Is this where we go if we are a pissed off bride?

burgergrl84

Cause I'm mad. Actaully, I'm over it.

ricksang

What's wrong?

LesPaul

Depends what you're pissed off about.

paprika28

Share with the class, please.

Wrkn925

Nope, wrong board.

deepcovejackie

Generally no, but what's the matter?  All of us are pissed off every now and then.  Can we help?

burgergrl84

My fiances parents are horrible idiots. First, they refused to even contribute a dime to the wedding or rehearsal dinner and now they are dragging their feet on the guest list. I was over the money thing, but damn. It's like they don't want us to get married or something.

betrothed123

Yes, absolutely vent here.  Maybe we can give you some advice.

burgergrl84

@kodakitty - I'm still mad. I just meant I'm over the whole wedding. Too much stress.

[Deleted User]

You're mad but over it? How do you accomplish this?

Also, get over it. It's not their job to pay for your wedding. It makes no sense to be mad at something that was never owed to you in the first place.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

This is "Snarky Brides," not "Pissed Off Brides."

Also, no one is under any obligation to pay for your wedding or rehearsal.  Either pay for it yourself, scale it back or elope.  And if they're dragging their feet on the guest list then hey, they mustn't care if anyone comes.  Welcome to the 21st century, toots.

Congrats on the engagement!  WOO WOO

Wrkn925

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[QUOTE]My fiances parents are horrible idiots. First, they refused to even contribute a dime to the wedding or rehearsal dinner
<strong>
You can't be mad about that.
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and now they are dragging their feet on the guest list.

<strong>You're paying for the wedding, you make the guest list.  Give a due date for their suggestions.
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I was over the money thing, but damn. It's like they don't want us to get married or something.
Posted by burgergrl84[/QUOTE]

LesPaul

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[QUOTE]My fiances parents are horrible idiots. <strong><em>First, they refused to even contribute a dime to the wedding or rehearsal dinner</em></strong> and now they are dragging their feet on the guest list. I was over the money thing, but damn. It's like they don't want us to get married or something.
Posted by burgergrl84[/QUOTE]

You won't get any sympathy here on this count.  Plan and pay for the wedding you and FI can afford yourselves.  If parents offer to contribute, accept the gift graciously.

Nebb

*yawn* take a number sweetheart.

SarahPLiz

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[QUOTE]My fiances parents are horrible idiots. First, they refused to even contribute a dime to the wedding or rehearsal dinner and now they are dragging their feet on the guest list. I was over the money thing, but damn. It's like they don't want us to get married or something.
Posted by burgergrl84[/QUOTE]

<div>If YOU want to get married, then buck up and pay for it like adults. Don't expect others to pay your way in life, or you will be severely disappointed. </div>

emarston1

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[QUOTE]My fiances parents are horrible idiots. First, they refused to even contribute a dime to the wedding or rehearsal dinner and now they are dragging their feet on the guest list. I was over the money thing, but damn. It's like they don't want us to get married or something.
Posted by burgergrl84[/QUOTE]
Just because they don't contribute, it doesn't make them horrible idiots.  Or even idiots for that matter.  It means they can't/don't want to spend the money which is their decision.

Plan the wedding you can afford.

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]My fiances parents are horrible idiots. First, they refused to even contribute a dime to the wedding or rehearsal dinner and now they are dragging their feet on the guest list. I was over the money thing, but damn. It's like they don't want us to get married or something.
Posted by burgergrl84[/QUOTE]
You sound sweet.

How dare they not pay for the RD?!?!  Don't they know their responsibilities?  They HAVE to pay for the RD.  If they don't want to invite anyone, looks like you get twice the number of guests, huh?

burgergrl84

I thought parents were supposed to pay for weddings. My parents are paying for a ton of stuff. I just figured his parents would too. When we asked, they said no. It was hurt at first because I took it personally. I'm okay with it now. I just wish they were as excited about it as we are.

ricksang

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[QUOTE]My fiances parents are horrible idiots. First, they refused to even contribute a dime to the wedding or rehearsal dinner and now they are dragging their feet on the guest list. I was over the money thing, but damn. It's like they don't want us to get married or something.
Posted by burgergrl84[/QUOTE]

When are you getting married?

Kate C

 Ok so with the economy they way it is, do you want short term happiness or long term, because if thier contribution made them broke, and they had to move in, I would be bitching more about them having finacial issues being irresponsible with thier retirement and sponging off of you.
So lets not get all WE bride about this and count some freakingblessings.

burgergrl84

They don't talk to me. Like not at all. I think they do it on purpose, but it sucks. They also make it a point to get his sister way bigger gifts than they get him. It's strange. My parents always worked hard to make things even for me and my sister, but they don't. They gave his sister a lap top and he got a gift card to target.

They also introduce me as Jeff's friend instead of his fiancee. I feel like they are trying to send us a message.

deepcovejackie

Yeah, your FI's parents aren't idiots because they said "no" to your (rude) request of money.  You need to pay for the wedding, and have the event you can afford.  Then, ta da, you can give a deadline for the guestlist.  You're wedding is in 2012 anyway, you're way ahead of yourself.  You probably look way over the top to them.

I don't know what happened at Christmas, so I cant comment on that.

Nebb

haha just because they dont like you, doesnt make them idiots.

Anysunrise

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[QUOTE]I HATE to ask this, but how old are you?
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

<div>Hah, I was going to ask this too. I'm 20 and I'm paying for, at the very least, half of the wedding. We don't know if our parents are contributing anything yet, so I very well might end up paying for all of it.</div>

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]I HATE to ask this, but how old are you?
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

This!

burgergrl84

Like I said, I'm over the money thing! I'm just frustrated with them in general.

@number55 - I'm 23 and he is 27.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Burger chick, get your shiit straight.   I'm only about one Benjamin.  I'm not a slut.

Also just because everyone else had their weddings paid for doesn't mean much.  Weddings are not tit for tat.  Plus maybe all the parents are broke now anyway.

Open a high interest money market savings account and start clipping coupons.

emarston1

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[QUOTE]They don't talk to me. Like not at all. I think they do it on purpose, but it sucks. They also make it a point to get his sister way bigger gifts than they get him. It's strange. My parents always worked hard to make things even for me and my sister, but they don't. They gave his sister a lap top and he got a gift card to target. They also introduce me as Jeff's friend instead of his fiancee. I feel like they are trying to send us a message.
Posted by burgergrl84[/QUOTE]
How long have you been with your fiance?  Have you spent much time with them?

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]haha just because they dont like you, doesnt make them idiots.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]
Uh.. yeah, that.  OP- You're confusing "Don't like me" with "idiot."  I can see how that could happen, since the two sound exactly the same and all.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

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[QUOTE]Anyone smell that? It's the smell of skepticism.
Posted by LessThanZero[/QUOTE]

Kinda smells like hard boiled eggs. 

[Deleted User]

I'm surprised you would even ask them since they so clearly hate you. Why would someone pay for their son's wedding when they despise the bride? And when said bride thinks they are horrible idiots?