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a_cianflone
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How can you explain in a nice way?
Ok so my FH's Brother is getting married in june and we are getting married in september. Their wedding is their own very informal BBQ type. Our wedding is very upscale and classy. We have pretty much the same guest list except our is higher. How do i explain on my invitation that it is very formal in a nice way?
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Re: How can you explain in a nice way?
[QUOTE]Ok so my FH's Brother is getting married in june and we are getting married in september. Their wedding is their own very informal BBQ type. Our wedding is very upscale and classy. We have pretty much the same guest list except our is higher. How do i explain on my invitation that it is very formal in a nice way?
Posted by a_cianflone@live.com[/QUOTE]
You don't
People should be able to figure it out on their own
Many guests will look up the wedding venue to get an idea of how to dress. Word of mouth by your mom and bridesmaids is a good starting point too. People can mentioned in casual conversation you are having a more formal wedding and leave it at that.
RAWR!
[QUOTE] If you are doing a true black tie affair, or if your venue has dress code rules, you are allowed to inform them of this. Otherwise, you can't. It is inappropriate to tell guests how to dress. Many guests will look up the wedding venue to get an idea of how to dress. Word of mouth by your mom and bridesmaids is a good starting point too. People can mentioned in casual conversation you are having a more formal wedding and leave it at that.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]
... or this
Most people realize that no 2 parties are the same, so I bet most of your guests will not just assume you're having an uber informal wedding just because you FBIL is.
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
RAWR!
I just want to say the ratio of cake to frosting in your sig pic kind of grosses me out. I mean I eat cake to taste both cake and frosting, not just frosting.
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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Your guests should get the hint from your invitations and just from knowing where you're having your wedding. Either way, please don't stress out. My guess is, you'll be having such a blast on your wedding day, you won't notice if uncle George is wearing jeans or that cousin Emily's skirt is a little too short...
OP, the best way to do this is in poem format.
Hello to all our guests,
We hope you can come to our party.
You may have been to BIL's wedding
with cheap food and no Bacardi.
But our shindig will be different,
Please dress to the nines.
This isn't the Beverly Hillbillies
so tuxes and formal gowns will be fine.
RAWR!
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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[QUOTE]Oh yeah, don't make me pull out the pic and story of Uncle Bob to prove how little guest attire will matter to you after the wedding. Just trust me that after the wedding you won't give a rat's ass what anyone wore to your wedding.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]
My dad wore Crocs to my wedding reception at the nicest country club in town. Granted, I live in West Bumblefuck so "nicest country club in town" means the one with indoor plumbing, but still.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How can you explain in a nice way? : My dad wore Crocs to my wedding reception at the nicest country club in town. Granted, I live in West Bumblefuck so "nicest country club in town" means the one with indoor plumbing, but still.
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
I don't even know where to begin with Uncle Bob. He is a mess... a huge mess. He bought himself a brand new sweat suit for our wedding (yes, he bragged to me about it right after the ceremony. He got it at the Family Dollar.)
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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Am I a bad bride because I really couldn't care less what people dress like at my wedding?
[QUOTE]Am I a bad bride because I really couldn't care less what people dress like at my wedding?
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
No, you're just lacking the entitlement chip in your robot brain. ;)
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How can you explain in a nice way? : I don't even know where to begin with Uncle Bob. He is a mess... a huge mess. He bought himself a brand new sweat suit for our wedding (yes, he bragged to me about it right after the ceremony. He got it at the Family Dollar.)
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]
Hell to the yes. I love this.
[QUOTE]Am I a bad bride because I really couldn't care less what people dress like at my wedding?
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
What if I wore those splatter paint cheerleading shorts and matching hoodie we saw at the mall?
Would it be safe to assume that people will look up the venue (or know of the venue) and just know that it is a formal wedding?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How can you explain in a nice way? : What if I wore those splatter paint cheerleading shorts and matching hoodie we saw at the mall?
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
I would honestly love this. That is the best outfit ever. But only if we could matching hightops for you to wear with it.
But, you could always have an insert in your invites that reads "No Shoes, No Shirt, No Open-Bar"
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How can you explain in a nice way? : Hell to the yes. I love this.
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
Haha! Maybe someday I'll post the whole story of Uncle Bob on here. It's highly entertaining. He certainly made our wedding even more memorable than it would have otherwise been.
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
my read shelf:
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
my read shelf:
[QUOTE]But, you could always have an insert in your invites that reads "No Shoes, No Shirt, No Open-Bar"
Posted by xoxob[/QUOTE]
Win.
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko