

MarriedInAFever

Naming your future children is weird? Um, I hope Daniel and Chloe disagree in 2013!

Starmusica

MILF! I love those names! 

Bubbalub

Star I understand. I bet you'll be an awesome mom because you are already concerned about being a good mom, which shows that you understand what it takes (theoretically, of course) to be a good parent.

I'm glad I waited to have kids, but also sad that we waited so long, if that makes any sense. We have done quite a bit of traveling and going out and being selfish. But after 8 years we are slowing down, spending more time at home and more concerned with the "bigger picture" of our lives together. We plan for one more big vacation, really our delayed honeymoon, somewhere tropical before we start a family but I know that at this point the only thing really holding us back is fear. Fear of suddenly becoming financially unstable, fear of not being able to buy a house, fear of losing our individuality or losing touch with our non-parent friends.

Also, I spend 4 years and a lot of money (loans) getting a second degree that I haven't used very much of. When we have kids we'd both like for me to stay home for a few years, at least part-time, or to work out of the house or something. So I kind of feel like a loser for not being able to find a job that I love in my specific field, though my second degree was crucial to me getting the job I currently have and am unhappy doing.

Sorry. Novel.