Age Poll

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

You- 28
FI/H/SO- 36
Kids- none

I don't think we're too young for kids. BUT we've only been together 3 years. I've always wanted to be married for a few years before having kids (my parents were married for almost 3 years before I was born). I'm also in grad school an FI and I would like to rebuild our savings, get more settled and perhaps look at buying a house before we have a kid. So we're thinking 2-3 years from now. I'd like 2 kids, max, and about 4 years apart.

kpwedkk

Me - 29
DH - 31
Kids - none

I want kids, and DH doesn't yet.... he's not stable enough for kids anyways (job-wise)... although when I turn 32, we'll be adopting.

MarriedInAFever

Haha. Thanks, Star! Daniel would be named after someone. I just like Chloe. I think it's so sweet.

K Byte

Me- 26
H- 28
Kids- none. And that's ok for now, but if our situation was better we'd start trying sooner I think. As it is we won't be able to start a family for probably 4+ years. I don't want to be an old parent so that kind of depresses me a bit. And it's not like in 4 years we'll own an awesome home and be completely settled into our careers or anything either but we'll hopefully be better off than we are now.

Celles

Me - 29
Him - 25
Kids - None

We're undecided on the subject of spawn.  Sometimes we want them.  Sometimes we don't.  Definitely not now.  Maybe in a few years, after we've had time to enjoy each other.

I don't feel like a woman 363 days from 30.  I still feel too young.  =\ 

BecW2be

MILF I love your girl name!

MarriedInAFever

Woop! Woop! Go DMiller!

MarriedInAFever

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[QUOTE]MILF I love your girl name! :)
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

I thought you might! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

J&K10910

I named my future kids, and I'm not planning on having any.  So if you guys are weird, then I belong in a padded room.

Actually, a padded room sounds lovely.

MISSCOURTNEY20

Me-35
FH-40
Kids- Mine are 15 and 5. His are 13, 15 and 17.

He wants a baby and I told him that there is no way I am having another one. Case closed!! I will only have another one of  could be a SAHM and that is not going to happen because he is self employed so I carry the BENEFITS!

J&K10910

My favorite boy's name belongs to a little boy at work that stomped on my foot, called me a biitch, and ran away from me so I had to to chase him.  Then when I caught him, he looked me in the eye and said "When I get outta here, I'm gonna fucking waste you."

He's 9. 

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]My favorite boy's name belongs to a little boy at work that stomped on my foot, called me a biitch, and ran away from me so I had to to chase him.  Then when I caught him, he looked me in the eye and said "When I get outta here, I'm gonna fucking waste you." He's 9. 
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>Woooooow. Wooow. Wow. I would've had a long hard talk with that little sh*t disturber's parents. There's very little I'd say requires a spanking or two, but that'd pretty much do it for me.</div>

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Age Poll : Woooooow. Wooow. Wow. I would've had a long hard talk with that little sh*t disturber's parents.
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

Well, they're part of the problem.  I work in a residential treatment facility.

reddy123

25

25

No kids. Never gonna happen. We're good with that.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Age Poll : Well, they're part of the problem.  I work in a residential treatment facility.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>Ah. That is truly unfortunate.</div>

J&K10910

I know, it actually made me feel sad more than anything.  But I still won't ever give any hypothetical children that name.

jasmineh7777

J&K, what do you do specifically?

ETA: I ask because I am triyng to figure out what to do with my psych degree. I like kids, and behavior mod. Now I am looking at options involving those two thing.

J&K10910

I'm a counselor at a residential treatment facility for kids with emotional, behavioral, or other psychiatric disorders.

jasmineh7777

That sounds pretty awesome. Not the whole abuse thing, but the rest of it.
I've been hit, kicked, and had toys thrown at my face in the past. Good times.

J&K10910

I'd show you a picture of my arm currently, but I don't want to make anyone lose their dinners that they may have just consumed.

Some days my job is really rewarding.  Some days I come home and cry in the shower.  I like to say "I love what I do, I hate my job."

jasmineh7777

Previously, I did applied behavior analysis work for the state autism waiver. Now, I'm doing in-school support with one client that has autism.
 I've found that I really like behavior modification, and things that I can graph. I also loove working with kids, though I've only worked with 6 and under thus far. I don't know if I want to keep working with autism specifically, or do something more like what you do now.

flyjawn

ME- 35

SO-45 

Kids- Mine are 5 and 3.

he wants to have a baby and i've told him that he has one year because i'm not having a baby past the age of 35.  i work in maternal health and i know what it means for us to be older.  not happening.

Istremene

You-38
FI/H/SO-37
Kids-not yet but I would be knocked up now if FI had any say in the matter.  But I do want to be able to enjoy myself at my wedding and on my honeymoon but soon after since both our clocks are ticking like crazy.  Hope to have 2, we are both only children and I always wanted a sibling when I was growing up.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]Yes. I am getting my BA in English and Psych this spring. I should be figuring out grad school, but it seems pretty daunting right now. H has at least 1 more year in our current town as well.
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]

If you do want to do residential treatment, a lot of places (especially the state agencies) will pay for part of your schooling if you're working there at one of their Bachelor's degree positions.  At least around here. 

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]I didn't realize that, J. My H is working on his MSW and is doing his clinicals at a local youth shelter. It's been really interesting so far. You must be a strong, lady!
Posted by MarriedInAFever[/QUOTE]

Cool, can I ask what he wants to do when he's done?  I'm hoping to start on my MSW next year.

jasmineh7777

That's good to know J&K. We only have 1 residential treatment center that I know of in the state. I'm hoping to get an internship with them next summer. I'm probably way too excited that you work with kids. lol

MarriedInAFever

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Age Poll : Cool, can I ask what he wants to do when he's done?  I'm hoping to start on my MSW next year.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

He wants to counsel returning veterans. He's a vet and also works at the local VA hospital.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]That's good to know J&K. We only have 1 residential treatment center that I know of in the state. I'm hoping to get an internship with them next summer. I'm probably way too excited that you work with kids. lol
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]

I could tell you story upon story to make you not so excited about that ;)

allisong23

37
37
No kids, but we are working on it.

J&K, i admire you so much. I have two friends with young children with severe emotional problems (they were both diagnosed as bipolar very young, with PTSD thrown in there). One is in a residential setting, and the other has been in the past. I know how hard it is for their moms, so I can only imagine what it must be like with a bunch at the same time.

J&K10910

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Age Poll : He wants to counsel returning veterans. He's a vet and also works at the local VA hospital.
Posted by MarriedInAFever[/QUOTE]

Hey, that's cool!  I bet that will be a really tough job.  I'm sure the veterans will be happy to be able to talk to someone that can relate.