Are we AYG'ing today?

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we AYG'ing today? : You do have the right to respond, Brandi, but when people are just mocking you or just saying they don't like you, what are you hoping to gain by responding to them? If I say "Nebb has been kind of an ass lately." And Nebb responds, "How?? Point out in specific threads where I came across as an ass," do you see how that could be kind of annoying? It just seems like that's what you do every time anyone says anything about you.
Posted by NicoleSahara[/QUOTE]

OK- you make a point. I hadn't seen it that way from that perception.  Which is what I'm trying to gain from asking those questions.   When I ask why people think I'm stupid, it's not because I'm trying to start conflict, but rather because I want to know how  things are being perceived that way. If that makes sense at all.  Everyone here is so different that their perceptions will be different.  People take things differently than others, and differently than perhaps how they come out.  A major fault  of mine is speaking (typing) before thinking, and not taking the time to articulate exactly what I mean about things.   People can lurk on the boards all day long and try to get an idea of people, but you only really know what is/isn't acceptable once you start posting, IMO.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we AYG'ing today? : The people who it gets made a big deal about are the people who talk about it a lot.  Chels, Midge, etc.  I mentioned that we were waiting like once or twice when it came up; I didn't find a way to bring it up seemingly as often as possible.  I think if people don't want people commenting on their sex lives they should not bring them up.  
Posted by djhar[/QUOTE]

I have no idea what you said right there

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]I for one want to know when Im being annoying.  So I can try not to be annoying.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree with this.  Some people say not to change just because people tell you what you are doing is annoying but if someone said "we get it" about something I was doing I would probably think twice about posting about that so I wasn't being annoying. </div><div>
</div><div>I didn't want to be pegged as someone who only talked about running so I tried to stop posting about that all the time before it became a "We get it"</div><div>
</div><div>Also people have great TK memories on here. If you do something dumb, just because you haven't in a week doesn't mean people won't still think about the dumb thing you did. </div>

Nebb

See. Brandi and chels are the same person. They even make the same excuses!

sweetredhead

In Response to Re:Are we AYG'ing today?:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Are we AYG'ing today?:This isn't necessarily an attack at anyone specific despite what I said lastnight but how fucking hard is it to make decisions for wedding stuff? Its not fucking rocket science. Be an adult, make a god damn choice and stfu about it. Its not that hard!! I managed to plan my entire wedding without conferring with a message board regarding every minute detail which might need a decision. Good lord!Posted by NebbI'm guilty of asking questions.nbsp; I didn't realize that it was that frowned upon so I will cease from doing that.nbsp; It was just the appeal of those who have already experienced. Sorry! Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

I know I'm behind but I flame this. It reminds me of a 10 year old pouting. Ask your questions or not. But don't throw a fit of self pity just because someone says a general stfu about all the wedding details.

Matty143

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we AYG'ing today? : That was FFF, and <strong>I think you misunderstood.  Someone said she was so AWish about her wedding just because she was excited for sex.</strong>  RP's comment was just "That's because she's choosing to wait til now to have sex."  Unless you're referring to a different thread entirely.
Posted by djhar[/QUOTE]

That's how I read it, and it was funny.

jennamarie10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we AYG'ing today? : Really?  That's dumb.  I'd probably not post anything ever if I was trying to not annoy anybody.
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

I don't care about annoying people. I was more or less really lately agreeing that I'm on Dmills side on this one. that's all.

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we AYG'ing today? : You have mentioned this before.  I don't understand how that is supposed to impact my perception of you exactly.  Am I supposed to read everything you say with the idea that you didn't mean it you were just typing too fast? 
Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]

No, it is me acknowledging that I am at fault for doing that and working to stop before hitting submit more.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we AYG'ing today? : I don't care about annoying people. I was more or less really lately agreeing that I'm on Dmills side on this one. that's all.
Posted by jennamarie10[/QUOTE]

If you are not posting because certain people say stuff is annoying, then I would venture to say that you DO care about annoying people.

NicoleSahara

Since you mentioned it Brandi, couldn't help but think of you and Chels when I saw this today. I know everyone does it sometimes but you are the ones that keep saying it about yourselves.

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]Since you mentioned it Brandi, couldn't help but think of you and Chels when I saw this today. I know everyone does it sometimes but you are the ones that keep saying it about yourselves.
Posted by NicoleSahara[/QUOTE]

I amost made this my sig a week ago. But I figured I would get flamed for the rest of time and didn't.

NicoleSahara

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we AYG'ing today? : I amost made this my sig a week ago. But I figured I would get flamed for the rest of time and didn't.
Posted by brandichamberlain[/QUOTE]

Ha I was going to tell you you could use it as your sig if you wanted :)

avsfan33

I don't understand the excuse "I dont think before I speak/type". You obviously do. You're on a message board. You HAVE to think about what you're typing as you're typing it. If you don't want people to think you're a complete idiot, think about your posts before posting it. I don't know how many times I've seen regs post this advice to the same people over and over and they still don't get it. I just find that excuse to be a way of back-pedalling.

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]I don't understand the excuse "I dont think before I speak/type". You obviously do. You're on a message board. You HAVE to think about what you're typing as you're typing it. If you don't want people to think you're a complete idiot, think about your posts before posting it. I don't know how many times I've seen regs post this advice to the same people over and over and they still don't get it. I just find that excuse to be a way of back-pedalling.
Posted by avsfan33[/QUOTE]

<div>It seems like an inability to see how posts can be interpreted in many ways, positive and negative. Lack of clarity etc. I also think the excuse is old and overused. </div>

Nebb

In Response to Re:Are we AYG'ing today?:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we AYG'ing today?:I don't understand the excuse "I dont think before I speak/type". You obviously do. You're on a message board. You HAVE to think about what you're typing as you're typing it. If you don't want people to think you're a complete idiot, think about your posts before posting it. I don't know how many times I've seen regs post this advice to the same people over and over and they still don't get it. I just find that excuse to be a way of backpedalling.Posted by avsfan33It seems like an inability to see how posts can be interpreted in many ways, positive and negative. Lack of clarity etc. I also think the excuse is old and overused.nbsp; Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]
That's bunk. I know when I'm being stupid, mean, inflammatory, whatever. Unless you're seriously dense, I don't see how that's a plausible excuse.

Smash Adams

"I don't think before I post" is clearly just an excuse for "Once people decide they don't like what I've said, I'll apologize and backpedal."

And I mean this generally.

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we AYG'ing today? : With more brain power and less rambling, I can sum it up - if you don't want people on TK talking about it being your first time on your wedding night, don't mention the fact that you're waiting in approximately 200 threads.
Posted by djhar[/QUOTE]

I smell what you are steppin in now

[Deleted User]

I am one of the worst "speak before you think" kind of people. It's one reason why I don't talk much, because I take time to process what I want to say. I get that. But on TK? You can edit to your heart's content. I edit my posts constantly. So there's no excuse for that.

I don't get the midge thing. I rarely saw her talk about the sex thing unless someone else mentioned it or joked about it (unless I missed a lot of times where she randomly mentioned it). And I don't get why people were so annoyed with her excitement. It's a wedding website. People are excited to get married. Just ignore it instead of making someone feel bad about being excited (I don't know that she was, or that she even saw it, but I'd imagine that's what it would accomplish).

Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Are we AYG'ing today?: That's bunk. I know when I'm being stupid, mean, inflammatory, whatever. Unless you're seriously dense, I don't see how that's a plausible excuse.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

<div>Huh? I think we are on the same page for the most part. </div>

brandichamberlain

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[QUOTE]"I don't think before I post" is clearly just an excuse for "Once people decide they don't like what I've said, I'll apologize and backpedal." And I mean this generally.
Posted by Smash Adams[/QUOTE]

I think mine is more of a let me try to explain that better than I'm sorry for saying it.  I took my flames about some opinions that I have and never took them back, but rather tried to clarify exactly what I was saying rather than a 5 word sentence, if that makes sense.

jennamarie10

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[QUOTE] Jenna, I'm confused.  You first said you don't post b/c the topic isn't Nebb approved and then say you're on DMil's side...which is the opposite side.
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

Sorry. I just meant I'm on her side to the extent I think it sucks to come into a thread and tell people what they are talking about is stupid. Just skip over it. But I already see how this is a total circle, because, alas, I could just skip over the "I hate hearing about jewelry" posts. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" /> TK Semantics!

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we AYG'ing today? : You say her name one more time and she is gonna pop in here.  You know cause it's Wednesday. 
Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]
Hi! I'm nosy, it's slow today and I haven't been around for a few days. So yes I'm here. I feel so special that you thought of me! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue Out" title="Tongue Out" /> 

Blueyed228

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we AYG'ing today? : Hi! I'm nosy, it's slow today and I haven't been around for a few days. So yes I'm here. I feel so special that you thought of me!   
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

I knew there was no way you would let an AYG happen without you popping in to say something idiotic.

maratea

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we AYG'ing today? : I knew there was no way you would let an AYG happen without you popping in to say something idiotic.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]
She's bordering on Mery territory, showing up after the thread is dead. 2 hours longer and it would have been perfect.

Blueyed228

Dont worry guys.  Im sure she will come back letting us know she is going to "work on it"

LDYGTR13

I didn't realize it was dead. I don't pay attention to time stamps. My bad. It was AYG, I can't believe it died before 2:30 my time. Should I work on that?

I dont understand why what I said was idiotic, but that's cool. 

Blueyed228

Ok LDY

Bkseller13

Damn y'all for having AYG on a day when I have shiznit to get done and make me miss putting out my AYGs, other than the chick from ML telling everyone to come over here and "Go bite" Nebb.  FFS, if it ain't your battle, stay the hell out of it.  I think that applies to a bunch of other topics floating around in here. 

Bkseller13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we AYG'ing today? : Vagueknotting?
Posted by djhar[/QUOTE]

Nah, just too damn lazy to type it all out, and not wanting to jump into the middle of a "fight" that I don't have a stake in.  But, since you asked, people weighing in on Brandi, or Midge, or Blue vs. Dmill vs. Nebb vs. Dot. 

chelseamb11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are we AYG'ing today? : With more brain power and less rambling, I can sum it up - if you don't want people on TK talking about it being your first time on your wedding night, <strong>don't mention the fact that you're waiting in approximately 200 threads.
</strong>Posted by djhar[/QUOTE]

Late to the game here.  I can't speak for Midge because I honestly haven't noticed, but that's a pretty harsh exaggeration to say I talk about my waiting "a lot"  or in 200 threads.  I can't even remember the last time I brought it up (easily was last fall I think?) and even then,I wasn't beating a dead horse about it.  I maybe mentioned it once or twice (similar to yourself).  Any other time was someone asking me about it in one way, shape or form.  I don't care if people bring it up (because like you said, I put it out there) but the bolded is a HUGE stretch to make.